Why are men more visual when processing attractiveness?

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Why are men more visual in processing attractiveness?

jalas4612 · Accepted Answer

It's in our genetic makeup and the reason we get blamed for thinking with our second head. Although it is the reason, IT HAS BEEN MADE AN EXCUSE. Its truly something that occurs naturally but can become an issue in a civilized world these days.

It's up to a male to be a gentleman about it and not behave so perverted, shallow and instantaneous when he gets that mental override of the human instinct to multiply. Now days, there are complex intellectual differences and similarities between the two sexes that plays a major role in courting a female. For obvious reasons, a female is much more than a warm hole. Go figure.

At the same damn time. As a dude, I can say,
not all men are shallow. The ones who actively socialize with females in a dating community setting, will either be shallow or quite the opposite of. You will have some dudes who are so prude, they stay single and dont even think like that because they have no deep rooted role in casual sex, let alone be in a position where choosing or refining standards is an option. Dudes would be parallel just as a female would in retrospect to having specific attributes you demand as a minimum standard. The hotter the dude, the hotter the chick. Such is a rule with confidence as it gives platform for the very question of shallowness. You will also have dudes who are in committed relationships and may look occassionally but have a moral obligation to themselves to be a better man. Then like I said, you get the middle, who for whatever reason, has no discipline with that urge, will shop around and choose only females with his specific scope of appearance preferences and before you know it, you got Joe blow, gods gift to women, who will disregard an amazing female with no flaws in her character for a minute detail like how she walks. As you would guess having an ego and dewomanizing behavior, he's always single.

Hope that was long and boring. Killed some time for me and I enjoyed it! Respect G@G fam!!!

MyHonest2Cents · Accepted Answer

It is our instinct to look for someone that can be a healthy potential mate.
Someone that could carry our babies, someone that looks like they are a mother figure a caring type.

In this case without knowing the girl yet, we look at them first (probably why visual comes first).
We look at their face, their body, their puppies and their hip to waist ratio etc., there is no one ideal formula, each men will value each attributes differently based on their culture and race.

After the visual, depending on what kind of relationship we seek.
If we are looking for something long term, then the personality of the girl will matter next.
If it's just for a hook up then skip the above.

Truth is, if men don't find the women sexually attractive, then we won't want to mate with them.
Hence the friend zone kicks in, sounds harsh but it is the same way around for women isn't that right?

mindNsoul · Accepted Answer

I stopped asking why and started to believe people are going to like what are they going to like. And being visual doesn't necessarily translate to bad. It doesn't mean anything. It is just about finding someone who is easy on the eye by your individual standards man or woman. As long as they don't look like a tree monster in your eyes then go for it 😜

Come on we are all visual men and women that's why we have eyes. But what is attractive visually is so subjective. And that's why beauty is in the eye of the beholder 😉

Women are visual too. We just look at different things. I think where you place looks on your list is what is differentiate us as individuals but we all do have it somewhere there.

One last thing, I travel a lot and I know for a fact that the degree of how much a society gives importance to looks is extremely different country to country. Men are not all the same everywhere on the planet! Same goes for women.

Poppykate · Accepted Answer

I think men are more visual... but to a point. But I think other factors come into play! E. g. Barney Stinson’s Hot/Crazy scale... I think men also use other scales too. Hot/Interesting personality scale, Hot/kind scale. Because ladies before you are rude to a waiter, you better be damn sure you are like a 12 on hotness, because that’s the only thing that going to get you on the right side of that line!

Purpleronnie · Answer

Are they? Well maybe , I couldn’t say for sure and I’d rather not. I can speak for me however and while I understand what society seems as attractive may be one type I know that my view is much different and has changed considerably as I have matured. Attractiveness for me is measured taking in the whole , from natural looks to how they present their looks to their character and personality to their attitude and everything in between. Sure I can look at an image of a woman and think “oh she’s very attractive” but give me an hour with her and I could see her very differently. In the same vein I could spend an hour with what society might consider to be a “plain” looking woman and think I love the person they are and want to know more.

Teyfet · Answer

If I had to guess, it is in the nature of a man's biological instinct as (historical) hunters to constantly seek the best targets. For biological reproduction, the best targets are those (women) seen as the most attractive, to better ensure attractive offspring - so the cycle will repeat & your genes will be propagated. (Contrast this with Intelligence, which is a bit more of a crapshoot & can be influenced more by environment.) Even for women, though, visual attraction is (usually) the initial lure (also to produce attractive offspring, as cited above) - other attractions come later.

