Ignoring a guys text to see if he's interested?

Question

I was thinking of ignoring this guys next reply and see if he texts me again in a few hours and test his interest level cause he's been unclear. Should I do this? I mean, if a guy cared wouldn't he retext me and see what's up?

backspace · Accepted Answer

Anytime I send a text and a girl doesn't reply I leave it because if she's not replying she apparently isn't interested or has no social manners. In either case it looks as if I'm wasting my time so why write another text to not get a reply.

If you like him and don't want to make him think you're not interested or don't want to confuse him reply normally. So don't play games because it makes you look like you're not interested or just making a fool out of the guy.

How to see if he's interested. Well that's simple just give him an opportunity to do something. Pave the road. If he's interested he'll make a move even if he's super shy and you see he is make it easier and eventually he'll make a move.

It's because of girls give off weird confusing vibes in staid of making it easy for the guy to make a move that shy guys always tend to back of because they're not shore if he can make a move since it looks to them like they're going to be rejected. Who wants that? Then they pull away and girls get offended because they think the guy isn't interested. In staid of both trying to make it easy for the other one to make a move.

At the same time I understand why girls act this way. Because who wants to expose themselves to the other person just to find out they're not interested. It makes you think you're a fool for even liking the person let alone letting on you're interested.

That's why I say meet in the middle girls make it easy for the guy to make a move and guy will make the move eventually. That's it there can only be winners nobody loses anything.

Levin · Accepted Answer

You've posted a few questions in a similar vein. I'm going to go out on a limb, and say he's not interested. I'm making a lot of assumptions here, so I'm probably wrong, but.

He seems to have all the power because he's highly desirable and seemingly not interested. You desire him because of the aforementioned desirableness, and because he hasn't given you any overt interest. So you've spent a lot of mental energy, fantasising about him; and it has caused you anguish, because it is an affront to your ego, too, when he doesn't respond to your... overtures. :P

This is destructive behavior . If he's not interested now, that is unlikely to change. You might end up being used for sex, and being hurt when he invariably gives you clearer signals he's not interested, or dumps you.

You're resorting to childish games.

My advice is to let the situation breathe. Respond. But don't force things. If the conversation fizzles out due to lack of enthusiasm on his part, and he doesn't make much effort hence, then let it die.

Just think, you could give your energy to people who actually appreciate you!

kia58 · Accepted Answer

That's just mean. I mean he must be nervous enough as it is. You want him to feel desperate on top of it? I presume you're not a bad person so you probably don't.

You can know how interested he is by seeing how willing he is to make you his girlfriend. A guy who is not interested will be ready to ignore you, will not bother with you at all actually. So just give it time and you'll know.

You will not see his interest level by pulling back like this, unless he is a player after sex, without emotional investment in this pursuit. If he doesn't care, he'll call as much as he has to to get you, because his pride is not on the line.

Or if he is overly confident. Then he may like you and chase you at the same time, but this is rather rare.

britgirl7 · Accepted Answer

Yeah he'll probably just think you're not interested and I doubt he would text you again... don't do this!

Blondie6 · Accepted Answer

Don't do it. He will think you aren't interested. Don't play games.

mikewnaz · Answer

look at my latest question and answer. but the gal I like will not reply to texts and it drives me nuts. it hurts my feelings. it makes me want to not work. it makes me want to just relax and chill out. all while I like the girl. it is making me resent her. it is making me wonder if I should give up and move on or go in and ask her out.

its a turn off to me because I want to be straight forward but I feel like I'm being punished for trying to get to know her. I mean when you don't respond we can't have a conversation.

I usually don't text back. if I do I will bust her chops a few hours later.

its taking my genuine interest in her and making me want to find someone else all while she will probably end up with a player who will use her, hurt her and leave her holding the bag on the curb.

so I guess in the end she will win and I will move on to someone else.

its making me want to move from wanting to take her to dinner and romance her to just dropping off the face of the earth and possibly just using her for sex if the situation arises...

its killing my good intentions and making wonder just how tiresome a relationship with this girl might be...

in my opinion the so called clingy guy is probably the guy who would treat you better and were clingy because women think that screwing with our heads is the way to attract us.

I like her before she did this...and I'm growing to wonder what I was thinking. starting to wonder why her boyfriend just up and disappeared...

that's my situation as it replies to your question...we grow tired with games I guess...at least I do.

Konnour · Answer

Oh my, the insecure girl syndrome strikes again!

If a girl did this to me, even I would do what she hoped I'd do - pursue her harder after being ignored, I'd still remember this sucker punch and eventually would become less and less interested in her, girls who do that sh*t ain't worth it!

MrMe2013 · Answer

I think you know not to do it now lol...

Guys would also think they might come off looking clingy if they kept texting someone with no reply... I learned this the hard way so won't do it now... So if it was me that sent you a text and you never replied to me I would be waiting for you to get back to me...

myspacemybroke · Answer

No, that's a bitch move. If you want to see whether or not he's interested ask him if he wants to hang out some time, and get him to name the time and place. If he's not that interested he won't really bother.

akadatank44 · Answer

Hell no, I would think you would are not interested in me or extremely busy. With my current girlfriend, we first talked on the phone for hours on end and I mentioned once that I was currently single, and she told me, maybe you are or maybe your not we will see were this takes us, and then I knew she was interested and then we had a couple of dates and we are together. So stop texting him and call him up an get to know him better and show him that your interested in him.

Patchers · Answer

First thing I would think if you ignored my text is that you not interested.  Second thing I would think is your to busy to get back to me.  If I was you I would hint to him you won't to meet up sometime and see if he tries to organise something

Maybenextime · Answer

DEFINITELY not...much better ways to incite his interest. Make a story like: one of my friends said he prefers brown haired girls vs blond hair, what do you prefer? (or something along those lines) Go ahead and then send a flirty text or something.

Alessus · Answer

Well I probably wouldn't, since I'd just assume you are too busy doing something to text me back and would just wait for your reply for a while and then forget about it.

OpenClose · Answer

Yeah... ignoring is a no. If he's on the fence about you at all, ignoring him will just make the decision for him. Flirting would be your best bet, because you get to see how he reciprocates.

Anonymous · Answer

Or he might think you're not interested and give up. He won't want to risk being labelled a stalker, lol.

Anonymous · Answer

Hopefully he won't text you back.  Games like this are why most guys can't actually summon ill will for the "players" and "cads" who go around breaking girl's hearts, haha.

Anonymous · Answer

You shouldn't do it. How about spending more time with him in person to see if he's interested?

Anonymous · Answer

Well it depends on what his says like if its Thanks you don't have to say np or your welcome

vincent83 · Answer

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