Are men really more “visual” when it comes to attraction?

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FamilyFreud · Accepted Answer

When a man is staring, believe it or not it's often unconscious. The evolutionary mind of a guy is set to fixate attractive women. The reason for that is that our minds associate "attractiveness" with "fertility ", and it has been that way for thousands of years. You can see it as a "scanning" reflex to spot potential mates, which males from many other species also have. The use of it was to promote survival of the species. Although, even if we’re not on the brink of extinction, this behaviour has been passed down from generations to generations through "Natural Selection", from the caveman until now.

This can also be shown in the many speed dating studies conducted. With so little time to dive into interests, values, hobbies, etc. Attractiveness remains the number one factor that will determine if the person wants to proceed to a date beyond the speed dating. Still, men have a higher chance to be interested than women being interested, not because we’re ugly, but because women are less visual than men. If we look at Tinder statistics, men have a way higher "like" frequency than women. All that to show that men are visually more stimulated than women. On the other hand, women are more mentally stimulated than man. This explains why on one hand, male pornography is generally very visual, whereas female pornography is often found in books where women imagine scenarios and sensations. This also explains how a guy gets aroused simply by seeing his partner in her underwear, whereas a female usually takes much more than Calvin Klein’s underwear, but we will not dive into this discussion.

Now, evolutionary psychology is not a reason to be disrespectful, but even the gentlemen of this world will often stare at someone who’s attractive, but will resort to look away when he's consciously aware he's doing it.

Hope this is helpful and interesting!

amandeep017 · Accepted Answer

They are but at the same time they're not just looking for big boobs. Like have you ever noticed that some men would leave right after having sex, like right after they cum they're thinking " Ohh, I gotta get out of here.". Yeah, it's because they don't really like hanging out with them.

Post Nut Syndrome is real af.
Most of the time, men think with their penis and it's not our fault tho. We just have to sleep with you so that we could see for ourselves if we like you or not cause most of the times it's our dicks talking to us

Rocky_Jocky57 · Accepted Answer

Yes and no.

Men, they fall into lust faster, the visual is what drives a man to want to get to know a girl. The gurls personality can also play apart, but mostly, for guys, if she can make his dick rise, she'll do. Thats why you see guys with many types of women, even, if you wonder why he is with.

Women, we are also visual, we usally won't give a guy the time of day if we don't find him to our preferences, however, to want to have sex and be ina relationship, good looks is just PART of the pie. Women, take a lot of emotional and almost spiritual level to how we want to make love with a guy, not just a quick lay. Those who don't fall for peer pressure, want to make sure the guy is worth taking such a hige step.

nella965 · Accepted Answer

I have heard this stereotype a lot that men are more visual. However I am a woman and physical attraction is actually very important to me. I have to be attracted to him up to a 8/10 score in order to have a romantic relationship with him. So I'm just surprised.
On the other hand, I've had guy friends who didn't really need strong physical attraction with their gfs in order to pursue a fulfilling relationship. I think it really ultimately depends on the individual. You can't stereotype gender populations that way.

coachTanthony · Answer

Men are very visual  when it comes to attraction but I don't care how attractive you think you look... if you have an ugly heart then all that goes out the window.

ElissaDido · Answer

I think men are more visual but also men have more relaxed taste in women.

A man can find different types of women attractive and they don't seem to focus a lot on each particular feature but rather on the whole look.
Whereas women, we care less about beauty and are less visual BUT we have stricter taste when it comes to looks.

Apope16 · Answer

Oh god yeah. Visual shit makes me hard as fuck.  Visual, touch. So hot. Sound too.

sejla · Answer

I think men are very visual but I think a large percentage of women are too just more discreet.

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

Somewhat - most of them are, personally I'm not really visual but I know the majority are.

rjroy3 · Answer

Guys and girls both have traits in a priority list that's specific to every type of relationship. The only real difference is the priority order. Guys have looks higher on their list than girls have on their list. Looks are basically top 3 for sexual partners, girlfriends and just dating interests. Looks fall lower when it comes to friends or looking for a woman to be the mother of his future children. But it doesn't fall very far.

For girls it might make top 3 if she's thinking just a one night stand or a friends with benefits. But by and large several other traits are above looks for women. I'd say for the most part girls have specifically physical appearance more like in a Top 5 or Top 7 list. They might have different things they want a guy to have like a height/skintone/deeper voice. Traits that fit a certain category they like, rather than a guy being more good looking than the next. Like a girl will much more likely pick a guy who is more her "type" than to pick a guy who most would say is more attractive but whonisnt her type.

