Im ugly and no girl has ever found me attractive?

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im 19 ,havent even had a kiss yet . I've been rejected far too many times in a lot of ways . been lied to ,been called ugly ,worthless ,loser,trash . I pretty much have very little hope left , I thought I was worth something at first but when every girl rejected me I just don't have the drive to do anything anymore .

Im not asking for compliments . Do not tell me "you're not ugly" because that means I'm not hideous but I am unattractive

in case any of you care what I look like link

(the reason I posted this pic is so no one here tells me go to the gym because I already do and it hasn't helped me to get a girl to find me attractive after almost a year now)

im really just depressed , don't know what to do anymore . Attempted suicide once but that didn't work and I'm still paying the hospital for the treatment , can't gather the courage to do it again yet .

im not going for good looking girls . never did , they can do better than me

LauraMarx · Accepted Answer

Says it's a bad link.

Anyway... I'm really sorry you're suicidal over this <3 And it's BAD that they make you pay for that. I'm really, really sorry. This is something legitimate and valid and serious and don't let people tell you you're just being silly, okay?

I want to say this to you, and it's old rhetoric, it's rhetoric you're gonna have heard before, and you're gonna wanna just brush it off and say 'yeah well...' or whatever, but, please. Just listen to me when I say this to you. If you listen to me say anything, this is it: You are worth more than your looks. Okay? You're worth more than your looks. Your looks don't decide who you are. And I'm not talking 'oh, you have a great personality.' Me? I believe everyone has a prime objective in their life that they will fulfill, whether they know it or not. I believe everybody chases the holy grail, and no one ever finds it. You as much as me. And what else is there for you to do, other than Do What Thou Wilt? And you're a star, for that. You're your own world. You revolve around your own axis, in a whole beautiful universe of other stars, doing the same. Making their own solar systems, their own worlds. And that's something really important, and *everybody* has that. There isn't a person on this scorched earth who doesn't have that in them. This is what we Christians mean when we say 'the Sanctity of life.'

I'm going to put it another way: you mean more to ME than your looks.

Understand something about the men I admire the most. Karl Marx, James Connolly, Jean-Paul Sartre. These are ugly men. These men, they are not attractive men. Go look them up. They're not attractive men. Especially Sartre! But these men are the most valuable to me. They make me feel real, they make me feel human, they make me feel alive. They are, for me, the most worthy men ever to walk the earth, they are the grace of the new aeon. They are important men.

I'll put it another way, too: it doesn't matter what you are to me.

Define yourself first, then surge up in the world. It's not only that you shouldn't think about yourself in relation to me, but you *cannot* think about yourself in relation to me. You must define yourself for yourself, by yourself. And for that, I will love you. And you will say, 'I do not care that you love me.' It's okay.

And finally: it matters that you're here. It does. It really does.

greendot641 · Accepted Answer

I'm kind of in the same situation. I'm almost 21. Never been kissed or had a boyfriend. A few years ago I was really upset about it and kept asking questions like "why doesn't anybody like me?" and "why am I not good enough for anybody?". It took a while, but now I'm really happy with my life. I still haven't found that person yet, but I'm doing what I love, I've made some good friends that I never thought I was worthy of and I'm having fun. Do I still get depressed? Yeah, sometimes but it gets better. I would say try meeting more people and doing more things. It's a lot easier to be depressed if you just sit in your room all day. Try to be active. It's not an instant thing, but it can happen. I'm sorry you've been called all those names. Nobody deserves that. Everyone has something to offer the world. Just because someone is different doesn't mean they're "worthless" or a "loser". Don't be afraid to do your own thing and forage your own path. That's where the best things happen. Good luck!

If you ever want to talk, you can send me a message.

courtney06 · Accepted Answer

Maybe you are ugly. I'm not gonna sit here sugarcoat things. But not every girl rejects a guy just because of his looks.

Try to shift your focus. A relationship with a woman is only a portion of your life. There is so much more to live for. Work on being the best person you can possibly be. Get out and see shows, go skydiving if you're into that, travel, etc. I love being around people who love themselves. They could be the ugliest person ever, but if they love life and can make me laugh I'll spend time with them. It's not easy to work on yourself, but you can do it. When people see that you are enjoying your life and self-love, you will naturally attract them.

