Are women worth approaching nowadays?

[Bornnardmt]

Let's get one thing straight, I'm sick of these anonymous female users on here telling me how to live my life! You wanna tell me that women are better off without me, guess what I don't give a ****! I'm not here to please any of you. So keep your PMS rage to yourself. Yeah I'm pissed right now, so don't come at me crazy.

I made a decision to never to approach any woman again. All of a sudden I'm a afraid of rejection? Women aren't worth approaching nowadays, that's how I feel about you all. I'm not afraid of approaching women, I just don't want to at all. Learn the difference! You think I'm bitter? Wrong! I call it not wanting to deal with your bull**** and women are full of it nowadays.

A lot of you women answer my questions and judge me for ways. What makes you any better?! Save the feminist crap because I will ignore you. Are women worth approaching these days? Some men will say yes, I say NO!

[Forgetable]

I have found myself asking the same question, generally after something crappy happened like being dumped for another guy, being dumped and told I should go kill myself, or in the last instance being dumped for wanting a monogamous relationship and struggling with depression from unforeseen tragedies that occurred.

I don't think that women are all bad or that all women are like my prior experiences. And to be perfectly honest maybe I haven't given up simply because I am too much of a hopeless romantic and appreciate the companionship and what comes with it. Am I discouraged by how many blind "feminists" there are out there? You betcha, but after having a psychology of women class with ONE real woman that actually appreciates her husband and real males (not to be confused with modern tight pants wearing gender bending identity confused "males" of the modern age) I got a little bit of hope left. And to be clear, I hate "feminism" because it is intentionally a vague/ambiguous and nearly all encompassing word that represents manipulation and brainwashing at a high level. I have taken (and passed) psychology of women at the college level. It's a crock of crap that tries to tell women to be dissatisfied with men until they have absolute dominance over them. Chivalry isn't dead, but it is less common due to feminism, I don't open doors or pull out chairs for ladies because I think they are incapable, it's because I respect them and am showing appreciate for them.

So seriously, don't give up on all women, just keep looking for one worth approaching as Thomas Edison said "I have not failed. I just found 10,000 ways that didn't work." He also said something along the lines of the difference between those who are successful and those that fail is those that fail gave up when they didn't realize just how close they were to success. You may be mad right now, but if you keep going you may find that one amazing girl that makes all the fails worth it.

Good luck and God bless.

[martyfellow]

Years ago I decided that I wouldn't pay attention to women who didn't at least meet me halfway, so I wouldn't have to be the one approaching them all the time.

I've never looked back on that decision!

[dodgypirate]

Think I might just do the same tbh. In 18 years of my life I've been approached by a woman 5 times ...

[martyfellow]

Best Answer, no?

[Bornnardmt]

I'm gonna do the same thing

[martyfellow]

OK, good luck mate!

[dreamergirl94]

You just have met some women who are not worth it, that's all. You guys tell us that we shouldn't call all guys douche bags because "not all of us are" which is very true. So why is it okay for you and some other guys to talk about women like this? NOT ALL GUYS ARE DOUCHE BAGS AND NOT ALL GIRLS ARE TROUBLE/ NOT WORTH IT.

You've just had some bad luck lately. Everyone has hun!

"Women aren't worth approaching nowadays, that's how I feel about you all."

All of us? So you've approached every woman on this planet and made this point? That's like me saying "every guy is an a**hole". Wouldn't that piss you off? I'm sure it would.

I've been told I'm very approachable and I'm even friendly if a creepy guy approaches me (I may think to myself "well he's kind of creepy" but I still don't make him feel like sh*t).

Only make this analogy if you've approached every woman on this planet and found they are ALL unapproachable. Just like girls shouldn't make the assumption that every guy is an a**hole until she's been with every single piece of penis on the planet.

[alakazam1993]

SO TRUE!

