Why do girls turn spiteful when they get rejected?

[Anonymous]

It seems to me girls have a much harder time with rejection than guys. I'm referring to turning down a girl asking you out, or stopping dating a girl that is attracted to you after going out on a date. I'm always very cautious when I reject girls because some turn really mean and aggressive. Could you girls enlighten me and help me understand that ? It's like they get super offended and pissed if a guy say no to them.

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+1 y

thanks for all the answers. it's clear nobody likes to be rejected. Somehow I feel girls take it much harder. May be also because they are the ones used to do the choosing when guys are after them, so having a guy rejecting them is a severe blow to their ego, more severe than for a guy having experienced rejection at least a few times before.

[LuckyBrand]

Yes like what everybody else is saying; it depends on the girl.

Me personally I would get hurt, but I would do much as possible to not show it; just go with the flow and not look back. :) I would hope to be friends with him still even if he rejected me that's if we were friends in the start. Just be mature about it.

Those girls that you've rejected must think they are everything and not understand that everybody does have feelings and you can't force feelings onto someone.

[SimplyLexi]

If I was into this guy and was doing my best to get him to notice me and then he rejected me, I would probably turn on him and try to make him feel bad. Not that I want him to pity date me.. Just so were even. You know? But I wouldn't like.. beat the poor guy up haha

[ryansgirl318]

They feel like you have lead them on. Even if you hadn't. Girls won't make the first move unless she is under the impression you showed interest. She may be mislead, but that is probably how she feels. Don't be offended, but I think that would be how she feels.

[Asker]

that's an interesting answer

[confusedone14]

I think I am dealing with this, a coworker who I now just ignore because I am so fed up with her mind games and gossiping/backstabbing has been getting other coworkers offside with me and I get excluded from some social events because of it, I am married and I have told her this and that we were good Friends so many times, is it my fault that she perhaps mis-read my intentions or maybe she wanted more than Friendship from me, couldn't get it and has just made my life hell ever since, she still has blocked me on Facebook (meh no big deal at all) and only answers some emails I send her, she doesn't want to meet up for a chat and I can't force her too, I don't know if she is just looking for attention from me but she always seem to be around even though I don't talk to her and resent her for her childish actions, not only that I have made some mistakes and tried to make amends but it didn't seem to work, I have no idea what she wants.

[Phoenix1991]

you gotta understand , those type of girls are the egotistical type. I have turned down a couple of women before and those who take it personally are egotistical.

They want to be reminded time after time that they are pretty and good looking, so when they are rejected, they act spiteful/bitchy, It happens.

[Asker]

ye I think they feel like my rejection is a severe blow to their ego and it anger them, like "how dare I hurt their feelings" kinda reaction.

[Mallecroft]

guys do this too. what's going on is that some people are emotionally mature while others are petty and shallow.

[Angiebaby1984]

I am glad you're not Sexist, and closed- minded/ Arrogant. I have to agree with Phoenix too. This has to deal with an " ego" issue. When a guy rejects me, I am able to handle it and move on. My Motto is " There's someone for everyone", if that person doesn't want to balance with you. He isn't the " right" one for you. I think girls who are revengful, and spiteful and malicious are " spoiled". They've probably always been the center of attention, and have probably never been " dumped" before, so.. when they do get " dumped".. they're in " denial" about it, and pretend they don't care but constantly.. still annoy, and bother everyone about it's " rejection" problem. While I was growing up I was the " girl" that got picked out, and de pants in school, and didn't have really that many " close" friendships. I was more independent, and introverted and I am still like that today, and I am quiet. In my past I couldn't get the guys I've liked due to my Race, and living in Minnesota which.. I

[Angiebaby1984]

never adapted to it. I was unpopular, and I didn't want to " try" to fit in. I just wanted to be eccentric, and do my own thing, and dress how I wanted to dress, and just be myself. I knew that dressing a certain way isn't going to " capture" the guy you want, and chasing him. My father was the one who told me that you females today are aggressive, and shouldn't persist in a girl. If a guy is interested in you he'll find a way to connect with you. Trying to copy.. the way someone acts, and dresses is " fraud". It isn't being true, and real to yourself. My father also told me that.. " beauty is in the eyes of the beholder", and that.. no girl should be spreading lies, and gossiping or harassing anyone.. because they've been rejected. Being rejected doesn't mean you're " ugly". It just means you're not the preference, and the type of what the person is looking for. HE also told me it's the " idea", and the idealistic" type you like in a person but ISN'T that person. He also.. told me tha

[Angiebaby1984]

t all it's going to do is cause.. restraining orders, and taking the person to court, and other things.. which leads to extortion etc. It always makes you look desperate, and it makes the person annoying to be bothering, and bugging a person who's busy, and has no interest in them. He also wanted to mention about " rock stars", and how they're people to. No matter what a person's status is.. it isn't anyone's business to tell how a person thinks or how a person feels. Regardless if they're famous or not. It doesn't matter what the status is in a person. If a person likes someone, and is interested in them. Fame.. shouldn't be the reason to prevent you from seeing the person or critizing, and judging it's race and making fun of it's appearance. It doesn't matter also.. what people say, and do. It isn't going to " CHANGE" a person to what they're physically drawn to, and it's ego/ personality. An fame.. is just another word for " popularity". It's just widely known. Just like.. being in

[rachel05]

usually after I get rejected I get a lot of mixed emotions.. ill be pissed then super sad then fine after I sleep on it.. it really depends on what happened before he rejected me, how well I knew him and if I got attached or not.. I'm getting much better with just moving on and not letting it get me so upset over one guy... now there are few guys I hope to never see or speak to because of how they ended it or why they ended it and how it made me feel..

[chyell]

It's not just girls, it's people. No one wants to be rejected, and there's no way around it. It's a matter of pride. The only thing you can do is try to put them down gently. Or if you know you don't like where things are going earlier on, cut the bud while it's still fresh.

[chyell]

Just saw your update... some guys can take rejection pretty badly as well. I've seen guys call girls sluts just because they were rejected. One of my coworkers would make up rumors and spread lies about the girls who rejected him. One time I told this guy I dated for two weeks that I wasn't ready for a relationship( I was 16), and he stopped talking to me and started talking behind my back.

[Anonymous]

Some girls have a lot of pride. And you are right, they are so used to being chased that once someone turns them down they go crazy! Some girls, like me, are nothing like that. I am used to being rejected by guys but I always am still nice to them. I am also a very kind person. Sometimes the guys were unnecessarily mean to me just because I admitted my feelings. It does hurt to feel rejected, but I think if someone is mean to you just for rejecting them then that shows you that they weren't a good person to begin with.

[Anonymous]

i guess because girls aren't used to making the moves, it's more in a guy's nature

[Anonymous]

I can only speak for myself, not all women, if a guy rejects me, my attitude is oh well. There is always someone else. No need wasting energy or time being vindictive.