Never apologize for a justified emotion!

[lexythelou22]

Far too many people feel as if their emotions are a bad thing. They believe that they're inconveniencing those around them by being sad or angry or maybe even happy. I've noticed too many of these cases to just remain silent about it.

NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR A JUSTIFIED EMOTION! If something bad happens to you that makes you very sad you should be able to speak to a friend about it. If said friend seems annoyed or bored by your situation, then you need to find a new friend, not apologize. Not only do you have a right to have human emotions, but you can't exactly control it!

NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR A JUSTIFIED EMOTION! If you're being disrespected or lied to and you know for an absolute fact that this is the situation, then you have the right to get angry with the person. Don't apologize for expressing that you're angry (as long as you do it in a nonviolent way). You can't really be blamed for being upset with a liar, a cheater, or even just a very bad situation or day that makes your anger spike.

NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR A JUSTIFIED EMOTION! If something very good happens to you and you just want to scream it to the world, then do so! You have the ability to show your joy! Never apologize just because your friends seem annoyed that you're happy. What true friends would be angered by your happiness anyway?!

NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR A JUSTIFIED EMOTION! If someone that you're interested in has been flirting with you and telling you sweet things or just coming onto you in a very obvious way, then of course you'll fall for them. Never apologize for admitting your interest in a person. If you aren't harming or scaring anyone, then you have no need to apologize for how you feel!

ONLY APOLOGIZE FOR AN UNJUSTIFIED EMOTION! You should definitely swallow your pride and admit that you made a mistake if you messed up. If your sister/brother/friend/spouse knocks over something of yours and it breaks, you do not have the right to physically harm them. You should apologize. If you hear a rumor from ONE person that your bf/gf is cheating and you stop talking for them for a long time, you do not have the right to be upset if they begin to talk less. You should apologize and mend the situation and work out the issues. If you chase away your friend's girlfriend, you do not have the right to claim innocence when accused. You should apologize and talk to the girl. If the emotion is not justified, do not use this as an excuse for bad behavior.

HOWEVER, YOU SHOULD STILL NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR A JUSTIFIED EMOTION!

[lumos]

It's so sad that this actually needs to be addressed. I mean it's obvious to some extent, but manipulative people are capable of ruining even our most basic instincts. Like are we actually questioning whether we have the right to be mad at someone for standing us up 10 times in a row, or hurt because someone decided to openly lie to our face? Yes, yes we are, because manipulative people suck and are extremely good at not taking any responsibility for their actions + shifting the blame to someone else, even you. It's so stupid because you know that your feelings are justified like 95% of the time, but still, in the back of your head you start questioning yourself. It's fucked up. Nice take, a good reminder to everyone who's being led on by someone.

[lexythelou22]

Actually, the reason that I wrote this is for that. My now official ex was trying to manipulate me into staying with him by claiming he did nothing wrong and that I did everything. I actually wanted to cry, I felt like the bad guy. Then I remembered what he did to me, and I knew that he deserved it.

[lumos]

I've had a few friends like that, too, sadly. One girl in particular behaved like that. She was a sweet girl but had a lot of trouble at home that she then ended up taking out on some of her friends (me included). For example, when I owed her money and forgot to bring it the next day, she would flip out at me even though it was an honest mistake. But when she owed me money, she would take her sweet time. And when I politely reminded her that she should give me my money out, she would lash out again and tell me to stop reminding her, or else she wouldn't give any money back at all. So no matter what the situation was, she was always the one who ended up screaming at me and scolding me. I've had a couple guy friends like this too. They would stand me up and act as if it was my fault that I didn't check up on them like 10 times before going to our designated meet up spot. They would lie to me and ignore me and act as if I was overreacting when I called them out. Stupid people.

[lumos]

she should give me my money back*

[orphan]

i love reading responses from @lumos

she's wise beyond her years. it's so sexy.

[lumos]

@orphan thanks dude ✌🏻️

[apple24]

O: I really like your response.

[Spiorad_Aisce]

I 80 to 90% agree with you - The parts I think differently on are if you are angry with someone just forget them, don't bring their negativity into your life and when you are really happy I tend to keep it to myself but that is just my nature.
I like Martin86 point though about how it is tough to tell a justified and unjustified emotion apart unless it is crystal clear.

[Martin86]

How do you tell the difference between a justified and unjustified emotion that leads to an action, everyone is different some people feel that harming people is justified, how can you tell them that they are wrong if its just a feeling is not justified, you have to use Emotion and Logic to get the best result.

I think you should revaluate the way you look at things if someone upsets you, you need to resolve the issues with that person that has upset you more importantly, what happens if your friend has dying relatives or family members or some other traumatic event.

your post is long and very specific if something has happened to you then I am sorry to here this,

Anger is a legitimate emotion but you are wrong if you are angry with someone you are threatening them in some kind of way in voice tone, getting closer, facial expression, may say hurtful things you later regret to actually assaulting that person. and for self preservation could leave the area.

what if someone has manic depression or is suicidal are you going to be very joyful around them or should you take into consideration other peoples feelings and back off a bit. so that they don't feel shitter?

[takumii]

Damn , reading this thread makes me wanna punch someone in the face and say

"NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR A JUSTIFIED EMOTION!"

[lexythelou22]

Well as long as punching them is 100% JUSTIFIED then DON'T APOLOGIZE FOR IT (Kidding, violence is a nono)

[KawaiiPie67]

I love this. It's a shame anyone feels guilty for acting human and emotionally.

[Ashely_Princess]

Good take 👍