I am really tired of being hit on

[Anonymous]

by guys am not interested in.I really don't know what is wrong with me but I just wish they would stop.My friend says it's inevitable every girl has got to go through it but am beginning to feel bad and guilty and like something is just wrong because a lot of guys ask me out but I don't find any of them interesting(am straight).I'm dreading the coming semester because I feel like am just going to scream and yell if any guy starts because I don't think I can tolerate it anymore.I know its not the guys' problem but I just want to be left alone,what can I do to stop the attention?.Also,i feel like my typical guy is not at my college so what can I do to just stop them from trying?.Do you think am normal,I mean out of all the guys I don't even like one.

[djbreal87]

Allow me to answer you, the same way women answered me, when I complained about women hitting on me that I was not interested in...

You are a heartless evil person, with no regard for others emotions, how dare you say such terrible and evil things. No wonder you are single, because your opinion of men is so ugly and vile. You have no heart, and will be single forever...

Thats the sh*t I heard (except they were refering to women) when I posted pretty much this exact same question (with a few more details). So in response to your question, I have no idea, maybe you just give off that vibe, but I hope others follow in my footsteps and treat you the same way I was treated by the opposite gender. Though I do not honestly feel that way, and wish you the very best, I have a hard time answering this question with the way this community has treated me.

[sfauo]

wow that's awful.

[Asker]

Ouch,but I accept what you are saying because I really do feel heartless.But will it be OK if I say yes for the sake of the other person's emotions?NO!I tried it once and I felt guilty and sh*ty more than when I say no.

[djbreal87]

Having been the victim of a girl simply saying yes to make me feel better, when it ended and I learned the truth, it was one of the most heartbreaking experiences of my life. Honestly, if you don't like the person, there is NOTHING wrong with that, and because you feel bad about it, only leads me to believe that you are a good person. Don't feel bad about this and having to reject them. Guys are tough, we will be OK :)

[Asker]

Thank you:)

[Moloch]

Sucks to be you.

[Asker]

Oh yeah,really sucks:( am glad someone understands.

[Anonymous]

You can reduce the attention by not giving them any signals or anything to work with. don't make eye contact with guys you aren't attracted to. don't smile at the, even polite smiles. you want to come across cold and uninterested so they won't think they have a chance. when one does try to talk to you, give short one word answers and give little clipped responses so they can tell you're not interested. create some distance between yourself and guys you don't want. you don't owe anyone anything, if you don't want to be hit on then you don't want to be hit on. that doesn't make you a bad person

[Asker]

I think you are right because my guyfriend once told me that I smile too much at everyone.Am going to reduce that although it's going to be hard because am ever smilling.I hope most of the guys will pick the hint because sometimes guys won't even notice.

[Olivia9]

Get used to it that's how it usually is the good looking guys know they don't have to try so the uglier ones are more aggressive. :/ Also you should feel blessed that you are even hit on in the first place if all the male attention just stopped. I think you would miss it and regret feeling that way (unless it's creepy)...

[Asker]

Mmmm believe me,for me the attention is just distressing,i just want out for a break.And some of the guys are not ugly that's why am saying I don't understand wtf is wrong with me.My friends are like 'girl wtf did you just turn that guy down?' because some of them are cool according to my friends.

[Olivia9]

Well let your friends date them then. If you don't like them, you don't like them. It's just you want to be nice because what if your dream guy I around the corner and sees you reject all of these guys left an right in a rude way or w.e no one is gonna want to approach you anymore it's bad karma. But then again you also don't want to mislead anyone...Just always be nice when you say no like extra nice because it takes guts to do that.

[Asker]

Yeah am scared that am going to become popular for rejecting guys.This has led me to start using the oh I've a boyfriend excuse and still it's not good enough.

[TedStar]

Start hitting on the type of guys you are interested in and hope that you hitting on him isn't like these boys hitting on you.

[Asker]

Haha thanks,but I don't think I can ever have the courage:(

[kheserthorpe]

It'll probably last another ... 5 years heavy, and a fair bit for another 3-8 after that.

[Asker]

Well,luckily the other years I will be out of college.

[Moloch]

I see what you did there.

[Hades]

First world problems...

[Asker]

First world problems?I don't understand because apparently am in the 3rd world.

[Hades]

Third world problems...

[Asker]

Haha,you:).I say all worlds problems.

[Hades]

Indeed!

[ArrograntWarrior]

You should start hitting on then