Girls- how do guys hit on you?

[pr3ttybr0wn]

How are you usually approached and what type of guys do you mainly attract? Why do you think you appeal to guys?

[washize]

Mainly idiots and douche bags. Not because men are idiots or douche bags, but because My age group seems to believe that women are attracted to men who behave like wife beaters.

There is this "alpha omega" idea going around that you have to treat a woman like a worthless cow to get her panties wet.

I'm sure the girls who have a submissive fetish are into that. But My fetish isn't in line with that.

Cat calls, cursing at me, or insinuating you want to stick your penis in me without even considering if I'm interested or not is a total turn off.

My generation just has no clue on how to interact socially. I am interested in casual sex, but I'm not going to randomly hook up with some shlub because he asked. ''

You have to be careful today. I need PROOF that you don't have STD's, aren't a murder/rapist, and that you aren't going to rob me if I go back to yours, or bring you to mine.

Ignorant/sexist/degrading comments and suggestions just make me think you're going to wear my skin after you're done screwing my eye socket. No thank you.

Generally I don't have this problem with older men, however older men are far more intimidated by my youth and attractiveness. Older men are better at doing the mating call shuffle, they have better skills when it comes to chatting, timing, and discussing a casual arrangement.

[Ineedadvice1989]

so why did Ted, from the movie Ted, get luck with that "hot" girl, with all the antics you've mentioned

[washize]

Because he's a teddy bear. All girls are furries If a girl says that she didn't imagine marrying or having sex with her Teddy bear then she's lying! As a matter O fact, what red blooded woman wouldn't want to shag something with fur, claws, and fangs?

[bruvleigh]

a normal one

[washize]

Commonsense is rare. No one seems to think anything through anymore.

[blackeagle007]

how much older do you go for? I personally can't see myself with someone your age (no offense) But then again I'm used to dating girls around my age.

[washize]

Typically 6-20 years older. Its not a general rule, but the places I frequent just have that age range. I have more in common with men in their 40's-50's, some of my taste in music/movies, and knowledge of politics/culture attracts them. But men in their 30's are more modern in their views of gender. Ultimately it still depends on the individual, its not a RULE that older men are better, but they are far more likely to be direct/straight forward RESPECTIVELY. Far less childish behavior.

[MaskofInsanity]

I'm not going to include stupid stuff like honking, unnecessary/unauthentic flattery, man handling and whistling.

I generally see two patterns in relatively successful approaches.

The first is when I'm just out and about - a guy might come up to me, introduce himself, ask how my day is going and ask if he can take me out for coffee/a drink. This is rare, but impressive. It takes a lot of balls, I reckon.

The second is when I'm out at a bar or club. I know people scoff at such scenarios because they think the guy just wants sex/hook up - but on many occasions I've spent the evening chatting to one guy, who eventually asks for my number and after frequent contact asks me out on a date, etc.

What kind of guys do I attract? Quite a wide variety, surprisingly. Usually white, but ethnicity varies (a lot of Aussies cos I'm in Australia, as well as British and Irish - but we have a lot of those immigrants so it just makes sense). Personalities and appearances vary greatly.

Why do I think I appeal to guys? F*ck knows. I'm not bad looking and I think my mannerisms make me appear confident.

[evenlift]

It's probably a mix of good looks and approachable body language. Confidence isn't an advantage. If anything, it can be intimidating.

[MaskofInsanity]

Hmm interesting, but that makes sense.

[red324]

I use the first method except I compliment them and then ask about them and go from there. Seems to work good if I approach a girl who doesn't happen to be in a hurry or with her friends. Most of them seem to like it from what I can tell. Only problem is they're already taken most of the time. oh well.

[MaskofInsanity]

@red324 - yeah that's generally how it goes. It's a good method though - shows you're outgoing as well as making the girl feel like she's really caught your attention.

[Cuddle_Muffin]

The usual whistle and holler.

The usual car honk.

Then there is the usual, "excuse me my name is bleep, I just wanted to say you look beautiful"

There is also the usual "wow, you are really pretty, or you look good or etc."

There is also kind gesture bullsh*t, "I wouldn't wanna see a pretty lady like you carry all these groceries or don't worry I will buy it for you."

over the internet, "hey sexy, hey beautiful...etc"

I sorta appeal to all guys of all age groups and ethnicities and races. I can't pinpoint exactly the most common anything.

funny story, one day I was on my way to a diner...and this one guy peeped me from his car. Then came out of his car, followed me and straight up asked me for my number. He said he wanted to marry me, he could change my life. I literally said, I am happy with my life and declined on the offer. Dudes are crazy.

[Ineedadvice1989]

you sound like a real ass

[Cuddle_Muffin]

Really? I apologize if it was offensive to you.

I never was trying to offend anyone, just answering the question.

[blackeagle007]

Don't listen to the guy that called you names. Troll alert! But that is a funny story of how some stranger purposed to you. The world is a dime a dozen!

[Cuddle_Muffin]

lol it really is.

[confugirl]

It's usually either extremely sleazy or extremely clumsy guys. Very few guys actually just say hello, they always try out their pick up lines on me. I don't understand why they think that would work. The clumsy guys do say hello, but they give me no feedback. They just stand there and expect me to say something when they don't help me at all. If they asked questions or talked about something interesting, then I would stick around. No, it's just endless small-talk. So I just walk away from that.

[Anonymous]

Mainly idiots and douche bags. It's gotten so that any guy who approaches me, I would automatically assume they're an idiot or a douche bag until they prove they're not.

[Ineedadvice1989]

assuming makes an ass out of you and me

[hollydorr]

Actually, assuming makes an ass out of you and Ming. Poor Ming, he had nothing to do with this.

[stillagoodgirl]

It changed back to what I was use to where they straight up ask for my phone number I find it a little rude though

[lauramor]

I think I attract different guys, but I guess most fo them are normal guys, not jerks and not shy.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, it's usually idiots and over confident dbags. They approach me because I'm good looking. Otherwise I wouldn't be approached. They approach me with a charming smile but after a short conversation, I can tell he's a dbag. Most guys in my age are pretty stupid and lame. And then guys question why we date older guys. Um, probably because are more mature than you.

[evenlift]

The guys who approach you may be idiots. But there are many intelligent young guys out there. Keep an open mind.

[blackeagle007]

Careful with age. I've seen it all. My mother is now re-married but when she was divorced, she dated older men that were total morons. Insecure and one of them stalked her.. Yea.. Just cause someone is a certain age dosen't give them a name tag saying they are mature.

[Anonymous]

i get approached by different guys all the time, I don't know what is my appeal haha

[dommage]

I think I appeal guys because of my feminine clothes and how easy going I am. The guys that usually approach me are kind of nerds or jocks

[NYCQuestions1976]

Confidence and eye contact. 👍