me too find this friendzone term confusing.. just bcz she was nice to me that doesn't mean i owe her anything... in my case it would be "nice girls" and assholes is replaced by hot or slutty... if you want to be nice with someone do it without complaining, that time you want something back for your "nicely" things... you are not nice anymore! ... plus everyone has a right to choose.
yupp! its true... i just hate that someone states me bad and asshole and only bcz she was nice to me and want to be more than friends... its my life, i have right to choose which girl i want to be with... there is no rule or paycheck for it.
The friendzone does not exist because if a girl puts a guy in the friendzone he isn't really a friend. She would never have his back like a real friend would but will expect him to be there for her when her relationship falls apart. Let me let you in on a little secret girls, guys aka I don't give a care in the world about your relationship problems that you come to me with lol.
Thats not necessarily true. Theyre not just gonna fall inlove with you cause you're nice. They just don't like you obviously. Not saying it towards you but to all the guys that need to shutup and grow some ovaries and get over the fact that their crush doesn't like them back. Its just them making excuses
Honestly I'd still be friends wit her, find another girl, be goin on double dates wit her and get bf (wouldn't care cuz I'm not that jealous type), then if her and her bf broke up, she'll know she missed out on a good thing because I treat my girls great.
I'm a bad boy dog potential back door man lover at heart stuck in a friend-zone world of decent sensible mature manhood. I think I'm going to start saying and doing the opposite of what I really mean to be understood by WOMEN. I think I'll just start being a jerk... an as$ -hole so I can get laid. Superficial and stupid... this society! F-your gender!!!
fk all that shiit. Females will fk over any guy mostly us nice guys.
There is no point of a relationship or to get married to a female because these females will either destroy or eventually get tired of you and fk you over.
these females that are obsessed with the badboy are just immature and will stay like that until they are 50 until no one wants them.
No more like 30+ when they either desperate for kids or want you to wife them up because they are seeing all their friends getting married and feel like they are being left behind.
Girls being attracted to jerks is simply just girls thinking with what's between their legs instead of using their brain. You never to fail to hear about men thinking with their dicks, but this is the equivalent, and it's at least just as prevalent.
I think when a girl friendzones a guy she only sees him as a "friend" and nothing more nothing less. She ain't attractive to him or sees chemistry between him and her. I've been friend zone before and it happens and I don't think nothing of it. I really don't see myself as boyfriend material anyway but wish the best for the girl none the less.
It seems like daily I have to run a hand over my face at some guys' comment on GaG.
1) Attractive does NOT automatically mean hot. It could simply mean cute. 2) Many women want an attractive nice guy. What's not hard to get? Again, if you need to understand what attractive is, go to number 1.
You say Attractiveness does not automatically mean hot but could mean cute... Basically the same thing... Thats like saying being skinny and being not fat are two different things... Theyre the same. Both mean appeasing to the eyes of others.
Yeah, Many women do want an attractive nice guy, I never denied that, I simply said, It dosent matter how nice you are if you aren't attractive, You need a combination of the two, BUT, You can get by on Attractiveness alone, Sure, You probably won't have long commited relationships, But, You will still get with lots of partners, However, If you are simply nice and not attractive, you're fucked, Noone wants that, Its human nature.
My point was, If you are ugly, You are fucked. You may aswell just give up with any hope of Social acceptence / relationships before you even start. Ugly people, Are fucked in life. Simples.
@JaysunPro @gabbyhopeislame But it helps quite a lot if your a kind of exiting (if you have a sense of adventure, like if you surprise the girl when asking her out), right?
It takes awhile for us to realize the 'perfect guy' could be the nice guy we friend zoned. The one who always been there when we had relationship problems etc. I think of the movie 13 Going on 30 lol
Well then if the nice guy is not attractive enough i think we should just go to the gym and make ourselves more attractive and become assholes... and then use you then dump you right... After all that's all you want? The rush right?
never said that. With this take, I just wanted to hopefully shed some light on that whole nice guy vs. assholes thing. I don't have a solution for the problem. lol
Hmm. I don't quite agree. I know very few women seeking jerks than most of the jerks pretending to be nice. They have the look that attracts many women and pretend to be nice.
that makes it very difficult for guys like me and my friends... I mean I know I'm not the best looking guy out there, but I always try to be the best man I can be. I was always told growing up that women want a guy who will treat them right. a guy who is nice and kind and sweet and caring and compassionate but a guy who is also loyal and has a backbone and is willing to defend her "honor". I've always tried to be that guy but it doesn't seem to get me really far lol.
i don't "friend zone them" I dont even understand that. I don't sleep with girls I don't like, and I have dated heaps. if it doesn't work I leave, or they do. We don't talk but are on good terms. Basically how it works, then move on..
If a girl isn't into the moving fast into relationships you could mistake it for friendzoning and then if she's not interested in you. You have to be up front about what you want if you're serious about her.
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me too find this friendzone term confusing.. just bcz she was nice to me that doesn't mean i owe her anything... in my case it would be "nice girls" and assholes is replaced by hot or slutty... if you want to be nice with someone do it without complaining, that time you want something back for your "nicely" things... you are not nice anymore! ... plus everyone has a right to choose.
makes sense!
yupp! its true... i just hate that someone states me bad and asshole and only bcz she was nice to me and want to be more than friends... its my life, i have right to choose which girl i want to be with... there is no rule or paycheck for it.