ThePityPartyGirl · Answer

Women are just as visual or even more I'd say. My guy friends like girls who have a nice personality and a fit body and an ok/average face... for girls we expect more. We want a guy with a hot face, hot body, sexy voice, lean and strong, hairstyle, the way he dresses... along with personality. Girls are very picky

Anonymous · Answer

Women are just as visual, and sexual. Take a look at all of the posts from women sexually frustrated due to lock down. The reason why they appear less sexual is because men are desperate and thirsty so they don't have to make the effort. The reason why they appear less visual is the same as my previous point.

Men are doing all of the work, taking all of the risks, and being thirsty and desperate. Why would a woman have to even worry about showing her interest?

ThiccNigro · Answer

Honestly I dont think that's true. I think women just have more to consider. Men think about personality and looks. Women think about personality, looks, hobbies, job, friends, etc. I think looks matter just as much to women. Just like how a guy won't date a girl he finds unattractive, same goes for women. All the other trivial information just doesn't really matter

Anonymous · Answer

Because us men have a biological urge to spread our seeds. Women don’t have the same urge. Men also usually have higher levels of testosterone which equates to higher sex drives than women.

Thats why us men can find women to be visually attractive and we also get fixated on certain physical traits on a woman, like her navel or booty.

Most women don’t understand this, they’ll automatically assume guys are just perverts, since most women are not biologically wired to find men attractive in a physical sense.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

Not true. Women care more about looks than men due to evolutionary reasons. People usually date people who are attractive to them.

Torari · Answer

Because its in our evolutionary best interest to spread our seed to high genetic quality women. We don't have to worry about whether or not she'll stick around to protect us and raise our child. So the highest priority in our subconscious are visual ques of high quality genes.

While the same is true for women, women also have to considering other factors. As a cavewoman, you could have the baby of the manliest, most genetically gifted stud in the tribe, but it means nothing if he does stick around and protect you. Because you'll die anyway.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

I think that over thousands of years when men has been the leaders/rulers/deciders it made sense for women to find men with chatacter over looks. I think men just didn't need women for survival as for sex. While a woman's survival could depend upon the man having the right chatacter.
Today.. our differences are just that we evolved slightly different. It's highly instinct-based but personality usually wins in the long run.

sensible27 · Answer

Woman care more about looks than men reason bieng evolutionary psychology due to how reproduction in humans work. In the old old days an unhealthy baby basically meant a death sentence, additionally most of the load of caring for the baby lies in the responsibility of the woman. Given that looks are a representation of health you would think it is more important to woman.

AlienParasite · Answer

I feel like both genders are quite visual. Men are either more aware or it, or have more trouble beign subtle about it. While women are either not that much aware of it, or like to be more subtle about it.

This reminds me something a girl friend told me one day, "Girl, if I were a dude I would have a boner almost all the time. How embarrassing! Thank God I'm a woman and it's not that easy to see when I'm excited!"

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Because we wouldn't survive as a species otherwise, its not like women are going to make the first move and when all you have are looks to go on, you have to act on them because your sure as hell not going to get to know her personality from across the room.

JackSmy · Answer

Nature, and Biology! Men are more visual, and it has always been that way since the Hunter/Gatherer days of pre-civilization. Men see shapes and patterns and that is useful in stalking game, with their natural camouflage.
Also, women's bodies, and curves are visually appealing, through evolution, so men want to be with women, and not just leave after the baby is born. Early evolution, but some subtle things still remain, deep in the subconscious.

likelyOK · Answer

It has played to my advantage but I think even God makes mistakes. Bc it hurts a lot of women and then society makes excuses for them as though we are animals and not people who make conscious choices.

Scarecrow13 · Answer

I hear this claim all the time and I don't actually think it's true. Yes, guys will talk about how "hot" a girl is but usually only sometimes. Whereas I will hear ladies talking about how hot all sorts of guys are constantly. So I actually think women are in fact more visual.

Rapidash · Answer

Honestly I think men’s standards are pretty low... women are the picky ones. I am also going to admit that I care about looks and won’t date a person that I am not physically attracted to regardless of how fun their personality is...

Mamamialetmego · Answer

Because we look for fertility signs and women look for survival signs. Fertility signs are all visual signs. But women also look at your character, your attitude and your movements beside your looks. Because a man's masculine, confident attitude is crucial for his survival. Here is detailed article

amandat94132 · Answer

This is not true and no one believed this til John Gray Mars Venus promoted  this myth in the 1990's  Women and men are individuals , limiting people by gender is sexist against both

Flower7 · Answer

That's a very good question. This is a true statement and something that I've noticed also. But not being a man, I'm not in a good position to give an answer to this. I'm not sure what their reason is.

