Can men fake attraction?

[Anonymous]

Can men still have s*x with you and not fancy you? I mean is a guy capable of having sex with you every day but not really fancying you?

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But does it mean he doesn't find her attractive? even if he C*ms?

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Thanks for all your honesty guys. Really appreciate it.


So men can fake it regularly? Do you think men can be in love and still fake it because they just don't fancy you anymore?

[Anonymous]

Yes. Our sex drive is unrelated to our willingness to tolerate someone we don't like, within reason. For men, gaining access to sex requires a LOT of work. We are often willing to tolerate bad behavior on the part of the woman, or just plain lack of interest in her personality or find her boring in exchange for sex. That's not always the case. What can a girl do? Try to be as interesting, caring and loving as possible. Doing so will help him see you as more than just a good lay.

[Asker]

you mean you don't even have to fancy the girl to c*m?

[Opinion Owner]

Update: As long as you meat a minimum level of physical attractiveness, we can get it up and cum. If you are really ugly, then no, we won't be able to fake it. Our bodies will be repulsed and there won't be any blood going to the penis. Once again, both cases are within reason.

[Asker]

So a guy could be having s*x with you every day and c*mming but not really fancy you. Basically you are just a hole for his P*nis . How do you know if a guy does genuinely fancy you then?

[Opinion Owner]

Fancy isn't the right word for it. As long as we aren't seriously turned off by her naked body, all we need is friction on our penis. Enough friction will create ejaculation, which is just like masturbating with our hand. In this case, the girl's vagina if we don't find her very attractive can still act as a masturbating instrument because of the friction. As long as we won't lose the hard on from her looks (she would have to be really fat or ugly for most men) to do this.

[Asker]

so the main turn offs for a man is being too fat to f*ck or too ugly? Anything else, average, clean, good looking, does it?

[Opinion Owner]

Are you doubting that a man you've slept with actually finds you attractive? I'm trying to get to the bottom of your question.

And yes, for some men, a woman can be like a masturbatory device. He might not tell her that he doesn't find her attractive, as it serves no purpose. She gets her feelings hurt, he feels like a bad guy, and probably she cuts off sex with him. All parties lose.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, as long as you aren't super ugly (very, very, very, few girls are born really ugly) or really fat (four or five rolls on your tummy), most men will find you attractive naked. There will be different degrees of attractiveness based upon whether you meet his preferences (small boobs vs big boobs, etc.) but he'll be at least decently attracted to you if you don't have one or two of the major flaws, that is massively overweight, or a seriously ugly face, tons of scars, or some other deformity.

[Asker]

I'm just curious to know if my boyfriend finds me attractive or am I just a M*sterb*ting too. I am just curious really. It's an interesting topic. Women can fake it and nobody knows but men can't fake C*mming and I just wanted to know if they didn't fancy their partner would they just go to a happy place in order to c*m. Can a guy still love a girl and not fancy her?

[Opinion Owner]

Assuming you aren't really ugly (odds are you aren't, but with no picture posted in this question, I'm going to just assume so for the sake of discussion) or really fat (we're talking 30lbs + overweight) that he finds you body attractive. He's getting a hard on without much trouble, isn't he? If so, your body is exciting him and he can't control that. It means he thinks your hot. And yes, a guy can still love a girl's personality even if he doesn't fancy her. They are exclusive to each other.

[Guysensei]

i have never tollerated or put lots of work like you say.. don't generalize what's true for you isn't true for everyone.

[Asker]

No I'm not ugly and I'm not really fat. He gets a hard on easily. Although he has said that if he wants sex for a second time in one day he would have to think of the girls from p*rn movies. That is complete honesty for you but it just got me thinking. Can a relationship last without physical attraction? Before this I thought he must find me attractive since we have sex at least once a day but not I'm not so sure.

[Opinion Owner]

re update - A guy wants to be attracted to the girl he loves. If he loves her a lot, he might be willing to continue faking it in the attraction department to spare the girl's feelings. A guy just can't come out and say "you're not what I really want to see naked". It serves no purpose. Sex still feels good with someone that isn't all that attractive, but you still share an emotional bond. Sex isn't just about cumming for guys. Yes, we want to like your body, but that's not all.

[Opinion Owner]

Men like sexual variety, which can come with p*rn or just imaging a girl from p*rn. It is unrelated to his attraction to your body. A relationship can't last on looks alone. The girl has to bring other traits to the table such as a personality and a little smarts. Porn, if taken in excess, can be very addicting and actually dull the attractiveness in the mind of a man for a real woman naked in his bed. If you're concerned, you should study up on p*rn addiction and see if your boyfriend is.

[Asker]

My boyfriend says he loves everything about me but on the occasion when I want to have sex more than once in a day he says he would have to think of p*rn in order to come again. does that mean I am not hot enough for him to c*m twice in one day?

Also I know sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship, it's just one aspect.

[Opinion Owner]

No, it means his balls need to recharge. It takes a day or two for a man to build up a full load. Going at it multiple times in one day is going to produce some small loads of cum.

As for this...

