Sometimes people spend years plotting to get back at you for something you didn't even know bothered them very much!
You probably aren't that kind of person. But they are out there. Any tiny slight is enough to get them to try to 'get' you, and if someone is motivated to spend tons of time and effort, the chances are they will 'get' you.
Since you are busy living your life, you probably will never suspect that someone is laying traps fro you.
Maybe they are:
- whispering to people any derogatory information they can dredge up
- playing race or gender cards, getting people to take their side against you.
- watching you, eavedropping on your conversations、
- spreading false information about you
- playing up any real mistakes or character faults you may have.
Suddenly, unexpectedly, you lose a friend, or a promotion at work, and you probably have no idea why. People who are revenge obsessed are often good at covering their tracks, and well meaning people often don't remember where they heard negative things about you, or why exactly the believe whatever slanders are being circulated.
And most people won't report to you about this behavior, either out of embarrassment or
indifference, so you aren't prepared when you get hit by the scheme someone has been
preparing, maybe for years!
So the question becomes, HOW TO PROTECT YOURSELF???
A lot of people who have been through this experience become very cautious and may seem stand-offish, afraid to let their guard down with anyone but close friends and family.
Others may themselves develop the 'revenge' complex, and start laying similar traps for others whom the suspect of being responsible for their disappointment. This is the most damaging result of the existence of the 'revenge addicts.' They infect other people with THEIR obsession!
The only healthy response is to try your best to pick up on negative feelings someone may have against you, and confront them about it, ASAP....if they know you are 'on' to them, this type of person will usually suspend their little campaign, because by definition they lack the courage to attack from the front!
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