Just wondering. Do you Like It If someone random complimented you? Weather your in a relationship or not? Do you Tend to like It or not?
How do you feel when someone randomly compliments you?
Getting compliments makes me feel absolutely disgusted.
I'm half serious. The other half, I'm contemplating if it's a joke.
Parts of the reason why is low self esteem, loyalty (I'm raised with values that compliments are meant for wooing someone), fear of brown-nosing, and mistrust of people's judgment on me. I used to accept all compliments with the benefit of the doubt they meant well, and if they made fun of me, I didn't know any better. But then I started getting scolded by friends and family for the reasons above, for thinking I was better than I was, to trust strangers false kindness and that it was actually only for pity, how a stranger will never know my true colors so they only said that, they were trying to only get in my pants (why would a female get in my pants?), that I shouldn't accept compliments or get them because it means I want attention, etc.
A small part of me is grateful and want to compliment them back because they made my day. Compared to the negativity of external sources at a young age until I moved away from my hometown, it's hard to believe otherwise.
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It depends on the kind of compliment, actually. I like personality/skills compliments the best, but even if it's a looks compliment, the way it's given matters. If someone tells me that my new haircut looks nice, I'd be very pleased, but if it's on the order of "You look so hot/sexy, I want to...", then it's creepy. I compliment people at random too, but they are sincere compliments, so I don't see a problem with giving them. I compliment girls much more than guys, though.
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Depends what kind of compliment, of course! Being complimented about my taste in music, for example, would make me feel flattered. Being complimented about my bikini, on the other hand, screams creep alert.
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I just say thanks, and of course I love it.
Honestly any girl who can't accept a compliment has some serious psychological issues and you won't want anything to do with her anyway. I mean that 100% honestly, in that there is literally not one girl who can say she dislikes being complimented (within reason) and doesn't have a psychological problem of some sort.
Obviously if the guy is pampering you with compliments or being totally weird about it, or even complimenting on things you shouldn't compliment on, then sure I can understand not liking it. But if someone simply says, "hey I like your dress, its very pretty" and you can't accept that, then you have problems.
These responses have actually really made me lose more faith in American females. Every day you just give me more and more reasons just stay the f*** away from you guys. I can't even pay you a compliment without being scrutinized.
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I'm sure compliments aren't random. I just give my thanks when it is due, and I leave it at that. I wouldn't want to become arrogant or think that there is no more room for improvement if I get complimented. I also won't let myself get angry if I'm criticized, because I want to be able to take criticism and improve upon myself.
I have to be unmoved when I hear compliments, because I wouldn't want to be taken advantage of. So as long as compliments are true and from the heart, and not flattery, I'm fine with it.
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I don't like it from strangers, family or female friends, only from male friends and my crush. This might sounds weird, but when female friends do it, you know they're just trying to be "good" friends. They probably don't mean it. When strangers do it, I assume it's either sexual or sarcastic. When male friends do it, you know they're sincere, because men don't have this "obligation" like women do to compliment their friends. From my crush, for obvious reasons.
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No. I really dislike compliments and tend not to believe them. Of course, I won't let the person know this, I'm polite say, "Thank you" and get out of there.
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If it seems to be sincere, I tend to like it whether or not I'm in a relationship.
If it's pushy, vulgar, or suggestive, I won't like it. Period. -
i don't feel anything to be honest because if they say I look pretty I will think they are just being nice :)
when they compliment me I will think that they are nice people lol -
If it's someone random I, more than likely, won't really care for the compliment. I would feel a bit awkward and wonder why someone I don't even know is complimenting me and end it with, "Uhm thanks?"
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I will be surprised and followed by a thank you but won't take it too seriously. sometimes people may just be nice, so it is hard to tell...
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I don't always believe people when they compliment me.i say to myself "they must be lying" lol
But I just say thank you and change the topic as fast as possible. I don't feel comfortable at all! -
Yes compliments always make me smile whether I'm in a relationship or not. They are always appreciated.
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it would feel a lot better if a great looking girl complimented me but that never happens.
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I'll let you know when I get one. lol
I'd probably be ecstatic about it unless they are making a scene about it. -
Unless I got a sick new haircut or a new shirt, I would assume they're taking the piss lol
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Yeah! Of course its great, bit do not over do it. It becomes obnoxious if is too frequent:)
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I always like it. A lot.
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Never happened before
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It's the best
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