There are three main ways that a female can influence a man: By how she looks. By what she says. By how she behaves. There are others but this is enough for now.
Weak men are controlled by women because they have no defenses to her influences. If she looks the right way he feels powerless to say, "no" to her. If she says the right thing he's willing to replace his own thoughts/opinions with what she said without critically considering whether what she said makes sense. If she does something horrible to him he can be made to forget it by her touch. She basically has a remote control that she can push buttons on and make him dance like a puppet on strings.
If you follow my instructions you will take back control and be able to tune women's usual methods of influence/control out just as easily as using a light switch.
Think of your brain as a series of muscles. There's parts of your brain that are bulging with muscle like a roid raging pro wrestler. You've trained it to serve random women. Every single time you look at some random woman's assets because it makes you feel good or to lust you're training your mind to enjoy doing that. Your mind is like a drug addict hooked on coke and you're feeding it mountains of coke every day. Now this doesn't mean that when you figure out how to control your mind that you can never look. It just means that you'll be in full control of your actions and thoughts! You will be immune to any woman using that drug to get what she wants from you. The parts of your mind that let you determine your goals and to say, 'no' to a woman are skinny like a limp noodle.
What to do:
1. Determine some life goals that aren't focused on women at all. Then make some short term goals that will get you closer to your life goals. By doing this you are training your mind to stop valuing the short term chemical rush you get from chasing women so much. You're also setting yourself up to have real confidence and to not feel like you're a beggar when you deal with women.
2. Realize that these women need attention like a vampire needs blood. When you see that woman in yoga pants walking around at the store just ignore her. Why would you give her something for nothing? What kind of fool would give something valuable for free? Besides, let these women tell it they don't want you to look anyhow. Yoga pants is just an example. It actually does not matter what she's wearing. Don't even look until you get to the point where you can honestly say that looking doesn't give you some chemical rush/high. When I look at women on the street it's like looking at a random statue or piece of furniture in a museum. Nothing more. It's especially important to avoid and ignore attention whores. If you're giving women thumbs up or other praise because they asked, "how do I look" you're most likely
doing it wrong.
3. Study up on how some of the best looking women out there turned out to be doing evil things to the man they were with and realize that it's much smarter to avoid destructive women than to chase them. Then realize that every single woman of any attraction level has the same potential. Now you're ready to rate woman by their character instead of their looks. The 10 point scale isn't really important anymore. Yes, you can have your own standard for what kind of woman you want to be with but there's no point in using that scale to compare her to others for the same reason you wouldn't by a car just based on the paint job. It's a minor part of the equation and when you focus too much on the minor part you lose sight of the important stuff.
4. Make your standard the only thing that matters. Not how much skin she shows or the chemical rush you felt when you saw her walking down the street. I don't care if 1,000 guys say she looks hot. If she's not "hot" in terms of your standard for her character then ignore her. Period.
5. Stop blindly believing what women say. A lot of these women can control a man just by speaking. It's a superhero level power but it only works if you listen. Ask yourself if you'd believe her if she weighed 550 pounds and had a mouth full of rotten teeth? Ask yourself if what she says lines up with her actions. Never rush to believe what she says. Always THINK. There's a reason why courts (should) need evidence too. It's wise to look at evidence.
5. Don't be afraid of saying, NO to people. It's not always easy and that is exactly why it isn't a trait of weak people. If someone wants something from you or for you to do something and you don't believe it's good for YOU or it doesn't fit into your goals/plans, then just say NOPE. It gets easier with practice.
6. Stop letting random women touch you. It's one of the ways they can get in your head.
7. What is the most important thing a woman can have - based on my experience ? They're all connected: Loyalty, respect (for you and herself). But you also need to be the best you can be if you want top quality. I've written more on these topics in other MyTakes.
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