I'm a 34 year old woman, and I'm dating a 21 year old guy. I'm attractive and look like I'm in my 20's.

[Anonymous]

What do guys think about this? Will it work or just end badly?

[TheDigitalSaint]

Most guys that young will just be in it for the sex. You may look a year or two younger than your actual age, but you don't look like a young 20 year old most likely. That being said, he could like you as a person as well, but it is unlikely he's going to consider anything beyond a long-term relationship. A 21 year old guy isn't likely to marry a 34 year old due to most guys that age not wanting to get married, and if they do, they're going to marry someone their own age or younger.

If all you want is a relationship with no chance of marriage, you're probably okay if you communicate your wishes. If you want to get married some day, I suggest you cut this off and go for guys your own age who will consider you a marriage candidate, not just a sex/relationship candidate.

[TheUglyOne]

I doubt you guys will be together for life, but it doesn't mean it has to end badly. Just enjoy the good times, go with the flow, and see what happens. But I have heard of couples staying together for life where the woman was significantly older than the guy. So anything is possible.

[ilovebread]

I don't agree with a relationship of the woman being 34 and the man being 21 because, he won't be ready to get married any time soon and neither a kid. If you plan on having a kid with him after 35 you will become a high risk mother.He is not close to having an economic stability to be able to sustain a child yet. I believe if what you want is a small romance, it's okay. If you don't plan on having a kid or having a long term relationship with him, it would be fine. There are always exceptions but it is very difficult.

[ilovebread]

and neither "have a kid". oops

I'm dating a man older than me because I find him very mature.

I'm 22, and men around my age aren't mature at all, and clearly don't plan on settling. (just speaking in general)

[Anonymous]

i think it will end badly. I think 21 year olds are immature and I'm 20. I've dated a 26 year old and he was emotionally immature. lame lame.

if it's just for fun that's cool just know that if he's not making enough money and you start spoiling him like he's your brother be careful! Guys are sneaky and even though you are young and fine, you should never too careful.

[LJHam]

Hey, if you like dating a kid, that's up to you. But don't start thinking you're going to settle down with him because that's highly unlikely. He's pretty much in it for the sex even though his words may say otherwise.

I personally have a 10yr age limit on who I will date, meaning w/n 10yrs of my age up or down. But the closer to my age the better.

[Beck20]

Depends on his maturity level and where you are and where he's at in his life. Something you would probably have to find out over the time you get to know each other.

[Anonymous]

I don't see it being a lifelong thing by any means, but you two are enjoying your time together now. That's something, I suppose.

[jwowwowww21]

i date and hook up with older women and we go fine its no big deal its all about how to two feel about each other

[moviedude714]

nice to see something different