Insecurities, especially physically, are very hard to overcome. Some people never overcome them, but they just learn to live with it and eventually stop caring. Make friends with people who like you for you. If they don't want to talk to you because or your looks then fine. Onto the next person. They can go F off, it's not like they pay your bills.

Deviouscourage · Accepted Answer

Umm, being good looking helps attract girls but it's not the key...

Attractive guys WITH terrible personality = Low chance to maintain women

Unattractive guys WITH class A personality = Higher chance to maintain women

Ever wondered why that is? I made a poll her on GAG recently about whether or not you would choose between a "sexy" person or a "funny" person. Majority of females chose "funny" because it's sexy in it's own way. You can't change the way you look and it would be terrible of me to tell you to change the way you are but if the same formula isn't working then change it.

I just believe you had a bad start in life because I wouldn't say I'm all that physically attracting either. You just need that one friend that will help you out of your shell to become more confident.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They're going to tell you its your confidence but what's confidence if you can't get pass attraction which is the first test?

EreOuO · Answer

Well I'm a girl and I've fallen for guys who all my friends have called ugly. Including my mother when I told her about them.

When I judge a guy, the first thing I find attractive is his personality not looks or money.

If the guy is a sweetheart to me and friendly to others, it's an instant attraction.

So don't worry, there are lots of fish in the sea. Everyone is destined to find someone, just don't lose confidence c:

Good luck!

523206720 · Answer

Girls usually do not date guys for the same reason that guys date girls. They don't care that much about looks if you have money or a good personality. At least not the older ones. Any guy who says he can't find a girlfriend because he's ugly is seriously uninformed. You could look like hugh hefner and you'd still be able to find a girl if you have money.

saysrae · Answer

try looking in different places for girls.  go to a bar, it's easier to get a girl there (although that doesn't mean you won't be rejected at all) and it can at least give you a confidence boost.

eveline · Answer

Link  didn't open ..  Fact is that people are shallow but everyone  has some one out there so instead of feeling sorry for yourself be patient  and stop thinking about it

Anonymous · Answer

leave town go somewhere you never been. try talking to women there. it works trust me women like guys from out of town.  within the next few weeks it'll be recruiting season women will be looking for somebody.  right now you need to expose yourself.  get out and meet as many as possible and you will get a girl.

Snow_Blind · Answer

No one has ever showed interest in me and the farthest I ever got in a relationship was just being a friend. Ever girl I like just sees me as a friend and they talk about other boys that are hot and in my mind there it a gun to my head when they talk about other people. Whats the fuckin point anymore.

SarraaaH99 · Answer

Your looks aren't the problem, your lack of confidence is. Girls like confident guys. PERIOD.  And no, going to the gym does work, you just need good nutrition. So what if you never had your first kiss?

MandaLuv · Answer

You will find the right girl eventually :) maybe you're just looking in the wrong places :)

Anonymous · Answer

The link doesn't work, but anyways I wouldn't know any information to give you. If you are not attractive then you are dismissed as person. I know I go through the same thing!

jsfflacey · Answer

look if you feel that way get a ugly girl.  once you get a girl the rest will come bcus you off the market.

Anonymous · Answer

Learn the art of seduction...massage ;) most ugly guys have huge cocks too so winner all round

iluvdylan · Answer

Dude you hav to b confident... The link didn't work for me but private message me please!

Anonymous · Answer

Boo-freaking-hoo. I'm 23 and I have the same problem. Ignore it and focus on other things in life like going to college.

confugirl · Answer

Stop asking for attention!

Anonymous · Answer

Adamfk1, fix the link

Anonymous · Answer

You need a better link adam

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21 and I never had a girlfriend or been kissed and still a virgin never a date even. No girls like me I hate my life. Am ı too ugly or unattractive?

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21 and I never had a girlfriend or been kissed and still a virgin never a date even. No girls like me I hate my life. Am ı too ugly or unattractive?

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