Guys are far more likely to pick a hotter girl over another girl even if that other girl is more his physical type.

ADFSDF1996 · Answer

Indeed we are. Ever wonder why... 1.)  Men get turned on by women in revealing clothes 2.) Men have all kinds of unusual fetishes about women’s bodies (Navel fetish, foot fetish etc). While most women don’t have any unusual fetishes for men’s bodies.  3.)  Statistically men watch porn more than women 4.) Men lust after women’s bodies but women don’t list after men’s bodies. 5.)  Women rarely make the first move on guys 6.) Women don’t ogle men 7.)  Women don’t get wet or sexually aroused by men in revealing clothes. 8.)  Men are more willing to perform oral on women than vice versa. Yeah, in general have done very little to prove that they are just as visual as men are. Except for a few studies here and there. Women are visual just no where near as visual as men are.  A woman’s visual nature is like an amateur BJJ practitioner at a local bjj gym, while a man’s visual nature is like a Olympic gold medalist BJJ practitioner. There’s a big difference there.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

yes... 100% accurate..

guys see better than they can think.

tbh, at the beach or the pool, guys are gonna notice that sexy curvy girl in the bikini before they notice the chubby mom in a one piece wearing a hip wrap.

Women's clothing reveals a lot.. it is made to show off our figures; hips, butts, thighs, boobs, and most of it is tight, so guys can see our lady parts molded in a tight dress.

they will judge and ask out a pretty woman way more than a skinny petite stick girl or chubby girl.

lightbulb27 · Answer

How can we possibly compare to a female, we only know ourselves. As well, I'm not sure if that is "baked" in or if it is cultural training. e. g. an early thing I noticed was "bugs bunnys" girlfriend... check her out... she was HOT!:) It wasn't about her personality, but curves. I responded to that... baked in or trained? I think we are different in that we "objectify" things. Maybe that goes back to our "hunter" type focus? Our common thoughts are "she looks good".
But after we get smacked in the head a few times, we start to wisen up and I've never been drawn to the really attractive ones, I like certain personaities. A very attractive female can bomb out very fast just by talking or how she carries herself. So action and character dominate, but attraction is still of course important.

If a guy says to another guy..."hey my new girl is really smart and kind" everyone assumes she looks homely:) So I'm voting yes on this, but it is more the start, not the only attribute:)

Old_-_Soul · Answer

I am going to give a personal and mixed response.
I read the answer @FamilyFreud gave and very much agree with why men are attracted to certain women more than others.
I am going take the answer to your question to agree on looks being Major in what attracts me, and add the idea of identical twins walking into a room with all things being equal to the eye about them. There is only one difference between them. One is very confident and comfortable with herself and the other is utterly awkward, with no confidence whatsoever. Sitting equal distance from the entrance and equally visible to those in the room; the one who is confident in herself will have more men both eyeing her and moving over to talk with her. Her twin who is awkward will primarily attract guys who want to control her AKA a very unhealthy relationship.

Are men attracted to looks, yes. The looks will catch the eye, the woman's self confidence is what will get her more than a one night stand.

Sensmind · Answer

I honestly have no stats to back it up but my guess is "Yes" - In the analysis of erotica, the belief that men would be more visual, straight into the action whereas women may go for stories with plot, build up to the action then action so that suggests there maybe an appetite for instant visual gratification but with maybe experience?/maturity?/compromise? men go down the road of exploring more patient gratification/exploration/experimentation/attraction principle, many men go on to enjoy that journey.

5points2gspot · Answer

Yes I believe they are.. I was in a store & some guy said I was fine & wanted my # to date me.. Asking questions about me to my roomie if I was single n what not.. But like okay you don't have the slightest idea of my personality.. But you wanna date me? 🙅🏼‍♀️

FakeName123 · Answer

Yes. Man's main purpose in procreation is to find a woman who is healthy and fertily (which is why most men prefer younger women since it combines the two). Judging a womans health and fertility can be done pretty accurately on visual sight.

Women on the other hand do have to worry about protection, providing, etc. - thus their sexual attraction is less visual and also can be influenced. There are several studies showing how social status of a man makes him more or less attractive to women. So does money. Doesn't work the other way around, though. A woman could be a billionaire or a secretary and it makes no difference of her physical attraction to men.

