Why doesn’t my cousin like me? What did I do wrong?

[Anonymous]

I have a female cousin the same age as me who seems to can’t stand me and it’s been this way since childhood. She’s always been rude, dismissive and shady towards me every time I would see her. Now that we’re adults we don’t speak and it’s because she’s made it clear she doesn’t care for me, but why? I am an almost college graduate and she’s now on her 4th baby and 2nd baby father. She’s made snarky comments about my college career and she’s extremely fake. The only time she came around me after the past 8 years or so was to try and sell stolen clothing items to me. After I politely declined (because I don’t buy stolen shit) she basically gave me her ass to kiss and told me to kick rocks. I never understood her deal with me and I never got a chance to ask. I text her to see how her children were and she never responded to my message. I just want to know did I do something wrong? We didn’t grow up together. I’m from a different state than she is but everytime I would come to visit relatives she would always count me out or act as if I wasn’t there or didn’t matter. What do you suggest I do because it seems as though blood isn’t always thicker than water, and she doesn’t treat me like family at all? I’m a really chill and cool person so I don’t understand what I did if anything at all. It just kind of sucks because I don’t have any female cousins my age so it’s confusing and unnecessary when she acts like that. Especially since we barely been around each other in our lives.

[ManOnFire]

It sounds like two things could be going on here: she has always been jealous of you for some reason, even from youth, and it could be for any reason, from how you look, skin color, what energy you carry, or because you maybe had a better upbringing than she did.

Or, there are other family members who brainwashed her into hating you from a very early age. Maybe her parents always tried to tell her you were a bad kid or what not, when you really weren't. But they too could've been jealous that they didn't have a daughter like you. Or, her parents actually used to praise you a lot growing up, and not her, and that made her hate you.

You could always ask her why she dislikes you, but I feel like that would only just satisfy her, because she would know that you know she dislikes you. And she already wants you to feel bad for it. I would say the best thing to do is to not even really try to reach out to her anymore. If you guys talk on holidays or family get-togethers that's one thing, but don't go out of your way to cast your pearls before swine and make efforts to have a bond with a family member who doesn't want to have one with you.

[Mynameisbobby]

Sounds like she's always been jealous of you. Obviously she has the problem not you, I understand wanting to have another female to talk with that's the same age. She sounds like a very mean person. I wouldn't waste my time trying to figure her out. Her loss.

[Anonymous]

My cousins are the same. I dont care lol, so shouldn't you. As long as you act like an adult and is respectful you haven't done anything wrong. Which clearly you are a nice person so you have nothing to feel bad about.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you for MHO!

[Reem12345reem]

Well at least you know that she's jealous , better than a fake one who pretends to support u but envies u on the inside and tries to ruin your life secretly:)

[Sweety2087]

Lol one of my female cousins was talking stuff about me to my now ex-boyfriend on Facebook inbox.

[Sweety2087]

She's envious of how it seems you had it better than her. I have a female cousin who would talk stuff about my sister and I. Now that my sister and I are older we see how jealous she was towards us. One time she lived with us for a little bit and it slipped out while she was crying to my mom about her life. She blurted out "You should've been my mom". I was shocked but I remember that and a couple of years ago I presented her to my now ex-boyfriend, and she started trash talking me to him. I finally dumped him and haven't seen or even want to hear anything about her for years. She's a witch and most likely in real life. People ask me about her and I just shrug my shoulders I don't ever want to deal with her again. Thank God.

[Sweety2087]

I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt so we were close before until she started talking stuff to ruin my relationship. My sister tried to warn me but I didn't listen at first. Of course, he wasn't any better they were two peas in a pod.

[Explorer91]

Could be about her parents and the way her parents have always felt about your parents. I had a lot of estrangements and family dynamic problems with both my dad and mum. They would never "allow" me to have relations with my cousins as they didn't like their siblings. Or they would always trash talk certain family members and make me think certain things but I could never reveal this. Or i was just so worried about my mothers rath it was easier to pretend I hated certain family members.
Anyway this may have nothing to do with you and your family. But youd be suprised how many issues peoples parents can cause within family dynamics.

[slatyb]

She's jealous Maybe during her childhood she was compared to you.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Sometimes the answer is your cousin is just evil.

You don't need her around you anyways.

[WhitneySnow]

She’s jealous of your success