[dreamergirl94]

Thanks :) Honestly though not every guy is a d***. I know so many nice guys who are absolute sweethearts and many girls who are the same. I also know guys who are jerks and girls who are just trouble. There's a variation in EVERYTHING.

[Bornnardmt]

Yawn...I don't believe you.

[dreamergirl94]

to each their own :)

[Bornnardmt]

No offense, but with my experiences with women. It's to believe any good one exist.

[dreamergirl94]

I can say the same. With most of my experiences with men, it's so damn hard to believe there are any good guys out there. But then once in a blue moon nice men walk in and it's like "hey, maybe guys aren't so bad after all". I hope you run into a girl like that in your life soon hun :) Best of luck!

[lady-listful]

Wow you've met some crappy women I guess. I don't think all women aren't worth approaching, I just think a lot has changed in society in respects to relationship and even personal expectations.

I don't know what chip you have on your shoulder, but there's no point in being flustered about it. If you don't want to approach any women, then hey, that's your personal choice. Some men get approached by women or don't have to make much effort. Just depends on the situation really. I don't know what your personal situation is, so I don't know if your bitter or what not deep inside.

All I know is that your agitated at some responses on here and took them a wee bit too personally.

If you don't give a f***, then don't give a f***; online or not.

[Bornnardmt]

I had to block the douche bag below, because people love talking about other people's lives. I take the comments personally because I come on here for advice, not to get attacked.

[lady-listful]

Eh, take the advice on here with a grain of salt really; I mean a lot of these questions are pretty broad and most responses are heavily opinionated, which makes them less prone to absolution.

The reason you get attacked is because people give there figured responses according to their own reasoning; if you don't agree or get too emotional, you both end up arguing and getting butt hurt over nonsense.

Just rationalize. Good advice is logical and straight forward. Opinions are debatable.

[justbanANNAz]

hey, not all women on here are anonymous:) and tbh I don't know why anyone should tell you how to live your life unless you ask for the advice.

i don't know if this will help, but believe me, not all women are the same. there are so many guys out there who are afraid of rejection, but approaching a woman really isn't as hard as you guys all think. the simpler you b, the simpler ull get the lady. what's all the complication for?:)

i felt the same way bout guys at one point. got hurt pretty bad by a friend and I thought all guys were heartless like that. I then realized that there are people who genuinely do care.

now I know you probs won't answer this given how upset you r, but just know that some of us get it completely.

[Bornnardmt]

You see a guy like, YOU approach him. I'm not doing all the work, and if a woman expects that she will be disappointed.

[justbanANNAz]

Oh yea ofcourse you can't hav a one way relationship, that's jus stupid. Its all bout give and take, people should understand that. As long as BOTH people put in the effort, love and commitment, I c no reason why it shouldn't work. Its that simple:)

[Bornnardmt]

It's all about Me, Me, Me nowadays. Why would I want to be apart of that.

[justbanANNAz]

its all about u? I never even implied that? what you said was that 2 people need to be involved in a relationship without one just doing all the work. I'm on your side mate lol, I get where your comin from but the only point I was trying to make was not all women are the same...

[pr3ttybr0wn]

You can always date men. Or live a life of celibacy. That's on you.

[Bornnardmt]

I'm not gay

[Crispin7]

I love women. they make me feel all warm and fuzzy(when things go well). They smell so good they look fantastic even at there worse(even though they don't think they do) theyturn me on so badly.

especially if you get a good one who can fix you up a hot plate or a dessert or something and get to eat it together. Plus you wouldn't be born if it wasn't for women. If there not worth approaching maybe you might be gay but still to deep in the closet to be comfortable to come out and face the truth...:s I don't know Best of luck if your not gay. Oh and Ladies Keep being strong and being the women you are us men Love you

[Bornnardmt]

I'm not gay...far from it.

[john52461]

No they're not worth approaching, I stopped that few years ago and I end up meeting girls be accident or through friends.

