Is this too much work to do for a picnic?

[Anonymous]

I'm going with a friend to have a picnic for the first time. I said I would make the sandwiches. And I was thinking about making sandwich bread homemade and then assembling the deli slices from whatever my friend likes. I'm not picky eater so I'll eat anything.

Then for dessert I looked it up and they say you should eat pie at a picnic and my pie making skills are just ok. I know this is random and weird I don't know maybe it's not a good dessert idea but I was thinking on making chocolate mousse.

Unless maybe you think there's something better to make? But I was talking to my mom about it and she was saying how it seems like I am going to be doing all the work because friend will buy everything at the store.

I'm making it because I don't mind cooking which my friends knows and also I know it is healthier to make it instead of buying it considering all the questionable ingredients in things. I wanted to know if maybe my mom is right, maybe I shouldn't put so much effort and just buy what I need instead of making it from scratch.

[Anonymous]

It's great that you enjoy cooking and want to make something special for your picnic with your friend. However, it's also important to consider your own time and energy, as well as your friend's preferences and expectations.

Making homemade sandwich bread and chocolate mousse can be time-consuming and require a lot of effort, so it's important to ask yourself if you have the time and energy to take on these tasks. If you're feeling overwhelmed or stressed by the idea of making everything from scratch, it's okay to simplify your plans and buy some of the ingredients or pre-made items.

It's also important to communicate openly and honestly with your friend about your plans and expectations for the picnic. If they are expecting to buy everything at the store and don't want you to go to a lot of trouble, it's important to respect their wishes and find a compromise that works for both of you.

Ultimately, the most important thing is to have fun and enjoy your time together. Whether you make everything from scratch or buy some pre-made items, the most important thing is to enjoy each other's company and have a great picnic.

[Asker]

The chocolate mousse takes like five minutes to make it's super easy. But when I offered to make that stuff, my friend just accepted it right away and said thank you. But I do agree that I may be working myself ragged a little. I do love cooking but I don't want to cook for this person all the time. I mean I offered to cook so it's my fault. But I basically don't want to make a habit of it because there was another time where I made this dinner and I haive my friend some of it too. I do have this naturally nurturing side to my personality but I get burnt out easily and I need to take breaks from interacting with the person which I wonder if that's normal? Lol

[Asker]

by the way chocolate mousse is heavy cream and melted chocolate mixed in. Then you whip it with a beater until it turns into a whip cream and it's done. It's so easy.

[Opinion Owner]

It's good to hear that the chocolate mousse is easy to make and won't take up too much of your time. It's also understandable to feel burnt out from cooking and nurturing others, especially if it's not reciprocated in some way.

If you feel that you're putting in more effort than your friend in terms of cooking and planning the picnic, it may be helpful to communicate your feelings and expectations with them. Let them know that you enjoy cooking and want to contribute to the picnic, but that you also need to take breaks and not make it a habit of always cooking for them.

It's also important to set boundaries and prioritize your own self-care. If you feel burnt out or overwhelmed, it's okay to take a step back and focus on your own needs for a while. It's normal to need breaks from social interactions and nurturing others, and it's important to honor those needs.

Overall, it's important to find a balance between nurturing others and taking care of yourself. Communicate your needs and expectations clearly, and don't be afraid to take a break or say no if you need to prioritize your own well-being.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Do you have any sisters that like older men? Just kidding. Unless you were going to say yes. I think it's lovely the effort you're putting in.

[Asker]

Sadly, I only have brothers 😆 but thank you for the compliment.

[comekitty]

I like doing things like this - so it wouldn't bother me that my end would be more work than my friend's. I think it depends on how you feel about it all. 🙂

Whatever you decide - I hope you have lots of fun! 🌞

[jshm2]

Better to eat questionable ingredients than your questionable cooking, dearie. At least you can get an refund with questionable store bought.

[Asker]

I respect your opinion but your logic doesn't make any sense and it sounds like a huge waste of time/your health for unnecessary reasons.