Did she really mean maybe another time?

[Anonymous]

Both in high school. I asked this girl out to the movies on Wednesday, she said maybe-had to check schedule. I said to let me know, but I never heard from her the rest of the day. On Thursday I was drivin myself crazy so I texted her afterschool. I said hey, asked how she was-soon I said "I'm guessing you didn't want to go out on Friday is that right?" Took an hour for her to reply "i don't think I can sorry" I said "it's okay" she said "sorry" again and I said its alright. 45 minutes later she texts "maybe another time. and hey I will see you tomorrow and Saturday" she thought she would see me at the free sports physicals but I didn't go.we talked a little about that, she was still friendly, wasn't one word texts.

I thought there was a chance at more than friends, so I gave it a shot. What I don't get is when she said "maybe another time." I thought she was just going to leave it at "i don't think I can sorry". she was probably trying to say no in a kind way, but 45 min to add in more?

On Tuesday the day before I asked her out, I asked her to go to a frozen yogurt place afterschool. It was just me and her. 2 months ago I asked if she would go to the school play with me-same scenario: she had to make sure she didn't have plans, I asked for her to let me know. She said she could go, an we went on a Saturday night. (I didn't make a move that night.) before prom she asked if I was going I dance with her, and at prom she pulled me over and slow danced with me. I didn't talk to her on Friday, or this weekend. We have a class together. I need to give her space, but school is out in like 3 weeks. the last week is test week, and I probably won't see her. What was meant by everything? We've talked this entire school year, are we "just friends", or is there more than that?

[milamckiney]

Just friends. She does just enough to keep you interested but not enough to be more than friends. She does what she can to keep you interested. Sorry to sound harsh, but if she really wanted to go out with you she would make the time in her "schedual". And I'm guessing she waited 45 min to text you maybe another time because she had time to think about it and probably felt bad for saying no.

Move on to another girl, if she gets jealous maybe she does like you and will ask you out ;)

[Asker]

Yeah I think I'm just going to act as friends again, if she wants to be more than she'll have to say something. I'm not going to ask her out again unless she strongly hints at it, or she makes a move herself (which probably won't happen)

[QueenBeatris]

do you guys talk on the phone ever? you need to,texting get s old and people misinterpret words.

[Asker]

We don't talk in the phone, we just text or talk in person.

[QueenBeatris]

well you should talk on the phone too...that's the norm, these days people have become so disconnected with the whole texting thing...call her I bet she will be glad to talk to u

[Toffeepea]

Are you making any first moves because unless you do she's getting a loader mixed signal!

[Asker]

I mean I'm the one who has asked her to eat at that yogurt place, and go to the play with me

But Wednesday was the first time I said "will you go out with me", the first time I made it clear and direct.

[Toffeepea]

Ok If she is still saying yes but then forgetting then move on. She being a bitch xxx

[Asker]

Thanks for calling her a bitch. That actually does make me feel better :)

[Toffeepea]

:) Then spit is out with gusto and effort. "BITCH"

[Asker]

She couldn't even tell me "no" she had to go around it and say "I don't think I can sorry" I could ask her out directly in person!

[Toffeepea]

She's immature. Not your problem.

[Asker]

I really like this girl, why am I not hurt by a rejection? I have to talk to her as friends, she will be I. Classes and stuff in the future, I can't deal with the awkward situation.

[Toffeepea]

aww honey, times a good healer xxx

You could ask to talk to her. " Say somthing like, look I feel confused and now alkward around you. I don't know how you feel. But I'm wondering if we are cool?"

"I've noticed that every time I ask you out you say yes and then never meet me. I'm kinda pissed about that. It's OK if you don't fancy me, But I feel it would be better if we could just clear the air between us."

[WizeGuy2350]

If you ask a girl out and she says something other than an enthusiastic "yes" (such as all the excuses you mentioned in your post that she gave you), she's telling you "no." If you want a platonic friend, she's all yours, but if you want a girlfriend, you'll have to look elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

It's quite clear that she meant it literally. You should actually invite her again.

[Anonymous]

Ask her one more time and then you will get your answer.

[Anonymous]

Yeah just assume she really means it

[Asker]

You think so? I don't think I should ask her out again unless she says something. Idk