Best thing to do is don't bother. I've also thought about the whole dating thing and it's just pathetic, why should men have to lie about their intentions just to get a girl.

If I'm at a bar I'm looking for sex, I might date the girl short term or long term, the only way I can get sex that night or in the future is to deceive the girl into thinking that this might turn into something bigger. But that's the game, and I have to play.

[Bornnardmt]

Good advice, maybe I should being nice. Women don't like that.

[justbanANNAz]

@john52461

Ur quite naive... Ur talking as though uv met every woman on the planet. If men were to be generalised as a bunch of douche bags ud probably have something to say about it, so don't say that about women when you don't know nearly enough of em:/

[Bornnardmt]

Women are drama these days, more trouble than their worth.

[kangaru]

hmmm...it makes me scared to approach guys because I am afraid of rejection but then again, when I think of the opportunities that I might lost if I were to approach them (who knows it may be something positive) I thought I should try. the next time when I am interested in a guy I may make a move. I hear your frustrations, it is up to you.

[SwissCheeze]

You don't think guys are afraid of rejection? Women use the I'm afraid of rejection crap as an excuse. Guys should be the only ones to use the word Afraid when it comes to asking someone out not women.

[kangaru]

Did I say that? Think you misinterpreted. .both genders are afraid. N since you are anti females based on your negative posts don't approach

[Bornnardmt]

If a woman refuses to approach a man, she deserves to be alone. Just like men, you're not entitled to anything.

[yawst]

don't listen to these mean guys you are just trying to be helpful they're dumb.

[circlebill]

Are women worth approaching nowadays? That's a pretty loladed question! It depends on a man's state of mind! If a man is a typical hump-and-dump-jerk-player who uses women for sex period, there's no problem!

However, if a man is looking for a genuine adult female life partner to love him and honor him through life's adventure, there's a definite problem! For better or worse, very few women nowadays are worth approaching for the purpose of finding a good life partner! Good women do exist! But they are very rare! And considering how dangerous marriage has become, It just doesn't seem to be worth it! But rather than give up altogether, one should keep ever vigilant! Extraordinary women do exist! Nothing would be more terrible than failing to recognize such a miracle woman when fate brings her to you! Good luck!

[SensAsianalGirl]

There was no need for you to ask this question. Seems like you already got this whole thing figured out. Best of luck to you.

[lameusername]

Don't approach unless if she seems like she wants you to approach her. But even then no one seems to want to be bothered, and everyone turns "liking" someone into such a big deal (no matter how long they have known you for). Girls usually FREAK OUT when they find that out. But then the next day they complain about being single. I know not everyone is different and not everyone does this, but from my experience this is true =(

[Bornnardmt]

I will only approach a woman if I know she's 100% interested in me. Why approach a woman who doesn't like me? That's a set up for disappointment.

[MaskofInsanity]

Are women worth approaching?

It depends on how attracted you are to the woman I guess.

If you don't want to approach women, don't. It's completely up to you.

[unighted]

Then why is it a big issue, don't approach women that's it. We are the ones who don't want to deal with your bullsh*t.

You are bitter even if you say you are not because why would you get so angry?

People like you don't know how to deal with their feelings so you try to blame it on others, deal with your bullsh*t first and then point your fingers at us.

[Vandal]

That's for every guy to decide for himself. Weigh up the pros and cons, do a cost/benefit analysis, ask himself how important dating/relationships are to him.

I reached the conclusion of no a couple of years ago & coincidentally enough my life has been steadily improving & happiness increasing since then. Since I've been focusing 100% on things I am interested in doing without caring at all how women view me, what they think of me or what they want from me (for the first time in my life).

MGTOW FTW.

[Dakoin]

It's because you go for the stupid girls. Girls who are filled with drama and bs, and girls who flashes everything they have. I understand your frustrations, but seriously stop going after girls with eyeshadow all the way up to their hairline and the ones who let their tops go waaaayyy too low. Unfortunately, that's the kind of girls loads of guys like. I'm also done with guys.

