Polls: Flirting

I was visiting my crush at his place a few days ago. We haven't kissed or anything, but when we were watching a movie, we just ended up spooning, with him as the big spoon. I know that most girls enjoy this, but what about you, guys? I've heard that most guys don't enjoy spooning nor cuddling. :( .. So what do you think?

For example, when she walks passes you, she brushes against your shoulders or if she stands a bit close to you.

Do you notice and think she might be interested?

Yesterday my crush found out that I liked him and he know me because he introduced his self to me a few months ago. We say Hey to each other every time we see one another, and he really happy to see me. One of my mutual friends told him that I like him, but he told her that he doesn't do relationships and/or date any one from the university that we attend. So my friends did a little digging to find out why, and he had a relationship with a "nice" girl before only to find that she cheated on him, and she slept with one of his best friends, which he still doesn't know about. Which cause him to have trust issue about many of the girl on our Christian university. But now that I know this I don't know how to talk to him,and yes I do still like him, but I would rather be his friend than not have any type of relationship with him. He doesn't know that my friend told me all this information either, so if anyone could help me try to talk to him that would be great. Also if you had to deal with an issue like this what would you do?

POLL QUESTION: Would you try to make a relationship with a person who has trust issues that you really like?

For example:

1. Another man leaving a flirty/sweet message on your crush's 'wall.'

2. Openly flirting with your crush.

Would that impact how you feel about her?

Would that change anything?

I hear a lot of guys talk about how this would make things so much easier, and I guess, somehow improve their chances of getting a chick. Maybe.

I was for the female approach thing - or rather - at least women making themselves more initiating in letting the dude know your interested.

I was thinking about the girl approach thing - and I wonder if this whole " male seeks female -" thing was set up like this on purpose.

1. Girls approaching doesn't mean you'll get approached.

It's just reality. You can't force someone to find you attractive or like you - if anything, this makes the girls even more in charge in this situation - because it will force men after a while of not being approached - to approach anyway.

2. Just because she approaches you - doesn't mean she's Miss. Perfect

In the small talk it takes to get someone's number - you don't have a valid idea of what type of person they really are. Sure she thinks your cute - but that doesn't means she's still not the biggest bitch, rude, spoiled, a user, manipulative etc - traits that don't come out until you get to know a person more anyway.

3. Male competition would get worse.

I've heard every guy who's presented this argument, say that men will not turn down a girl, half as much as girls turn down guys. Women have a good amount of different men seeking her - how would you feel as a man, for her to be walking up to every guy plus you - getting all your guys's numbers - and then ultimately still having " veto power -" because one guy out of your group rejects her 5 of you other guys will accept her. So now, you really have to step up your game against such a blatant circumstance. What's even more emphasized - is that your readily expandable if you don't get her favor.

I know I know - that sounds bad - but that's the nasty reality of veto power. Men are lax on their standards for women, so for a chick to go out and find a dude ( and all men have confirmed this that I've spoken too -) it's pretty easy. Even for women who aren't half way decent looking - there are men who will take them.

4. Sexual Liberation and Modern Mentality Women

Some Girls are just as doggish as guys - and the influence we have in men can make that aspect ridiculously more severe. You think it's bad now that a lot of girls open their legs up to guys so soon? Men give women sex easily - because they want sex badly - this idea of sexual openess on top of that - holy sh*t - not that I'm saying girls will instantly become whores - but sex is so casual in society - getting multiple guys for sex would be thrice as easy - even if they're just boyfriends because men aren't as picky with this.

Lets not exclude the femanazi - and hyper feminine ideas in society to add to that as well.

Men think women have power now?

I don't think this approaching thing will help more than it will hurt.

What do you think?

Some people (guys&girls) is all for a girl asking a guy out on a date then there's others (guys&girls) who think a girl should NEVER ask a guy out. I think the guy should ask. because guys always say how much they hate clingy/desperate girls so that always plays in the back of my mind. certain things guys are suppose 2 do ( and there's certain things girls are suppose...) like asking a girl to the prom or marriage. society make it that way. so should a girl ask a guy 4 a date? why/why not?

So I'm kind of "the nice girl" - I treat others nice, I'm sweet, I don't dress provacative or swear or drink or do drugs. I'm smart, innocent, Haven't had sex, etc.

whats weird to me is, a lot of the "bad boys" like me. the bad boys can be with me other guys and "bad girls" but they FLOCK to me! flag me down to sit with them etc. its crazy.

the nice boys seem to like me as a friend and are very nice to me but don't flock to me or ask me out as crazily. what is up with this? do I attract only rowdy boys being nice? because I want a nice boy. how do I get a nice boy? would a nice boy like a nice girl?

and by nice I mean doesn't drink/smoke everyday and does not get in fights a lot and cares about school and is kind to people. pretty simple =)