So, I accidentally went on a date. But I'm taken? What now?

[BouncingPig]

So I met a girl at the local guitar shop. Turns out we both have the same photo class and i got her number, and we went to "hangout". What was supposed to be a day taking pictures for my photography class turned into dinner and a movie. So I was totally cool with it just being a friend thing (Did think she was really into me anyways) While we were watching the movie she cuddled up next to me. She kept looking at me and feeling all over me. As a faithful dude I resisted her, while I must admit she is waaaaaay cuter than my current girl. We did a couple random things as well. I taught her how to pump gas, throw a football, and play a couple chords on the guitar. After the movie I took her home, we did end up kissing. And she introduced me to her parents. I really liked that she's younger than me. (Only by a year) But she kinda digs the whole me being and older guy & college football player. And I got to like show her things which was really fun and fresh. While my current girlfriend is 4 years older than me. I must add, while I call her my girlfriend we've never made it official. But we've been "together" for about 2 years. What should I do?

[ashleybeans]

Aww dude... I really feel for you lol

Seems like this young, innocent girl is really into you and she's probably like "YAY A POTENTIAL BOYFRIEND!" whereas you feel obligated and don't want to enrage or break your current girlfriends heart

Honestly. the moral thing is to STICK BY your woman lol.

But... I honestly am wondering how in the hell did you let it get that far? lol I know things happen by accident but that's the hard thing about hanging out with woman alone... it causes temptation just sayin lol and if the girls single and really wanting a relationship or digging you its going to be hard also for her to resist you

Just sayin lol

Well.. I would say. You should keep talking to both of them

That's probably not morally sound advice.. but you should go with who you end up really loving

Just know that everything has a little trail of consequences... so basically everythings a gamble... BUT maybe you'll learn from everything

I would say.

Go with your gut.. if you think this younger girl is cuter... and you're way more interested in her.. take her out on a couple more dates.. and if you end up falling for her PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE tell yoru current girlfriend and umm become single... and date the younger chick lol and try to stay faithful to her lol

[BouncingPig]

Good looks! Really helped :]

[ashleybeans]

Honestly dude I think your best option is to become single so you can date other chicks. If you really want to not remain tied down and date this other girl maybe you should become single again lol

[ashleybeans]

Dude... I don't know... lol at least you're not married.. you should only settle down and marry a chick you know in your heart that you wanna be with forever. If your girlfriend isn't the woman of your dreams maybe you should date other people?

[Arwens-Fire]

The whole situation is. YOUR fault. When she was snuggling up next to you, you should have stopped her. You had MULTIPLE times to set things straight with this girl.. and you DIDN'T. because you didn't WANT to. So you kinda cheated on your girlfriend. intentionally. With that said, you have to make a choice of what you actually WANT. And what your current girlfriend deserves. She deserves someone who wants to be with her and isn't focusing on bullshit reasons to STAY out on a date with a girl. If you don't care that much for your current girl because she is older than you, then let her go so she can find someone more deserving.

Don't act like a victim here dude. The only victim here is your girlfriend. Be fair to her and gain some maturity. You purposely stayed in this situation so own up to it and the shit dude. Good luck.

[BouncingPig]

Yes I understand where your reasoning is coming from. However it's hard for me cause I'm only 18. I'm young and want to do young people things. Like hook up with a random girl. But she's over all that and wants to start slowing things down. I thinks she's absolutely crazy. And the look she gives me when we see those baby diaper commercials. Thanks my dude! you helped a lot ! I'm just going to be a free soul and do my thang!

[Arwens-Fire]

You're right that you are young and you should do young people stuff. ALSO, there are two sides to a story. Maybe she isn't crazy, but the two of you are not compatible. Meaning, you have different wants and needs. Gently end things with your girlfriend and move on. Learn from this situation. Also, her AGE has nothing to do with anything. Four years older than you is nothing. The real issue is that the two of you are simply on different pages... thats it. Good luck.

[skullyy]

Woah, what a shitty thing to do... if you`re referring to the girl you are with as your "current girlfriend", then it`s clearly official wheather the word "official" was used to solidify the relationship.

Anyway, you`re obviously all worked up with the new girl.. and if you actually liked your current gf, you wouln`t have disrespected her the way you did... The best thing you could possibly do is make it clear to her that things with you are over so you can go back to flirting around without hurting anyone.

[kittyforlife]

First of all, you should stop refering to yourself as "the faithful dude" because clearly you are not, if you were willing to kiss this girl. Secondly, you should stop trying to justify why you kissed her. "We've never made it official yet we've been tohether two years." Are you fucking, retarded? If you have been with someone for 2 yeats, it's official, you don't need a, party for it. I reccomend yo. Make a decision. Do you like this ypung girl enough to break uup with your current girl?

[BouncingPig]

Well, if you perceive it so negatively. Then yes, I am not faithful nor good to her. But does my guilt mean nothing?

[kittyforlife]

Your guilt means that you are human, but your actions show that you are stupid. isn't there a saying along the lines of why break something that is working? Id stay with what you have. This young girl could be flakier than a pillsbury roll.

[ixi10]

So basically you cheated

You're with your gf for 2 years, doesn't matter if it's official or not. She deserves better

[Anonymous]

how old are you and your current girl?

[BouncingPig]

I'm 18 and she's 22. 23 in a couple weeks