[helloyes]

so how do we know which girls are the right ones right away?

[Dakoin]

Watch her. How's she behaving? It's very easy to tell which girls are the ones who are not worth a dime

[acka72]

All I can say is that you are entitled to your opinión and you do what you want to do in life. No one is going to forcé you to do otherwise. But please be a man about your decisions and dont whine if chicks do not approach you. If they do, then kudos for you.

[sugarjackj]

You say don't come at me all crazy when that's exectaly what you just did to the female users of this site. lol. talk about a double standard.

I agree with RedSmartie. You sound bitter and insecure. So learn the difference...prick.

Have fun being single and lonley for the rest of your life. lol

[Agrojag]

Just because someone doesn't have a girlfriend, why should they be lonely? I've always felt more alone with girls than when I could just hang with my friends.

[Fgnbvcgghj]

Cool.

Here are a few suggestions I can offer you before I literally stop caring.

1. Either stop being a pussy and approach. Cause you're definitely afraid to approach. Lol I've met assholes like you who still approach women and hate them for the things you hate them for.

2. Go gay. Doesn't matter if you're not cause you're acting like it.

3. Block me. I stopped giving a fuck somewhere between #1 and #3. I was just sleepwalking through the responss.

[Agrojag]

I'd like to be able to disagree with you, but, from my experiences, I really can't. While I'm not ready to quite call it quits yet, I'm getting there. I'm holding out hope for just a little longer. But you may be ahead of the curve. The women I've been around have been nothing but selfish, superficial and totally callous towards me.

[kalimavictor12]

Dude you are searching the wrong field. You need to figure out for yourself (and possibly professional help) and fix it. Look I met some great girls and it's not hard to talk with them. If you really have an issue, then go sleep with a hooker geez. No one wants to hear your useless garbage. You are insecure and I pity you sir. Despicable.

[SuckingurLollipop]

It's your decision. At the end of the only you can say if you have won or lost... of course us looking from the outside in will most definitely think it's your loss. Yoga helps with frustration, so does Tai Chi. They work wonders for clearing your mind of negative things. One thought that comes to mind is, why do you ask if you will so openly say that, "no, women are not worth approaching"? Are you looking for an answer that will sway your mind, venting, or just wanting to get others opinions?

[MikeK]

I'm sick of it too...

Most women won't even give you the time of day, and the few who actually do acknowledge your presence still make you do all the work - it's NEVER 50/50 with women. A guy does everything.

[dodgypirate]

Oh God tell me about it. I've this colossal crush on a girl I met in France for almost 3 years now. She knows 100% that I like her and I'm 95% sure she likes me too. We texted back and forth for 4 months roughly and then she stopped initiating messages - she used to 30% of the time. Like 2 days ago I sent her a message to see how she was doing and she tells me she's anxious about her exams and will talk to me later ... she hasn't even bothered contacting me say anything ...

[MikeK]

Same here -

The other night I went out with this girl - we hit it off immediately. Talked for 4 hours straight - it flew by like 4 mins... there was instant attraction - touching each other, hugging, kissing, etc...

So a few days later, I text the girl to say "Hey how's it going?" She replies "Who is this?"... She didn't even bother to save my number after that amazing date we went on? I was (still am) FURIOUS about that... girls HAVE GOT TO STOP with this mixed signal bullsh*t!

[Bornnardmt]

If a girls is sending you mixed signals, ditch her. I wouldn't put up with that bs.

[MikeK]

Duly noted - Fortunately, we're getting along quite well now after than initial confusion :)

[CasaNorba]

hell no...

im not from england but I "reckon" that women now a days women need to really proof themselves a lot more than before in order to be worth being approached at. since now a days they are nothing but chaos and frustration

[lauramor]

I have been rejected a bunch of times. but I wouldn't and don't plan to stop trying.