Guys, do you ever delay asking a girl out because...

[Anonymous]

you are going through some issues...like a "quarter-life" crisis, or you are trying to get your life in order (e.g., you are considering going back to school to switch careers)? Maybe you think she is too good for you because she has her life in order and you don't...? Or am I just kidding myself?

[KingsOfleon88]

Yes. I can wholeheartedly say that I have deliberately avoided being in a relationship (Even though I've liked the girl) because of all those reasons you listed. Every single one actually. I feel that if I were to let someone in when my life is a complete mess would be selfish for me to do, and unfair to her. I mean, I don't have my sh*t together at the moment, I'm still living at home, how can I possibly be with someone? If anything, I feel I'm doing the girl a favour by Not bringing her into my mess and dragging her down. I want to basically have my things in order so that when I go into a relationship with someone, I don't feel burdened by my own issues. Also, yes there have been many moments where I thought someone was too good for me and that I'd be completely rejected by her. In all honesty, all that went through my mind was she could do a lot better than me, why the hell would she say yes.

[kholland65]

I used to believe that in that stuff until I witnessed it become bullsh*t quite a few times. Not to mention I've had a few other people advise me just in the same way I'm about to advise you.

If someone really wants to be with you, they won't let the opportunity pass, regardless of the circumstances. If someone says they don't want to be with you because they are busy with this, this, and that, 9 times out of 10 its an excuse.

For me all that being busy or dealing with a serious issue has done is caused to just not actively search as hard. If a girl still happened to cross my path whom I thought was a great catch, I wouldn't be about to let the opportunity pass me by.

[jackflynn7]

Yes, I would. If there is going to be a New Me, I would wait.

[pikachuuu2]

All of the above could potentially lead a guy to not ask you out. If he is stressed that could be a reason. Or if you think he sees you as more successful than him he could be intimidated or feel inferior.