GUYS: If you were feeling kind of down/upset, how could a girl cheer you up?

[Mystique01]

This question is mainly for the guys, but girls can definitely answer too!

Guys, say you were feeling kind of down/discouraged lately... What things would a girl do/say that could make you feel better?

The reason I'm asking is because I have a guy friend of mine that I like a lot, and I just heard from a friend of a friend that he's been going through something lately.

I really want to cheer him up without coming across as too mushy, or make him feel like I'm prying, pursuing, or emasculating. But at the same time I don't want to make it obvious that I know something is up.

So, what are some SMALL things that a girl can do (or even say) that would make you feel better? A smile? A hug? Ask him questions? Etc? I need some ideas. I was thinking about inviting him to a party that I'm throwing in two weeks.

Updates

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Thanks for the advice guys! I did it! I went up to him yesterday and gave him a nice big warm hug. I also invited him to a party I'm throwing soon. He seemed so happy! :-D We talked for a while, and he seems in a good mood. So I'm happy.

[Bluewaffulz]

Being a guy, I love it when a girl cheers me up... I find that they're more emotional than guys and are really nice to be around to feel good. I can trust them more than guys. I'm sure guys would tell everyone or wouldn't put much thought behind it. they'd just say "okay.. I feel bad. just cheer up" while a girl might go deep into the conversation and problem with you...

Treat him as one of your friends and just IM, text, or facebook IM, or whatever works... tell him that his friends have been saying that you were going through a ruff day. and ask him if he wants to talk about it..

if he says YES, go on with the conversation with him and don't talk too much.. let him talk about everything and just agree but most of all FIND A SOLUTION to his problem!

if he says NO, then this is a sweet line that works... "Okay, I understand that its personal.. But if you ever change your mind, I'm always here for you if you need to talk about anything :)."

This will work wonders.. I know I'd be hella attractive to the girl who told me that.. it will give me a sense of comfort and t hat someone cares about me.

[ruNnEmAn15]

You don't want to say I understand because your boyfriend might just be like "No you don't understand!"

[rosiesmith28]

@ruNnEmAn15 they're saying they understand what the other person is going through is personal and so they might not want to talk about it, but they're there for them, not that they can understand the situation.

[shirkdeio]

Definitely invite him. What really cheers me up when I'm down is knowing that someone cares about me. If you're doing something and he's there, just go over and sit by him, and just be friendly. Try to include him in different things to let him know you care.

[Mystique01]

Thanks! I will definitely invite him. Even if he doesn't come, or can't make it, at least he knows that I was thinking of him. :)

[lolfreddy]

You know I was feeling down and one of my good female friends some how found out. She took me out to dinner and on the way there (she was driving) she would touch me, rub my shoulders and run her hands through my hair. She genuinly talked to me and asked me what was going on so I vented.

I realized that she had cheered me up a lot, I mean I was actually thinking back how good it felt the she touched me.

Just talk to him, and give him a shoulder / neck rub, those always work :P

But yeah, be careful not to turn him on lololol

[Anonymous]

A long comforting hug, and even though I tend to push people away and close off to people when I'm down or even go as far as to pretend everything is fine... I actually feel better when people push pretty hard to be there for me and find out why I'm down and just being there, that's what makes me feel better when I'm down at least, I don't know about other guys... but I love it when people care enough to really push when I half heartedly shrug them off. And I'd like to add I don't just try to be a prick or anything I honestly don't like people knowing when I'm down or anything, partly, because it tends to get people down themselves, and deep down I do want to get things off my chest, I just would rather not be a burden on people unless they'd truly care enough to try to cheer me up.

[metaldave20]

i was gonna play the pity card with this girl I like, but I knew it was wrong, my moms friend had a best friend who was diagnosed with a spinal virus that basically cuts oxygen off to the brain, she will passing away here in a few hours, I told this girl that it was gonna happen, but I didn't want her to feel sorry for me

my point is you don't have to do much, just being there with us, is what makes it better

[Mystique01]

Awww! I'm so sorry to hear that! :-(

Well, see I wouldn't mind being with him, but I'm trying not to let on that I know, because he didn't tell me personally what he was going through. I mean, we're friends...but we're not CLOSE friends.

It's nothing embarrassing or anything, but a friend of a friend told me, and I don't think he was expecting her to tell anyone. :-/

[metaldave20]

Well she did pass away and I told the girl it happened, she said she's gonna text me, and told me she's gonna hangout with me tomorrow

[metaldave20]

See nothing like a womans embrace, when you're down

[quantumdefender]

hugs, be playful about it, come up behind him and just hug him.

scalp massages, neck rubs. take him to lunch. some times just the company of a good women is all it takes.

[NMMan]

A hug is a good idea - spending some time with him, seeing what's on his mind. Seemingly small gestures like these can definitely go a long way.

[starstrukk]

Give my guy friends hugs when theyre upset

[bunny420]

Go up to him and say "you seem down lately" pause for silence or response then say "can I kiss you better" in a jokey way. If he seems ok with that, kiss him better. ;)

[doctorwhofan23]

In all honestly at least for me something as simple as a hug will help. I would love it if a girl gave me a hug if I felt like that.

[Mystique01]

Thanks! But ummm...what if we hug all the time whenever we first see each other? Wouldn't he think nothing of it if I gave him a hug as usual?

[doctorwhofan23]

It is possible yeah but I don't know for me nothing is more comforting than a hug from a girl.

[dasouthernicon]

Just be there for me... so we can talk.. and I can squeeze on you... lol

[dwill5]

If my crush came up to me, approached me, hugged me, and we held hands together.

[doctorwhofan23]

I suppose something as simple as a hug can help a lot.

[Justin111]

A hug always works for me. And just talking to a girl that cares helps too.