If a girl doesn't respond to your text...

[Anonymous]

Hey guys, if a girl doesn't respond to the text you send her one day, do you text her again the next day? Or maybe again later that night?

I'm interested in this guy but I think he's got too comfortable with our hanging out / dating situation. He's just not trying hard at all and I want him to step up his game. So my friend said I need to play hard to get so he misses me. I always respond to his messages. Well, tonight, he texted me and asked what I'm up to and I'm tempted to completely ignore him. Is this a good idea? Or should I just wait a few hours and respond? Obviously, I'm not really good at this.

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Wow, thanks for all the responses! I followed all of the advice and texted him. The initial conversation was bland and died down but I didn't give up and it actually turned out to be the best conversation we've ever had via text.. It became very flirty and ended really well. I'm happy... and I'm going to think positive.

[JayCutler]

this is a mind game and stupid to me honest..most guys get turn off real fast by this and I can assure you girls do too. I know cause I'm going through the same damn thing..she started to ignored my text but we would still talk but very limited so now I'm completely turn off by her and starting to see her in a different way now..like I don't try so hard to talk to her or trying to get to know her anymore..

[Asker]

Well he and I are in the same group so we see each other a lot. I've never not responded. I treat him with the utmost courtesy... make plans ahead of time and what not. But, he does not. I feel like he only texts me when he doesn't have anything else going on. Yet, he tells people he really enjoys hanging with me and will take me out to dinner. I feel like he's wavering on whether we should date or not. It's beyond frustrating.

[NothingGoldCanStay]

God that sh*t is annoying. Don't do it. I have broken up with a couple girls because they don't reply to my text fast enough. It makes the guy feel undervalued and at least for me I have a lot of ego/pride so any girl that leaves me hanging will probably get the curb pretty soon. He text because he wants to talk to you, if you don't want to text him back maybe you are not that into him.

[Asker]

Actually, I am really into him but he's not making me a priority at all. He doesn't call me ever. He only texts the day he wants to hang out at 7 pm. I feel like he's the one playing all the mind games. He acts like he's interested, we hang out and then he goes days without texting me. I really don't want him to think he can just text me whenever and I'll come running. He should be respectful. I feel like he's wavering on whether we should date or not. That is why I want him to miss me.

[john5246]

yeah 24hrs if they continually ignore you just move on, I do the same with everyone now, guys girls, animals doesn't matter, f-ck em I got better sh-t to do

[Anonymous]

If people don't reply to my text I just stop texting them. Even my good friend for some reason (maybe busy with work) doesn't return some of my texts, as if it's not even worth a reply. So I just stop texting him.

I always try to reply to people's messages within 24hrs. Anyone who can't show some common courtesy and do that doesn't belong in my contacts. I even went as far as deleting one of my best friends numbers, if he wants to call/text it's all him.

[TheRealAttila]

Yeah I don't deal with this either. If she doesn't respond, ill wait three days, then a week, then it's over. High school hard to get tactics lose their effectiveness after graduation.

[guy532]

If a girl doesn't respond, I won't text her again until she does (unless I absolutely need to). I'll go as long as possible, weeks if I have to...I will win.

[Nyc10001]

If you don't respond I won't text back and I consider it a turnoff. Playing mind games is the quickest way to lose a guy. It gets tiresome.