That's also why men consume more visual porn while more women read porn. Erotic novels are pretty much solely purchased by women.

heavensgift2girls · Answer

Men are clearly more visual. Women care about looks too, but they also care about things like his education and job, etc more than men do. Those things don't generally make a woman more attractive to men. This is why women are constantly shocked that her career and income don't make her more attractive to men, the way a career and income make a man more attractive to women.

AlmondSoup · Answer

110% Yes. Initial attraction to a women is 100% visual and physical. After that you can build something emotional within a relationship, but it NEVER works the other way around. We never somehow get emotionally attracted to a girl with no physical attraction then somehow come around. It 100% starts out visual and usually the very first time you see them👍

Oram52 · Answer

Both genders are visual. If women weren't visual then why would male attractiveness have any impact? Wouldn't we see mismatched couples when it comes to looks? Research is also proving it to be true. Online dating is clear proof.

If you adjust for money and status, looks are as important to women as men. Proving women are also visual.

Would you date or hook up with a guy who is considerably less attractive than yourself.

Piteka5 · Answer

Yeah it's true there's still individual differences but overall, it's more women being more psychological than men being visual I would say. Studies show that things like erotic stories have a way greater impact on women, and not on men, for example. Also, when it comes to feeling betrayed, women answer that they feel betrayed I their man thinks of other women, while men say they feel betrayed if their women actually goes out with other men. As always, not everyone will say that, but the results were solid and the studies were published

serious · Answer

Yes we are. We men are visual when it comes to attraction. Anything that doesn’t physically appeal to our eyes and mind we won’t find it attractive.

Sure there will be men who would be exceptions to the above sentence but I am not referring to such men.

hollowo · Answer

Yeah looks do matter, for most of us, as per one's preferences. It's a basic thing to get into someone and then comes interacting to get to know one better.

As always, there are some exceptions as for some people give more preference to how the girl would be as a person.

Impalitteri · Answer

Initial attraction is visual but as @coachTanthony said, once you show that ugly personality your no longer attractive in the slightest. Physical attraction can disappear as quickly as it occurred.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes , she has to catch his attention blown away by her beauty but then it comes down to personality for me if she has an awesome personality that makes her even more hotter if she is a bitch then it makes me less interested , some guys would bang her anyways but I am not like that I need her to be package deal lol

JackSmy · Answer

Maybe some, but I need to know her, and like her, as a person, and that is the best, for me! I care more about what we share together, than any physical things.
Yeah, I'm strange, I know, and I just like being that way, focused on important things.

Anonymous · Answer

Think about it. To get her in the mood for sex, a woman needs foreplay, romantic talk, touching, caressing, etc., before she's really turned.

But for a guy, when his woman gets naked in front of him, that's all he needs. He's ready to get down and dirty right then and there.

Men are more visually stimulated.

crazy8000 · Answer

It's more individual based than gender.

Have stumbled in to more female's then men that are visual first when it comes to attraction. they usually tries to avoid the subject in different ways try to rearrange focus or lie to not look shallow.
Some even go that far since they are afraid of geting cheated on or rejected that they avoid even reject what they find physical attractive.

SaraSmithishere · Answer

I think women are more visual (look at how many colors we know! look how much we love fashion!), but I think we can give a little in the looks department for other qualities like brains, stability, and kindness.

producer · Answer

I say yeah I am more visual and I can say the same for most men because a lot of us wouldn't fuck a fat women. We only get less visual as we realize we aren't as attractive enough to get women we want.

I think women are visual but not as much as men.

I'm pretty below average and some women over time after I've talked to them started taking interest in me

Evil_Laughter · Answer

Based on the profile pictures here, I'd say it's women who are really more visual when trying to be attractive. Also based on what I notice in life.

irielion82 · Answer

Visual is a must but structural physical integrity and mindful passionate understanding is the most important

ecfresh · Answer

In men the amygdala is directly behind the eyes. So yes regarding initial attraction men are much more visual than women In general. That’s science.

Paul09 · Answer

Yes, visual is the first step! Then the personality sets up the rest. You can be the hottest woman alive, but if you have a shitty attitude, that makes her ugly inside, no one wants that. But then again! Women love pretty boys that are bad... Good looking men get away with ugly attitudes, so it seems.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes they are. I think the visual side of them decreases with age though.

