Just be who you are

[Ilovepudding]

You don't need to change who you are for someone else. Unless you've actually done something wrong or bad then yes you should change. But, becoming someone else, just for a guy? Don't. You don't have to change yourself. All you need to do is just be who you really are, then at the end, people will start coming to you and probably you'll found someone better there, in that crowd where someone actually likes you for who you are. Not who you are not.

[Drednaught]

The fact that we need to tell people this means that there's something wrong with the world that needs to be changed. (a rather disappointing notion, but true nonetheless) I've grown rather impatient by the lack of progress I've been seeing, but I'm still hoping for the best, and all we can do is make everything a little bit better by helping. (and for that I am grateful to you and others who are reminding people that we're simply human and that it's okay to make mistakes; it's part of growing up)

[IamNuts]

For someone else, true. But if you are with that person and you love someone and you tell them you wish they would stop smoking in a sensitive way or tell them to lose weight and help them out, it would be a positive change. In that case, it's false.

[Ilovepudding]

Yeah in that case it's alright, cause you help that person to be a better version of them.

[Dtegesd123]

it's never a bad thing to self improve yourself, even if it is for a guy.

[Ilovepudding]

True, but the thing is sometimes people feels so insecure about themselves, they ended up feeling like they're not good enough for that person or sometimes they feel "I'm to fat for him, I'm to ugly for him" etc

[Dtegesd123]

well in my experience and opinion, a really fit guy would not find a chubby girl attractive or relate to her as much as he would , say a fit girl. They would both like to go to the gym together and probably go on runs together. same for a smart guy, he would think he likes the pretty dumb girl, but in the end will be most happy with a smarter average looking girl.

[Anonymous]

I liked your view and its great. good to be YOU

[Ilovepudding]

Thank you! :)

[LordZero]

Truth is never lost.