Do women want a man that makes them feel like dictator queen, a man that's more like a servant and a jester?

[UtopianLobotomy]

I've been myself and still the women I want have never wanted me, and I'm not about to lower my standards, ever, that is what got me into a hell of a relationshit. I'm not playing this "game" anymore. What is wrong with a guy that makes you feel like a woman, to be cherrished and loved? What happened to living life passionately and honestly?

Some of you assume a guy who is in shape is a douche like the one below:

Yet many of those same women who believe that get with a guy like this:

I've noticed a lot of attractive, decent and intelligent women that I have tried to get to date me or even just chill out with me seem to be going for grade A douche bags. Guys with truly nothing to offer except empty compliments mixed with crude and childish behavior. I have come to the conclusion that women do not want to be swept off of their feet so to speak, it seems like the media has been telling them to reject their feminine side, that it is weakness. Tthat a man who is traditional, romantic, passionate, masculine, strong, and intense etc, is a white knight creep, an arrogant douche bag, or some asinine mix of the two. The media also suggests that being treated like a woman by man is being coddled and that the feminine traits are weak (though they are surely not), and now society is lock step and key with these forcibly injected messages, its all on a perpetual course for disaster.

Why are only sluts or unattractive crazy women the ones that want to date or sleep with me? Simply based on how I look, and yet decent women reject me based on how I look and by how I actually try to impress them and I do not play games and pretend I'm not interested (at least not for very long, I have to get to know them a little before I just walk up and start seriouslly flirting with them). I've noticed they are either with guys that they can control as servants (someone they could do way better than, and I'm talking about character people) or they are looking for guys 35 to 45 when they are in their early to mid twenties? What gives? Do women want a man who is direct, intelligent, strong physically as well as mentally? Don't you want your heart to jump, your toes to curl, your knees to get weak...to be respected and to feel like a woman?

lol, that's what I thought

[Anonymous]

It's for sure your appearance bro. It's like having money attracts gold diggers. Your appearance attracts bitches. It sucks, but hey some guys would be happy to even get bitches. To them at least they are getting pussy. More than they were getting.

In your case though bro I believe people sometimes are attracted to the opposite but in other cases they want people like them. So perhaps you are a intelligent, sensitive, and caring guy who treats women with respect. If so then you have to let your actions show that. If not then people will assume you're just some small brained douche bag because of your appearance. It sucks, but that's how it is. You have to let your actions speak more for you in certain situations with certain females.

Not only that but again some of the females that you said you're into might not like really jacked guys regardless of personality. Superficial for sure though. In a sense they might be bitches too.

The females who are in their 20s and looking for guys in his 30s to 40s probably think those guys are more mature. That can't be further from the truth. I've met some immature 30s and 40s year old men. Some may also be into the daddy little girl thing. I mean not all, but I wouldn't be surprised if a large percentage of those kind of girls are just that... little girls (in mind and not age).

Just don't give up bro.

[rjroy3]

If you're hyper into working out there will be that group of girls who are turned off by it, because of the stereotype. The same goes for guys driving a nice sports car. A percentage of girls just are not into that.

So it's either A, the girls you want are the girls who are turned off by you at first glance and you have some work to do. Or B, you're doing something else wrong and need to figure out what it is. Just saying, "all girls are liars! And society perpetuates a lie! " doesn't help you. I'm black and I've hooked up with girls who were racist lol. If I can do that, you can break your stereotype

[UtopianLobotomy]

there's a lot of other factors, I know sll too well, livin in the wilderness is one, n just my particular life

[flypaper]

Don't you want your heart to jump, your toes to curl, your knees to get weak... to be respected and to feel like a woman?

[flypaper]

Yeah most woman do but different things get them there. they are individual people and looking and wanting and attracted to different things. Also just because you perceive yourself as a great guy and a great catch doesn't mean other perceive you the same way. Different strokes for differient folks.