SkipStop · Answer

We are hard-wired this way. A man's job is to find the most beautiful and fertile woman. That requires scanning her visually. A woman's job is to find an alpha male who will fight, gather, and protect her.

Anonymous · Answer

Because looks are all most women have. We don't worry about financial stability, because women don't pay for anything. We don't worry about a sense of humor because we're the ones who are expected to entertain.

So what do we have to go on, other than looks, for judging a woman's attractiveness?

lauraa9963 · Answer

Bc they got in their heads that a girl needs to have big boobs a thin waist blonde hair. Thats the "norm"

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

Women are plenty visual. Isn't visual appearance the basis of attraction?

Tamera952 · Answer

Good question— ask Mother Nature. That’s how they’re hard wired.

WhistleForTheChoir · Answer

They're not really that much, it's just a social message. Although it is true women will date more for status, I think if women of a higher status were willing to date men of a lower status you would see men dating for status too.

Anonymous · Answer

As long as there is pussy and a good face she is attractive to a guy. Guys can see any girl attractive. Girls have higher expectations when it comes to looks.

serious · Answer

That’s how men are. It is natural. Men are hardwired to find beauty, gorgeousness of a woman appealing and attractive.

alice55 · Answer

No idea, personally i feel like I'm more visual than a lot of men.

Anonymous · Answer

They aren't. Women are. If you've a female relative ask her to go stand among her peers & report back about the comments made about an attractive man. It'll be ten pages long.

wisefool · Answer

Men's brains are hardwired to be more visual based because we evolved as hunters.

Browneye57 · Answer

It's the T. They are sexually driven.  A man's brain runs on facts and logic.  A woman's brain runs on feelings and emotions.  And ne'er the twain shall meet. ;)

R3DthatDude · Answer

What makes you think men are more visual? We all are the same on this subject. It’s just a stigma that men are more visual

Dargil · Answer

Our prehistoric purposes were fighting tribal wars, hunting game and identifying fertile females. None of these have changed in 100,000 years.

Ianto · Answer

Because most markers of female breeding success can be assessed visually. Youth, health, symmetry, ... But women are at least as influenced by looks as men, probably more so.

Anonymous · Answer

To me personally you have to be visually attracted to someone to like them romantically however knowing a girls personality can make her more attractive
I'm mainly attracted to faces and hair anything else but health isn't important

randomdudefromnc · Answer

We see how you carry your self and look before the way you are.

Bandit74 · Answer

I don't think that's true. Women seem to judge physical attractiveness more harshly than men do.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Because women like seeing us that way, it flatters them (yes, it does, yes, the vast majority if them other than the freaks).

Anonymous · Answer

I am a woman and I'd say from my experiences we are more visual and judge a guy by his looks. "Is he cute? Is he hot? Describe! Show me a pic of him!!"

Thatsamazing · Answer

Just are. Might as well ask why it rains. It just does.

Gedaria · Answer

Why do you think women go to long lengths to look gorgeous...

Aislin9 · Answer

Society makes excuses for them.

OddBeMe · Answer

Biology most likely. Nature wants us spreading our seed without worry.

esotericstory · Answer

Because we need healthy women to bear children for us.

Yep12345678 · Answer

That's just how our brains are wired. Who knows? A better question would be why are women so attracted to social status?

listener2 · Answer

Psychologist have long documented that men are naturally visual creatures but women go mostly by touch.

Anonymous · Answer

I also mentioned my experiences within group of women 🚺.  I guess you're just jumping to conclusions and bending my words to match stereotypes.

Anonymous · Answer

There is a whole hell of a lot of denial and ignorance in the pink responses to this question. lmao

Anonymous · Answer

If women aren't more visual then why wouldn't it be considered flirting if an ugly guy does it but harassment?

Anonymous · Answer

Your question doesn't make sense. You assume something that is not necessarily true. It's called a strawman argument.

Anonymous · Answer

This is depressing because girls could just or be much more shallow. It just adds to the suicide fuel

Anonymous · Answer

Because sex simply does not work without us getting aroused before hand.

Elliegirl · Answer

That’s just how men are wired, I guess.

Pejtu · Answer

Woman are the same but they will not tell you that

Iron_Man · Answer

Its the nature of the beast

Unknown_User7 · Answer

It's nature I suppose

crmoore · Answer

I'd assume it's due to evolution

AkshiJanjua · Answer

It's same for both genders

Fuentes · Answer

I don't want ugly children

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Here for answers because I don't know. 😅

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