Is it weird my older cousin kind of hit on me?

[Anonymous]

This happened a few years back when I was 15. It was really weird. He's 8 years older than me. We had always been close buddies, but this kind of crossed a line. He took me to my first party and I got a little silly. When we got back, I wanted to stay up and chat about life. I went and sat on his floor. He somehow got the idea that I was sick apparently? and so he got out of bed and let me sleep there for a while.

A bit later though, he got up and was like hmm cmon, and we went back to the room I was sleeping in and got in bed together. I was really confused. I thought we were just buddies staying up to chat... he eventually started giving me a back rub and then when I kind of faked falling asleep he put his hand on my butt! He also slept with his arm around me. It was really weird. He didn't try to kiss me though, thank goodness.

It was just all around awkward and I was really confused. I was 15 at the time and he was 23. My aunt woke up that night and came up the stairs and started screaming at him because he was in bed with me. The next morning was so awkward.

He and I have never been close since. His brother (my other cousin) said that he might have drunkenly fallen asleep and thought I was one of his gf's. I don't know though... didn't seem like he was asleep. There was definitely a hand on my ass and that was weird. We're related and he's so much older than me! ah, so gross.

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[TheGodEmperorLeto]

From what I've heard on the internet? It seems fairly normal that cousins hit on each other >.> which is weird to me. But Cousins don't have as much a risk of inbreeding problems until it's like 10 generations down the line.. so ya.. but still... it is odd. It could have just been drunk stupidity though.

[Asker]

hahaha wow really? that's a little funny

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Yep, it's odd.. but who knows how honest those people were.

[Asker]

haha good point.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

So what made you ask this anyways? Hasn't it been a few years or wha?

[Asker]

hmm ish, yeah, but it still made me wonder. idk, it came up in a conversation

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Came up in a conversation? O.o how does that kinda conversation go :P hah.

[Asker]

ex boyfriend made some comment about it when I was talking about the cousin (just about random things about him). and he was like... wasn't that the cousin who did well, you know... and I hadn't thought about it in a while and it kind of bothered me haha

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

How did he know?

[Asker]

I told him (back when we were friends and not dating)

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

ah. Well interesting.

[Longshot]

He may have been horny and he got out of line with you. He created an awkward situation for all -- it's called lack of maturity and lack of common sense. But glad to hear that "things" did not go any further.

[Asker]

haha yeah. seriously. I think he was just drunk maybe? but idk. it was weird. we've never been close since then.

[Anonymous]

This is an old question, but your cousin sounds like a predator who would have probably liked to groom you for sexual abuse if given more of an opportunity. At the end of a day, it’s never appropriate for an adult to get into bed with a minor and fondle them as they sleep.

[Anonymous]

yes, it is wrong.

[Asker]

esp because I was underage. I mean, I don't know if he was drunkenly sleeping or not.

[Opinion Owner]

it was a long time ago but it still bothers you. your aunt knows he was in bed with you. does she also know he touched your ass? maybe he was drunk. drunk guys are usually horny.

[Asker]

well, it's sad we aren't close anymore, but maybe that's a good thing