Do women find intelligence attractive?

[Anonymous]

I'm 22 and getting my PhD. I don't flaunt my intelligence , but I am confident in my studies and was just wondering if women like the fact that I'm "intelligent" or if they can be intimidated by it.

[liltianshi]

Intelligence in a guy is very attractive. Especially when you are 22 and getting your PhD. As long as you don't become arrogant. It is a great thing to find in a guy. Girls will only find it intimidating when they are really stupid themselves. And by really stupid, I mean no knowledge in people skills, school material or how to manage their own lives. So you are not limited.

In my case, I love intelligent men. Having a conversation with them is amazing. There is the fun side, but there is also a serious side in which you can find so many topics to talk about. It's intriguing. I consider myself a quite smart girl, of course not as intelligent as you are, and by no means I like to flaunt it. If I had to date someone who couldn't keep up with my logical thinking, it would be VERY frustrating.

Consider yourself a great catch!

[BirdofParadise]

Whoa! A PhD at 22... how did you manage that? I am 22, soon to be 23, getting my masters and people say that is impressive. Did you skip some grades at school, or are you studying abroad where uni is shorter and more intensive.

Anyway, onto your question. I can sometimes find intelligence to be intimidating because when a guy knows everything about something and I know nothing about it then it makes me feel stupid. My ex was into informatics, something I really don't have interest in and every time I didn't understand some complex thing which seemed simple to him he would treat me like a child. But really, so long as you are not flaunting your academic achievements and starting in depth conversations on topics on university professors have knowledge about then its fine.

[Asker]

I mean that I am 22 and in a PhD program, I won't have my degree for a few years.

[BirdofParadise]

Ah ok, that makes more sense.

[Asker]

Haha I wish I was done though because I really don't feel like doing my statistics hw right now.

[MissKhemstarR]

Wow! Kudos to you at getting ur PhD at 22! : )

Well to answer your question, it depends on the type of woman in question. Some may be intimidated by it, of course. Others may be drawn to it.

I, for one, value it. At the end of the day, you may have all the chemistry in the world with a person and everything else going along with it, but if there's nothing there to stimulate the mind, it's pretty much downhill from there. At the risky of sounding cliche "A mind is a terrible thing to waste", lmao.

[jacquesvol]

Well, at least my daughter in law wasn't intimidated but then, they got their PhD. together.

(a bit of a tradition: My mother and father got their masters' together, my wife and I got our masters' together.)

I remember one of my college teachers saying "When you break up with your girlfriend while you're both doing your masters', then you're in real trouble"

That man had a lot of wisdom. (his daughter hadn't)

[FrozenDonkeyWheel]

Of course they do.

Not all of them, obviously, but a whole lot of them.

I would think that someone smart enough to get a PhD. would have realized that.

Also, don't generalize.

Even if most women were intimidated by it, not all would be, because you're obviously not smarter than every single woman in the world.

[sexycrystal54313]

oh hell yeah, intelligence is a key factor for me when I look for someone that is realtionship material...I may be kinda of weird but in a way a guy that is intelligent is a huge turn on for me... my guy has to be able to keep up with me in that aspect, because I am a very school and goal oriented person, so my guy has to be too

[smilezz]

I can't speak for all women, but the ones I know are definitely attracted to intelligent guys. There's a confidence about them that makes people take them seriously and respect them. You're able to bring something to conversation and that's awesome cause no matter how good looking a guy is, if he can't hold a convo then he's just not worth it. Congrats on being a smartie :)

[jess7]

I think being intelligent even makes you more attractive.. It shows that you can be cute and smart at the same time... I think you should be very proud of yourself I would be at least lol.. You should show off lol more often. :)

[sammyangel9991]

Intelligence is attractive unless that is all the guy has. If all he concentrates on is studying and he doesn't have any time for fun, its not very attractive. If he has an active social life as well, its a huge turn on.

[Secretgirl]

Of course a guy with brains is hot! But it can be intimidating... just don't wave your PHD certificate in her face. But having goals and actually succeeding, that’s great!

[Anonymous]

I think intelligence is sexy. The smarter the better. For me, it's one of the most important traits in a man.

Of course some girls like being the smartest in the room, but I don't mind competition.

[Anonymous]

I hop you do not attributing to getting a PhD as merit to garnering intelligence. I work in the engineering and sciences where its paramount to have a PhD. Unfortunately many of the jokers that have PhDs are simply just that.

[ivarei]

i love it. I want my man to be as smart as me.

[smith2267]

What about smarter? I don't know you, but speaking hypothetically.

[ivarei]

I don't think most girls would mind a man that's smarter than them, but I'm pretty confident that most men aren't more intelligent than I am.

[Ryan2000]

I don't mean to sound like an asshole, but thinking you're smarter than most men is very ignorant. It's been scientifically proven that those who think they're smart are more likely to score lower in an IQ test than those who are unaware of their intelligence. Point is that you should stop thinking you're smart, and start knowing your pros and cons.

[Anonymous]

What are you getting your PhD in?