She's not physically attracted to me, but finds me attractive?

[Anonymous]

This girl admitted that she's not physically attracted to me, but she does find me relatively attractive.

What does this mean exactly?

[simplythebest]

She likes the way you carry yourself, making you very attractive. This had happened to me once, where there was this guy who I didn't find initially attractive but that changed very quickly. he's personality was very attractive, He was very confident, intelligent and good at his job. I loved it, he had suddenly become physically ver attractive. I just wanted to point out that I never thought he was ugly he just wasn't my type at first. there's a huge difference between men and women when it comes to attraction. Women can gradually become attracted to a man, whereas this doesn't work with men.

[Asker]

"I just wanted to point out that I never thought he was ugly he just wasn't my type at first" I think this is EXACTLY what this girl meant by "relatively attractive"

May I ask exactly what you mean by type? As in physical-type? I'm a bit confused lol

[simplythebest]

well there are some guys I would never date becasue I just don't find them physically attractive at all, so even if they were confident etc I might respect them but I could never ever date them. then there are guys like the guy I just descibed he isn't my type and when I say that I mean I didn't instantly feel a sexual attraction towards him but I never thought he was ugly either. I can c that he was an attractive man with one or 2 great features but I wasn't drawn to him. he's personality chnged that

[Asker]

Sorry to pester you more but I'm curious. in your first sentence, do you mean you don't find them attractive period? or they are just not your ideal look but they're still good looking?

then the second part about the guy and the type... again do you mean a specific look? or specific features? and as you said personality can change a "not ugly, but not my type" to attractive right?

[simplythebest]

Don't worry you ain't pestering me. That's exactly what I mean, they are not my ideal look but they are still good looking.

I meant a specific look. For example I'm drawn to mixed race men (black & white mix) this is becos I my first real love was a mixed race man and he's type of look has stuck with me. So anyone matching his description instantly gets my attention. The guy in question here was a white guy, but he was clearly good looking.

[Asker]

Is that a deal breaker if they're good looking, but not you're type at all? I've always been told I'm good looking, but not "hot" or anything. and I've been turned down by girls because they're not phys attracted to me lol

[simplythebest]

Not a deal breaker at all, if I find a guy attractive already then his awesome personality can seal the deal :)

[Anonymous]

You're attractive, but she's not attracted to you. Makes sense to me. Like I find Johnny Depp attractive, but I'm not attracted physically to him.

[Asker]

Is that a deal breaker if a guy you knew was attractive and were to walk up to you and ask you out? or is he friend zoned?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes he's friend zoned.

[Asker]

So right off the bat, his looks (which aren't bad looking but not your taste) make him immediately "just" a friend? that's a bit harsh.. even the girl below simplythebest said if the guy is good looking but not her type the personality can change things around

[Opinion Owner]

I found this: link

[orangasing]

this thread what I really need. cause there is a girl she is not attracted to my physically, but she is attracted my personality and how funny I am, cause she thinks that I can make her laugh and she is happy when she read my messages, cause she feels its cool and I looks so funny, she wants me as a friend

[Cromartie]

It means the other 99% of your existence is totally hot.

[eveline]

It means she likes you for who you are and not how you look

[Asker]

A relationship like that wouldn't last would it? physical attraction is a must isint it?

[eveline]

No, a relationship based on the physical doesn't last but when it's based on personality it lasts

[kambo_trick3y]

Means you're funny as sh*t son.

[Asker]

serious or no? she's never had a real convo with me, only small talk. and I've hardly talked to her

[NerdyAnon]

It means you have a nice personality.

[Anonymous]

You're aren't good looking but you might be funny