Why do some girls degrade themselves when they get rejected?

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When they get rejected

PBandJ_Nerd · Accepted Answer

Because us women want to be desired by the person we love and when it turns out they don't feel the same/aren't interested, our heart hurts. We sometimes think it's because we don't look pretty enough. But given time, we'll remember it has nothing to do with us & how we look. But self-degrading is a cruel thing to do, but everyone has done it to a certain extent---men, women, and everyone beyond & in between. Eben I've done that to myself where my mind waves around and I think "insert" is why nobody wants me, despite me being a good person overall.

JSkye · Accepted Answer

Because we are taught by society as a whole that our worth is intrinsically tied to how good we look... And that we never look good enough. A lot of us have self-esteem issues.

ProbablyClueless · Accepted Answer

Because a lot of women get their sense of self-worth and social value from being desired. And getting rejected by a guy they like calls their desirability as a mate into question. Being rejected sucks lol

Look at all the boss babe icons of today: they're all objectively financially successful, stylishly bold and flamboyant, and most of them have men drooling over them. It's the ultimate expression of female power: "I've already earned everything I want without a man, but I can get men to give to me a second time too."

Ladsin2 · Accepted Answer

Short term pleasure makes them feel better in the moment, in the morning they regret it and double down.

Finchie40 · Answer

Because they feel they aren’t good enough and feel they don’t deserve happiness , Sadly a lot of females ‘ have very low self esteem about themselves , especially if they had their heart broken before , or they were barely ever told they were beautiful , she will more than likely feel she isn’t good enough. When a girl really likes a guy , she will pretty much become submissive to him because she is attracted to him and looks up to him , if he declines her and wants nothing to do with her , her self esteem drops even more , to the point she no longer gives a fuck and she will probably degrade herself because she feels hurt and let down by someone she really liked. Some Guys’ do this shit as well , if he really likes a girl , but she wants nothing to do with him, especially to a girl that he was investing a lot of his time into, to find out she banged another guy instead , or she likes another guy over him. He will be hurt and sad and angry that she didn’t like him the same way he liked her. So his heart gets crushed and then he either gives up on all girls’ or he chases after another girl that he knows he can ha d a better chance with a girl that wasn’t his first pick basically , just a rebound. When my one ex cheated on me , that I gave my heart to that I loved and cherished, I pretty much went on a rampage when my heart was broken I was pretty much over relationships all together , and was just hooking up and having sex with random girls for fun and nothing more , ‘some of my so called girl friends were throwing themselves at me as well when they found out I was single , I fucked some of them but not all of them , the truth is , I couldn’t give my heart to any of them , I just treated them as friends with benefits and told them I wasn’t ready for another relationship. It got to a point i was juggling 6 girls’ at one time basically , and that’s when it eventually hit me , that I was being an asshole by stringing all these girls’ along even though I was honest with all of them , I felt bad because I felt like I was misleading them on but to me it was just sex. These girls would call me to set up dates with me and I started to forget which girl I had already made plans with , that’s when it really hit me that I had to stop what I was doing , Out of those 6 girls’, the one girl became my wife , I ended it with the other 5 girls’ and told them I met someone else. I am not saying every guy or every girl does this , but don’t be surprised if they did. Most people will degrade themselves when they are rejected or had their heart broken. by someone that they really liked and cared about. Why I choose not to be mean to girls’ that approach me and flirt with me , even if I am not attracted to her , I am still polite and kind to her , I tend to put myself in her shoes and think how nervous she probably feels to approach me like she did , So it’s better to be polite to someone that likes you, then to be a straight up asshole about it , it gives them dignity and respect and hopefully they won’t degrade themselves from it. Some of the girls’ I was an asshole to , ended up degrading themselves the ones I wasn’t an asshole to didn’t. So the truth is , we don’t walk around with signs flashing over our heads saying what we are into or what our current relationship status is , so there is no reason to be an asshole to someone that is showing interest in you. We aren’t mind readers, so next time an unattractive girl hits on you , be nice to her , there is no reason to be an asshole to her , only became an asshole if she doesn’t take No for an answer.

GlitteringWorld · Answer

To be honest, it’s not just women who struggle with rejection; men do too. However, the way each gender tends to respond can be quite different. Women often internalize rejection, questioning their worth or feeling like they aren’t attractive or good enough. They might focus on their looks or personal qualities as the reason for being rejected. On the other hand, men may react by adopting a "Casanova" persona, masking their hurt by pursuing multiple casual relationships, as a way to avoid dealing with their emotional vulnerability or feelings of inadequacy.

Caroline91 · Answer

How much rejection hurts, for me at least, depends on the length and depth of a relationship. As far as all of the little daily rejections that can happen? Water off a duck's back. I just find something worthwhile to do. Whatever little sting there might occasionally be goes away quickly.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Exactly like how many men degrade themselves , when something inside you reacts to your  identity  being rejected, then it's an  inner war  going on. Who's gonna be victorious depends a lot on  how your parents cared for you .

RubyFrench · Answer

A lot of people have mentioned why people don't want to get rejected but not why they degrade themselves, in my opinion its because they have no self worth or emotional intelligence. Nobody likes being rejected! thats normal in anybody, but for somebody to properly degrade themselves over it they must have some sort of underlying issues and need some sort of mental help or extra emotional support. This is not normal behaviour.

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Anonymous · Answer

In studies it showed the difference in how males and females take rejection:

Men express their anger and general negative feelings outwards, while women express it inwards.

So in other words, or to simplify it, men will verbally attack the rejecter and a woman will verbally attack herself. The man will be mad at the rejecter and the woman will be mad at herself.

The difference in how the sexes process their emotions towards rejection.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Same reason they degrade themselves on the daily.. for attention and to feel wanted. Most woman's worth is only on how good they look and how many guys they can get.

Titus_of_Ultramar · Answer

Because the more vain women tend to base their entire personality around their appearance and class rather than have a real personality of their own and once you reject them you at least temporarily shatter their entire world view and force of part of their fake persona

ManInChains · Answer

Because they're emotional. They aren't even the ones doing the asking out. It's the men who deal with rejection and not only that but fear of harassment charges if they're confident enough to do what women expect and persist.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Because they attach their entire self worth to their looks and then go on thinking it's all that matters in dating to men

LiamJHayden · Answer

Because they've been deceived into believing that the approval of some random has anything to do with their inherent worth.

jojouzumaki · Answer

We cope rejection differently… some choose to be react that way. Though give it a time they’ll learn… sooner or later they’ll change.

Unap0logetic_ · Answer

I think it’s very similar to some men.. Sometimes it a direct blow to the ego.

paledreams · Answer

Hmm good question ❓ I guess many folka do some inner thinking and reflect

Myspacepr1ncess · Answer

Because, we do NOT deserve to be rejected; I degr8ed myself once; and I will NOT again.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

They blame themselves for their rejection and do ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING to get a boy.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT... GIRLS DEFINITELY DO NOT GET REJECTED BY GUYS

DextroShade · Answer

Women cannot handle rejection well at all.

In_Trance · Answer

For the same reason some guys do

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Women are human too

thegreenyogi · Answer

Insecurity Issues.

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