Avicenna · Answer

I'm skeptical of that. Women care very much about a guy's looks as well.

RoundJaws · Answer

I won't speak for all of us. But physical and mental attraction or however you want to call the two are both equally important for me. I don't care how shallow it may seem to people and I fully expect to judged the same way.
I know what I like and want. And I feel anyone should not settle for less thsn what they desire in a partner they plan to spend large chunks of their life with.

razelove · Answer

Yes, most definitely. Though women are too. It's the hook before conversation.

BuckWild · Answer

I am personally a big fan of mommy porn. Take that however you want.

Ripper_E · Answer

Both men and women are visual when it comes to attraction. If anything, women are more visual because they have higher standards.

jcampbell115 · Answer

I feel like it goes about the same for each gender, as in searching through dating profiles the first thing to go off is visual attraction. And even in watching people on the street, either are drawn to those we find attractive

loveslongnails · Answer

Are you kidding? Are you KIDDING? uh...… yes, men REALLY are more visual when it comes to attraction, no matter wtf they say.

Scarecrow13 · Answer

I am not so sure. Men acknowledge it more publicly, but listening to women talk in private, I hear more objectification of men from them than I ever hear men objectifying women.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Overall, yes. I am a solid 5. I have dated women whom other guys rate as 9 and above. If these girls were visual I would have zero chance, unless their "visual" is solely height.

Silver158 · Answer

it depends, like I am mostly unable to talk to a girl I find physically attractive. So that's lust for you. But I always end up thinking the most about a girl who I click with on a more personal level regardless of her appearance. Most of these girls I've never looked twice at but after a bit you start to see their personality in their appearance. if you know what I mean?

locoloco68 · Answer

At first yes you always want the prettiest I answered a similar question I said a man should go out get the ugliest Beast possible she would appreciate what she has one that would roll up her sleeves and wait for me to say Sikkim

Mjghost · Answer

Yes! We’re almost all visual. That’s why girls show their stomaches / legs / boobs and it works with their bodies, and everyone likes it. Our bodies aren’t like there.. also that why we like to look at girl’s private areas while we’re having sex. It helps us get more excited.

KingZee · Answer

Definitely yes, as I looked at the question I seen your profile pic and just got lost by them stunning breasts 😮

omarfarra1234 · Answer

yes it's all visual. that's why I fucking hate yoga pants every fucking girl wears them and they make even ugly girls look sex it's just disgusting they are trying to give ever man they walk by a boner or what's the fucking goal there?

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I'm visual at certain times but there is girls who guys turn down
that i find really cute and attractive. Little bit cuteness means lot
to me while other guys think different like oh i wouldn't go for her.

lookin64 · Answer

Men are very visual while women are attracted to both speech and touch

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

Yes I can't speak for every guy but I'm very visual but that just the first step if we're gonna have something serious I need much much more

delagarza · Answer

Yes, I genuinely think they are, not necessarily in a bad way. But I could be talking to a guy and keep eye contact, whereas from past experience they can have a wandering eye.

420cat · Answer

I can't speak for others but as for myself I notice the physical first but if she has a lousy personalty looks mean nothing. I don't want miss america because I'm no Mr universe.

EABsTUQ · Answer

No. There is a difference between I want to date or marry a girl and I want to fuck a girl.

soleil2666 · Answer

I don't think we are, it's another cliché
Women are just as visual, men are just as emotional (given the permission to express it, which is often lacking to maintain another cliché - the iron-ness of men)

genericname85 · Answer

i wouldn't necessarily say that. women are just less likely to admit it.

Manuel2 · Answer

Everyone is visual first when to attraction. No woman alive would not judge a man alone by what he says, and ignore his looks

Budvizer · Answer

Well definitely more visual than women, that's a huge reason why men have a hard time understanding what women are actually physically attracted to.

TallAnon · Answer

Attraction, yes. But that only gets you through the night. Introducing you to my mom is on a whole other level.

Screenwriter · Answer

I've always thought this was bullshit. If it were true, ugly guys would be just as popular as pretty ones, and that's never been true.

Kurodo · Answer

Attraction sure, but I would also say that love would be a separate feeling from that. So make sure you know the difference, since its not always the same.

User_Friendly · Answer

Strip clubs? Porn?  We're worse then dogs 😋

Schloss · Answer

I'd have to say yes. I think it starts with the visuals, but then it moves forward into other aspects of character.

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