Guys: If you give a girl a compliment, how would you like her to respond?

[Anonymous]

Personally, I've always replied with a thank you but recently been replying with "aw, you're sweet". But how do you guys like girls to receive your compliments?

"You're sweet" while smiling, then continues conversation.

"Thank you" while smiling, then continues conversation.

Gives you a compliment in return.

Tries to humbly downplay it by making a joke about herself.

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Plus one to every post! Don't forget to do the poll though! Thanks you guys :)

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Also, guys: would your preference to responses to compliments change if it were via text than in person? If so, how? Example: Recently a guy told me via text I was "rather wonderful" after a first date. I responded with, ":) you're sweet." and a thank you for the date.

[OpenClose]

Yeah, generally any of these is perfectly fine. I'm not picky about positive responses.

Now, some guys will probably say that downplaying it will make it seem like you have low esteem. Personally, I think it's kinda fun. It means I have to INSIST on how beautiful you are. Plus, it's the opposite of arrogance. The farther from arrogance you are, the better.

But again any of these work, because the are all positive responses.

I've seen quite a few different kinds of compliments taken offensively, and it makes me hesitant to give compliments at all. If I choose to call you "sexy" instead of saying "you look nice today", that does NOT mean I think you're some sort of dildo with a heartbeat, capisci?

I once told a girl she had a cute smile and a strong will, and her friends convinced her that it meant I wanted to molest her or something. WTF?! With friends like that, who needs schizo.

I once dated a girl who would deflect compliments back at me, and I don't mean in a good way.

"I'm distracted because the guy I'm talking to is sexy."

"Not as sexy as the girl I'm talking to. :D"

"Yeah, I know. Sexy enough, though."

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If I called her beautiful her response was "Umm, yeah. I kinda know that already."

On our (only) date, I offered to pay the tab. She looked at the bill, and said "yup, you're paying."

Some girls don't know the meaning of grace or humility.

[RationalNAC]

As long as she doesn't reject my complement, I'm good. I mean, I give compliments to anyone I feel I want to compliment. I see a pretty girl, I feel like telling her she's pretty, so I do. I mean nothing more by it, so she can pretty much just turn away and I wouldn't care. Now if it was someone I like, then it would be a different story. I would want her to at least acknowledge my compliment in some way. A simple "thanks" would suffice.

[Asker]

nice explanation. genuine compliments are great. the worst is when compliments are done to gain something, no matter who or what gender does it.

[Purplelove010]

I picked c because I wanted to see the answers & plus I think guys would feel more better if a girl gave them a compliment back because imagine always saying to your crush you look nice today or nice haircut over and over again & all they say is Thank you, but whenever you just really nice they don't ever give you a compliment. It would make you feel like you like them, but they may not feel the same way about you in return. It would feel right. It's like giving all your kindness to a person & don't receive any kindness in return.

I'm really surprised that answer C doesn't have the highest percentage. Guys are you really that dumb?

[Purplelove010]

Let me rephrase this : Whenever you DRESS really nice they don't ever give you a compliment. It would NOT feel right.

[RedSmartie]

I would only say the "you're sweet" one if I could tell the guy kinda liked me and I liked him too. I'd feel too awkward to do otherwise. I usually say thank you and if I can find a compliment to return without it looking forced then I do so.

And if I compliment a guy honestly any of the options are great. A is preferred but even D is good because unlike girls when guys use self-deprecating humor they are either trying to be funny or actually being humble. Not asking for attention like girls do.

[vishna]

lol girls...totally messed up the poll percentages

haha <<

[Asker]

haha so true :D

[sixstring]

I voted A, B is good as well. As long as it makes her smile. I would be surprised if guys voted D. It's really annoying when a girl disagrees with a compliment.

[Asker]

Cute. I agree on D! thanks for the post!

[OftenHeartBrokenGuy]

No he was wrong he should of said via text it was my pleasure to take out such a sweet girl like you out on a date

[Asker]

Aww. That would have been sweet. However he did say, "just want to let you know I had a wonderful time. You're rather wonderful." I responded the way I did but never heard back from him... Oh well. :P

[OftenHeartBrokenGuy]

Awe your welcome.) People can really be real mysteries that we meet and it just makes us wonder

[Asker]

Very true! In France they have a saying that roughly translates, "you'll never know someone's true wishes in life, even if you've known them for years!" I find it a good quote to recite when you can't understand people :)

[OftenHeartBrokenGuy]

Yes it's scary world and I got a cousin who is 26 and it's not the skin color of guys

she meets it's the type she picks on I have a bad feeling for her she works 2 jobs

but she picks black men who have no future and basically are sluggers well she

was with this last guy for 3 months she got pregnant and he went back with the

first girl he is with and I feel my cousin has had multiple sex partners oh well

all I can say is experience is the best teacher and someday will be too late

[Dylan1989]

I voted D. I don't expect a girl to respond too much to a compliment I give her really. "You're sweet" would be nice, but it would be a bonus.

[Asker]

Interesting. Do most girls you know respond with something like D?

[Dylan1989]

Sorry, that was a mistake. I voted B. I've had only one girl who joked about herself when I compliented her.

[Prettygurl12]

I respond with "Thank you," but then the conversation usually fizzes out. I don't handle compliments very well. They make me feel awkward.

[yellowmamba024]

I voted D actually. B is good too. A and C... I don't like too much, but I have nothing against that.

[OftenHeartBrokenGuy]

You're sweet while smiling than continues conversation

[MrReal]

It seems like you're responding exactly how one should respond to a compliment but don't ever become truly arrogant that's the kind of thing guys don't like... at least I don't.

[SuRpRiZeD]

why did the blowjob answer get downvoted, the reason we tell girls compliments is because we want to f*** them. Any gguy telling you otherwise is lying

[OpenClose]

Guess I'm a liar, then.

F***ing isn't my primary concern, it's something that would ideally stem from a good relationship.

Mind you, I do think about having sex with a girl if I find her attractive. I love the very idea of sex. That's just libido talking.

But if you're main reason for giving a girl a compliment is so that she'll eventually "open up" to you, maybe you should look into your view of women, eh?

[SuRpRiZeD]

yeah maybe, and it is a little messed up to compliment a girl that you don't find attractive because you could be leading her on and she could get the wrong idea, so I find its best to avoid those situations

[1-3-2-4]

I don't mind any most of the time when I do say something I would get a C in return.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

To get down and give me a blowjob :O :P

Nah I kid (that'd be weird).

I'd like the sweet and smiling and such.

[Anonymous]

i would love if she gave me a compliment in return. nothing is free ya know.

[MakeLoveNotWar]

Voted 'D' but I don't really care. Any is fine lol

[sikoo31]

a blow job would be nice.

[Asker]

As you can see, there's not an option E for "other". And this is exactly why...lol

[sikoo31]

i was actually just joking. wanted to see who'd understand that its a joke. but actually, there's no E here.

[sikoo31]

obviously not many people got it haha

[Asker]

haha phew! glad you clarified that it's a joke... never can tell on a site like this. I didn't make an E simply because I wanted to see what guys would say with only the specific choices. If you have an E, other than the comment above, please tell.

[sikoo31]

you said there was an E. that's the only reason I mention it.

anyway, any positive response is good.

[Asker]

Oh, I'm pretty sure I said "there's not an option E for 'other'." Miscommunication. I agree about positive responses.

[sikoo31]

ok cool.