Seriously he's so good looking and I've never met a guy my age who's more loving and considerate. I don't think it's bad to date older guys as long as they're hot.
Is it wrong that I'm 22 and I want to date a 42 year old man?
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Nothing wrong at all.
It's a free world, and you're a free independent woman.
Me being 40 myself can vouch that Men above 35 tend to be maturer, handsomer, sexier, better at sex, financially stable, plus compassionate, understanding, career oriented and kinder than men younger than 35 or 30... Of course there are exceptions to this, as all men aren't (gentlemen like me or) the same.
But don't jump head over heels into it, proceed cautiously and with precautions, make sure he isn't a fraud, a predator or a womanizer and that he too is looking forward to settling down with a woman much younger than him (your age).
If unluckily he doesn't want same things as you or isn't looking to settle down, I don't think an ONS would hurt anyone.
Good luck. 👍✌️😃
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Look, I'm in my 40s and if someone asked me would I date a woman in my 20s, the answer is; I don't think I could. Only on exceptional circumstances I would consider it, but generally it's a no. But that's a personal choice, as more than likely we would be at different stages in life, where she is still discovering adulthood and I'm looking for a more calmer adult life, as I've been there done that. However, it definitely is NOT wrong for you both to date.
If you really like him, he really likes you, you share the same interests and have the same hobbies and passion, he wants you and you want him, don't let age be a barrier.
It's quite normal at 22 to find older men attractive, as it is a vulnerable time in your life perhaps, especially if you just graduated from college and you're now struggling with what road to take next. It can be stressful when you can't find jobs, and it can feel so good to just have someone you can depend on. I would see what his future plans are though, and if he doesn't have any long term goals whatsoever, then chances are you're not in the picture in the future. If that's the case, then run. If he is goal oriented, then it could be a possibility.
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Honestly I wouldn't bother with that again. I thought great a mature man ready to be in a proper committed relationship.
He took the piss. And my lack of relationship experience. Being that I was in a relationship for 11 years with one guy was nothing. Because this guy was a cheater.
He really wined and dined me, but it was a game for him.
I'm not saying that you couldn't get on and have fun.
I just think that's all it may be. If you're cool with that fine.
Just keep your head on.
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Your life but not likely a good outcome. Make sure you both get a physical before sex for STD.
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Of course it’s not wrong. You are both adults. Compatibility is what matters.
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I was with you until your last sentence. It's not whether or not they are hot that counts it's whether or not it is a worthwhile relationship to enhance both of your lives.
It's hard enough to find real love in this life. Lot's of people never do. And lots of people who are around the same age have failed relationships. So age is only one factor.
You only live once. As long as you are consenting adults, which you are, live it the way you want to and fuck anyone who doesn't like it... it's none of their business.
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I'd be very careful dating him. All I see is Red Flags. 1. Why does he date such younger women?
2. Is he abusive?
3. Did he just get released from jail?
4. What is his plan with you?
5. Do you live at home, or on your own?
6. What is a common interest you both have? If it's nothing then what do you expect?
7. Is he friends with his ex girlfriend's? that's toxic
8. Please be very careful. I'd hate to hear you have been recruited for human trafficking.
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Its a red flag that a man old enough to be your father would want to be in a sexual relationship with a girl young enough to be his daughter. Especially at an age where your not even fully cognitively developed.
The issue here is that there is huge power imbalance in a relationship like that. Why isn't he able to attract women in his own age group? Why chose someone who has virtually no life experience and who isn't fully mature when he is getting close to retirement age? It's predatory
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Think back to the time we lived in caves a boy and a girl are about the same time and when they are grown the boy wants the the girl but the dominant male chases him off a takes the girl for himself non it takes many years for the boy to grow stronger and learn how to survive before he can challenge the dominant male and he does defeat him and takes over the position thst girl and any other girls his age are all used up having baby gotta survive so whats left the young females from the previous male so that is what he takes and for the females this works to because they get what they want / need which is protection from the strongest and food provide and protect all done for the young the babies the next generation
So as you see its not a forbidden and fround opon it actually was the way of things for hundreds of thousands of years aka perfectly normal -
In my eyes yes because I believe that you are not in the same life stage and you do not have the same experience and dreams for the future. But fuck me and anyone who has an opinion on that. You are the only one that truly knows who makes you happy. If you want him go for it.
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So any man I have spoken to has been older than me always from a year upto 32 years. I have only had two boyfriends: the first one was almost six years older, the second one was eleven years older. I have spoken to people 20 and 32 years older but nothing really happened like that.
I think it’s natural for women to seek older men and it’s perfectly fine as long as he is treating you well and not manipulating you.
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The only people that think it is wrong are the guys closer to your age that think it is unfair your not considering them... but I get it, I like older guys too.
I also understand those guys point of view, if most the girls in their 20's are going for older men, means less options for them.
Do what makes you happy though.
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Good 👍 Nothing wrong maybe if younger men would learn not to be assholes. I am glad you know you deserve better. You are boss babe date who ever you want don't let anyone tell you who or what you are not allowed to do. Girl you rock and you do you.
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I wouldn't say it's wrong, but a lot people will think the large age gap is kinda weird. You're both of age so if you want to then go for it, just know that if you guys have a child together, there's a chance he might not be around very long in the future to help raise his kid or see his kid grow up. This may put you in position of becoming a single parent/mother.
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If you’re in it for the right reasons. If he’s single and you’re single. Sure. Ask him out.
Wish you the best. You gotta date to see who you’re compatible with. Obviously the end goal is to get married.
If you really like him. Then just ask him out.
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Not wrong at all.
From a historical perspective, when Roman legionaires retired (age 40 to 45) fathers were lining up with their early teen daughters to offer them as wives to the former legionaires, because the men who survived to retirement were in a good financial position. The girls were assured of a very good lifestyle and security. Upon the death of the man, his young widow and her children would inherit everything. -
i would find it hard to relate to someone 20 years older than me. good luck with that...
the fact that you stated about his looks first says more than what i need to know here. and "it's not bad to date older guys as long as they're hot" is showing your immaturity. he also won't be "hot" forever. he'll get even older quicker than you.
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It doesn't matter what others think. Only remember you're in a romantic relationship. That 20 years gap, shouldn't be used to control or to justifye something. Both of you should treat each other with the same authority. If there isn't equal do and equal saying, the relation will certainly be doomed.
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My wife is 12 urs younger then me, we get along very well. When we dated I thought she was older because of her maturity level. And she didn't like the immature of the guys. I think that is why some women like older men, we don't play games, set in our ways amd k ow what we want.
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Nothing wrong with, I'm 26 and have a boyfriend who is 45 years old.
What's good is dating matured man is that they know what they want and don't.
Aside from that when they date/court you they will not play unlike men's in 20's or 30's
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Well yes because any old man who decides to date you is a pedophile.
Now of course other pedophiles and pedo sympathizers will make excuses declaring you aren’t a kid and is actually 18+. Well, I say, historically, it’s still an issue. I don’t care if a woman is in her 20s, a 30s+ year old man should not be dating or marrying her. At the end of the day these sexist traditions need to stop. -
Not wrong. But probably socially unaccepted in most neighborhoods… Statistically you will live a lot longer than he will. But, you both could be in an accident and go together!
Do whatever you want and just be happy 😃! Life is too short. Not to enjoy it! -
- I can tell you that these matchups are fantastic from my end of the equation. Trust me when I say that you can have a lot of fun and learn a lot. The key is to remember that you were dating, not making a lifetime match.
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