Why does my crush keep asking me to meet my parents?.

[Anonymous]

My crush keeps wanting to meet my parents, and I keep asking him why and he won't give me a definitive answer.

[worzt]

a friend of my Girlfriend would insist on meeting her mom, never telling why, then went to her without being invited, he told wonders of my Girlfriend and horros about me, and would be like "ohhh you like ABBA, I love them", "I have so much money and no family to share with, if only I had a loving girl I would support her whole family", then he befriended the mom, and the mom would eventually try to push her with him, he even lent her money (not a lot, but more than one could just give out waiting for nothing in return) and then demanded the girl in return, at first my Girlfriend thought of him as a really good friend, eventually he became horrible to her, and felt he was her owner and the mom supported him, my girl sent him to hell, he was like "well lagy, you have another daughter", so 2 days after my Girlfriend told him she didn't want to see him again, he was already dating her sister (who is much more of a gold digger and easily convinced since is much younger and shallow, the boy doesn't even have money, but talks a lot and is good at convincing).

in all fairness, your crush may only be feeling that what you have is more important than you think, he sees you as something more, and wants to take a bigger step forward, it really is acvtually a bigger step than proclaiming his love for you or asking to be your boyfriend/fiance, since loving words and titles between the 2 of you can be taken back pretty easily, but once families get involved it is much more "real" more serious, it may be only me, but I feel that, despite the fact that I'm not chanting it like a cheesy musical play, I would love and support my GF's family, BUT, is a relationship of 2, and we are the most important, but I can not deny that having family on your side is like having a team supporting you, for me, taking advantage of that would be decieving, but your guy may have no bad intent, perhaps is just that, that he wants to push things forward 'cause he loves you, but infact, maybe he feels a little insecure, like youare everchanging and he NEEDS you and wants to have a guarantee that you'll stick around, again, if your fam grows to like him it will be HARD for you to leave him, that is also not bad, he is just scared and needs you, on the other hand one can not deny the fact that some people actually use it and abuse it, like my GF's "friend" to have a mean to controll the girl.

easy advice, if he is a BIG part of your life AND you feel like you are ready then you can plan on him meeting your parents, not a second earlier, BTW if you refer to him as a CRUSH, then maybe is not the moment yet, this guy knew my Girlfriend loves me, she also made it clear they would never date even if I was not around, but once he met and "charmed" her mom he self-proclaimed her new boyfriend and declared she won't see me again and that was the end of their "friendship", that goes to show, with or without the family approval my GF&I are as close as we want, he should make you love him so much you'd WANT him to meet your parents

[Koldhearted]

He wants to be serious maybe. Meeting ones parents is a big step.

[whackedout101]

Are you guys dating? Are is he just a crush or are you guys actually friends? Maybe you should actually sit down and talk to him because meeting parents is always a big deal, no matter who's meeting them, especially for me. Ask him why again and see what he says, if he says, "I don't know" then you should tell him then "You don't really want to meet them if you don't know why." Give him a definitive response as to why you don't feel comfortable with him meeting them. Also, if you guys barely know each other, I'd save meeting mom and dad until you guys are serious, especially if he doesn't know you or know that you like him.

[Anonymous]

How long have you been together? I notice you say he's just your CRUSH and not BOYFRIEND. I think that's a bit strange that a guy you're not even dating would want to meet your parents. Perhaps you should keep a cautious eye on him because that is weird. Do you come from a rich or influential family that he could be seeking to gain from?

[Anonymous]

Are you actually dating this guy? If not & he won't give you a reason why he needs to get in there so quick, tell him to slow down! Before you know it he'll be over at grandmas having tea & cookies, digging up all your old baby photos.

[omgjeez]

just let him. its not a big deal.