"I think it's not that hard to get a girl into bed if the guy is clever. Most men know what most women want to hear."

Absolutely wrong on all counts. The men you've slept with (and that other girls have slept with) are the ones that are good with women. They are a minority.

[Opinion Owner]

There are millions of involuntary male virgins at age 25, whereas there is no such thing as an involuntary female virgin at the same age, even if she is really fat or ugly. There's always going to be a really desperate guy that will sleep with her. Combined with the fact a minority of guys sleep with a majority of women, it isn't easy to get women into bed.

[Asker]

So it could just be a case of biology and nothing to do with being unattractive. Could he easily c*m twice if I was say Angelina Jolie?

So most men can't get a women into bed?

[Opinion Owner]

No, balls need time to recharge, no matter who's in bed with them. Sperm production isn't like popping in a microwave meal and 3 minutes later it is done. It is a time consuming process which is why men want to fall asleep after sex many times.

Most men struggle to get women into bed, or the men will greatly lower their standards to do so. Human genes show that we are descended from twice as many women as we are men, meaning that throughout history, many men go without, like it or not.

[Asker]

Ok so a guy needing to re-charge is nothing to do with a womans looks. This doesn't really relate to sex but If a guy is really full on. Wants you to move in after a couple of months, already talking about marriage, children and your life together. Is it because he has been single for a long time before me and just doesn't want to be single again or is it because he does love me?

I know which one I would rather believe but I am honest with myself. I am not deluded.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, it is good that you admit it is hard to really tell one way or the other.

He could be option one or option 2 that you painted out below.

If you really want the best advice, you need to create a whole new question and post every single detail about your relationship and both of your past histories to get the best possible clue to see how true his love is for you. You'll get more advice and broader advice. :)

[Guysensei]

QA, this guy has no clue what he's talking about... I skimmed hsi comments and its obvious there's a huge lack of knowledge...

[Cryostatic]

No, it doesn't mean he doesn't find her attractive. Men find ~any~ woman who isn't morbidly obese or filthy or hideous attractive to at least some extent, even if only for the value of her girlie parts. And the slightest bit of attraction is all a horny man needs.

[Cryostatic]

Update: You don't realize how easy it is for a guy to come. We're not like women, we can get off with minimal stimulation in a matter of minutes.

If a guy can come by rubbing his **** with his hand, he's going to come when he's having sex with a woman. Even if she's ass-ugly, all he has to do is picture whatever he normally pictures when masturbating, and it'll happen.

[Anonymous]

Yes they can,but only for one reason,pleasure.For sure not ALL guys are like this but I bet many aren't very picky when comes to casual sex.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Men find about 80% of women to be f***able, but only about 20% attractive.

[-0x0-]

I've certainly gone with girls I didn't fancy- if they fancy me and come onto me and there's nothing else going on...sometimes I go along with it.

[Asker]

that is depressing. Would you enter into a relationship with a girl you didn't fancy ?

[Cryostatic]

Guys will ~totally~ enter into "relationships" with girls that they'd like to regularly have sex with, and only for that reason alone. Sex is NEVER a means by which you should determine if a guy cares about you.

[Asker]

so how do you know if he what he wants? what if it is just sex?

[Asker]

So how do you know if he really wants you*

[-0x0-]

yeah sex is meaningless, its the other things in addition to the sex which determine whether its a proper relationship or just sex

[Anonymous]

Oh god yeah. It's easy.

Men invented the term "hate f***ing" for when we're having sex with someone we actually *hate*.

Having sex with someone you don't fancy is easy.

[Guysensei]

def not easy, this guys full of it..

the only way you get close to a girl is showing your soul somewhat, and that is far from easy.

[Opinion Owner]

"So men can fake it regularly?"

Yes.

"Do you think men can be in love and still fake it because they just don't fancy you anymore?"

Sure. If you love her, you'd fake it because you don't want to hurt her feelings.

[Cryostatic]

You don't need to get "close" to a girl in order to stuff your **** into her, and finding a girl who's willing to let you do that isn't exactly hard, especially if it's something they already want.

If it weren't true, there wouldn't be so many women out there crying about how X guy stopped talking to them after they had sex. He got what he wanted and split, how much do you have to care about somebody to do that?

[Opinion Owner]

"def not easy, this guys full of it.."

Just because you find it hard, doesn't mean it's hard.

"the only way you get close to a girl is showing your soul somewhat,"

Oh my God... Showing your soul? What is this, the 14th century?

There are a lot easier ways to get a girl into bed...

[Opinion Owner]

@Cryostatic - Thank you for injecting a bit of common sense, as always.

[Asker]

I think it's not that hard to get a girl into bed if the guy is clever. Most men know what most women want to hear.

[Anonymous]

Yeah most guys will f*** a girl they don't find repulsive just because sex drive in men is very high. Guys don't need strong attraction or emotions, they will still enjoy a good f***.

[shumailkazimi]

yes they can for sure

[Cryostatic]

Certainly.

[Guysensei]

yes, to an extent.

[Guysensei]

@ update. yes that's also possible, although less likely true.