Why do some girls reject guys so rudely?

[rabbit316]

i'm talking about when they get hit on by a guy they don't know, like at a mall or something. some of them are cool, but some act like complete bitches and I just don't get why. even if they don't like me they should take it as a compliment that a guy hit on them, but they act like I insulted them or something. one girl actually told me 'hell no' when I asked for her number, another completely ignored me when I tried to talk to her and she just turned away and ignored everything I said. what's the world coming to when you can't even politely tell a guy no, but have to act like a socially-retarded mute? I don't have a problem with her not being interested, but she made me look stupid.. why do girls treat guys like this? I'm sure they're looking for love/trying to get laid as much as any guy, but the way they respond, at least to me, you would think they were asexual. I mean, they can't all have boyfriends/be on their period. so why are they sometimes so rude and disrespectful when they turn guys down? is it just a result of poor parenting?

[vmw2008]

There's two sides to this. On one side, I agree with you and think it's very rude to humiliate or hurt a guys' feelings just for coming up and showing interest. After all, if the alternative was that guys never approached us anymore, most girls would choose the former. We're glad that most of you have the courage to do it, and we want you to keep doing it. As long as a guy approaches me respectfully, then I will say no politely and respectfully if I'm not interested.

On the flip side, some girls get approached a ton by guys who aren't very discriminatory about who they're approaching. The guys can be rude, sexually aggressive, and cannot take no for an answer. This makes girls feel objectified a lot of the time, and like guys don't really care about who the girl is anyway. That they're just trying to get any hot girl to say yes. So due to this, some girls get on the defensive and quickly try to end the situation before they become the guys' "prey" so to speak. I know this concept sounds extreme, and if you're not one of these guys, it won't make much sense to you. But a ton of guys act like this, so after a while, girls feel like they need to guard and protect themselves out in public 99% of the time.

It's hard to strike a balance. I still don't believe a girl should be mean because she wouldn't appreciate it either, but just trying to give you a little insight into WHY some of those mean girls act the way they do.

[Asad1ONE1]

... and yet, most guys don't even look at (yet alone approach) women.

[lumos]

You know... I get that their rudeness is pretty unnecessary, but just because you decide to approach them, they don't HAVE to take it as a compliment. They don't HAVE to do anything unless they want to. They didn't ask for you to approach them, now did they? So why do they HAVE to appreciate it? Again, I understand that it can be frustrating to get a rude response, but they're not obligated to appreciate you and your approach if they don't want to.

And here are some reasons why a girl might be rude to you:

1. You're the 394857439857th guy who has approached her that day and she's getting tired of it

2. She's having a bad day

3. She's taken (not something you would know of course, but still)

4. Something in your approach irritates her

5. She's busy and she feels like you're interrupting her

6. She thinks you're just wasting her time

7. She's socially awkward/shy and doesn't know how to respond properly without making herself look rude (girls who ignore you are often just shy and awkward)

8. She's genuinely just a bitch

9. She's tired and/or hungry

10. She doesn't feel like she has to be nice to some stranger.

[desidoll]

Well yeah I can see why you get offended by that.Yes it was kind of rude but maybe they are tired of getting hit on by strangers.Some guys just can't take 'no' for an answer.So these girls feel like they need to say or do something to stop them.They might be experiencing some annoying guys in past.I have been hit on by strangers who asked my number.When I said I don't give number to random guys he kept pushing me by saying he was a nice guy and It was just a number,not a big matter.When I said no for the second time,he said I should take his number and took out his cell phone. *sigh*

[Asad1ONE1]

Or maybe they want to bruise egos because they were rejected by guys. (A. K. A. femcels)

[Theguyoverthere]

I am assuming you're being polite to them. It really depends though.

A lot of girls can resent men over something one simple guy did to them. I actually read a lot of girls on here saying guys never approach them, yet we have questions like yours saying when they do get approached, they get rude. So it's like being stuck. If you hit on a girl, you get talked to rudely, yet if you don't, they come here asking why guys don't approach them.

[honeyltsme]

In many cases it's not literally the case that guys never approach a given (hot) girl who complains about it. It is usually (a) she is approached by plenty of guys but those are not to her liking so in her mind they "don't count" - I had more than one girl put it exactly that way. Or (b) she just wants more of the attention and for people to marvel how somebody so beautiful and wonderful does not have anyone approaching her.

[kheserthorpe]

Either they're bitches, they lack social graces, or you're paying for prior guys unwillingness to accept a polite rejection.

In any case, none of those have anything to do with you, so as best you can let it go, and think 'well, good thing she said, no, imagine if I'd ended up dating THAT o.O

[confugirl]

Depends on how you approach them. The way you said it, it seems like you approach them with something like "Hey, nice ass" or "You lookin' fine" or "Unf, so sexy"

If you do that, then I don't understand how you can expect a nice rejection. If you approach them rudely, you will get a rude response.

However, if you do approach them with some respect and don't start talking about their body, then they're indeed just being bitches. Some women are approached so much by guys, that any friendly approach seems like a threat.

[xzinax2]

most girls start off nicely responding,but eventually get tired of it. if you had to sit every guy down and talk about his feelings just because HE chose to go up to a stranger-how many times would you actually do it? we're allowed to just say no,we're allowed to ignore-if you're talking about being rude-men really have no right to talk since you go up to random strangers,expect them to always be cheery,and usually don't know when to quit. saying ''no'' straight up isn't rude,just a time saver for both of you. just move along.

[BehindTheFront]

Because it's really, really annoying to get hit on in the streets.

Don't you just realize that you're the rude and disrespectful one imposing yourself in someone's life unexpectedly ?

Have you ever been annoyed by some hobo asking for 1$ ? He doesn't want to hurt you. You may even take this as a compliment ; he thinks you're a rich generous guy. Yet it can be fucking annoying. Especially if you had a bad day.

If you want to hit on a single open girl, there are many places dedicated to this. Bars for instance.

[NightBlindness]

Maybe because of the following:

They are just rude

or embarrassed

think your joking or making fun of them

don't know how else to react

nervous/unsure of how to deal with a random approach

busy/stressed/can't be bothered being polite

Basically ask the same question about why some guys reject girls rudely and I'm sure it pretty much matches up with your question

[Daph81]

Sense of entitlement, never been in the approacher's situation, ignorance, natural bitchiness, there's a lot of reasons.

Also, the really pretty or hot girls get guys approaching them all the time. Maybe they're just sick of it. Or maybe they have a jealous boyfriend and is scared of him seeing her talking to a strange guy. So she just wants to get rid of the guy quickly.

And some guys really can't take no for an answer.

[kangaru]

i feel that a person's behaviour especially during younger days is related to the upbringing. I agreed that isn't nice to reject guys in a rude way..especially if the guys are not persistent/annoying.

some girls do that because the guys refused to accept it so they have to turn to rude way..

[Prettygurl12]

Because a lot of guys don't understand when they are being politely rejected.

[ohemgee]

some just simply have bad attitude.. but some can't help being rude if the guy is really persistent to the point of being annoying. he can't just understand "no" from the girl.

[Jager66]

Because they live in a world that rewards their bitchy entitled attitudes.

[Theguyoverthere]

Yup! We even give them a reality show! link

[Jager66]

what the actual fuck... just wow

[Theguyoverthere]

Talk about rewarding bad behavior. Right?

[BrunetteNYC]

It's immature. I wouldn't pay it any mind. That's on them, not on you.

[Anonymous]

Because some girls are rude.