The friendzone does not exist because if a girl puts a guy in the friendzone he isn't really a friend. She would never have his back like a real friend would but will expect him to be there for her when her relationship falls apart. Let me let you in on a little secret girls, guys aka I don't give a care in the world about your relationship problems that you come to me with lol.
Thats not necessarily true. Theyre not just gonna fall inlove with you cause you're nice. They just don't like you obviously. Not saying it towards you but to all the guys that need to shutup and grow some ovaries and get over the fact that their crush doesn't like them back. Its just them making excuses
like your take :) to answer your question:
if a nice guy friendzones a girl, she´s just a bit unhappy for a few days till another guy finds her and tries to get in their pants (exagerated).
a douchy guy won´t friendzone... it´s either fuck her or cut her out completely.
IF there are still other guys who wants to get in their pants. lol
lol there are allways guys who want that :P not allways at the appropriate age but yeah...
that's true lol a hole is a hole XD
Honestly I'd still be friends wit her, find another girl, be goin on double dates wit her and get bf (wouldn't care cuz I'm not that jealous type), then if her and her bf broke up, she'll know she missed out on a good thing because I treat my girls great.
I'm a bad boy dog potential back door man lover at heart stuck in a friend-zone world of decent sensible mature manhood. I think I'm going to start saying and doing the opposite of what I really mean to be understood by WOMEN. I think I'll just start being a jerk... an as$ -hole so I can get laid. Superficial and stupid... this society! F-your gender!!!
Idiocy then.
Well no more idiocy than the girl who CHOSE the jerk. It was said in the askers passage; how much DOES logic really play a role in it? None.
fk all that shiit. Females will fk over any guy mostly us nice guys.
There is no point of a relationship or to get married to a female because these females will either destroy or eventually get tired of you and fk you over.
these females that are obsessed with the badboy are just immature and will stay like that until they are 50 until no one wants them.
Go MGTOW!!
No more like 30+ when they either desperate for kids or want you to wife them up because they are seeing all their friends getting married and feel like they are being left behind.
Girls being attracted to jerks is simply just girls thinking with what's between their legs instead of using their brain. You never to fail to hear about men thinking with their dicks, but this is the equivalent, and it's at least just as prevalent.
In fact, it is *more* prevalent. :-(
I think when a girl friendzones a guy she only sees him as a "friend" and nothing more nothing less. She ain't attractive to him or sees chemistry between him and her. I've been friend zone before and it happens and I don't think nothing of it. I really don't see myself as boyfriend material anyway but wish the best for the girl none the less.
I don't friend zone. If they asked. I'd go on s date. If they are considered friends. I like them enough for that.
Wow, thats actually a good point. This makes sense.
@albundyfan thanks! Some of us do think logically. I learned it from Spock actually. 😁
That's kind of how I always saw it. Most of my female friends ALSO have qualities that I look for in a woman, so why wouldn't I date them?
So, Basically, Girls like Hot guys over nice guys, And also if nice guy is not hot he's fucked regardless?
Nothing new here.
I never said anything about hot or not.
''there's also the possibility that the best friend or the "nice guy" is just not attractive enough for her''
oh really?
It seems like daily I have to run a hand over my face at some guys' comment on GaG.
1) Attractive does NOT automatically mean hot. It could simply mean cute.
2) Many women want an attractive nice guy. What's not hard to get? Again, if you need to understand what attractive is, go to number 1.
FOR THE GIRL.
Doesn't mean he's not attractive for other girls.
You say Attractiveness does not automatically mean hot but could mean cute... Basically the same thing... Thats like saying being skinny and being not fat are two different things... Theyre the same. Both mean appeasing to the eyes of others.
Yeah, Many women do want an attractive nice guy, I never denied that, I simply said, It dosent matter how nice you are if you aren't attractive, You need a combination of the two, BUT, You can get by on Attractiveness alone, Sure, You probably won't have long commited relationships, But, You will still get with lots of partners, However, If you are simply nice and not attractive, you're fucked, Noone wants that, Its human nature.
My point was, If you are ugly, You are fucked. You may aswell just give up with any hope of Social acceptence / relationships before you even start. Ugly people, Are fucked in life. Simples.
Uh, no, ugly people marry and date ugly people. They do have someone--each other.
@Riggers
Dudes are the same way.
Guys only want hot girls. If you're not hot you're screwed.
All this relationship shit works both ways.
I dont get why either side bitches
So if you're a nice guy (i am). Would girls consider you dateable of you have a sense of adventure? Spontanity? And if your exiting?
Like you stated?
they might. Depends on the girl
Go ask ask the girl nice guy.
No just be you GOD they like who they like someone wiLL FIND YOU AND LOVE YOU
@JaysunPro
@gabbyhopeislame
But it helps quite a lot if your a kind of exiting (if you have a sense of adventure, like if you surprise the girl when asking her out), right?
@TheDevilInside (Take owner)
Most girls like a spontaneous guy right?
Right but i was saying be you. Like dont try to be something so girls will like you.
dude, every girl is different.
It takes awhile for us to realize the 'perfect guy' could be the nice guy we friend zoned. The one who always been there when we had relationship problems etc. I think of the movie 13 Going on 30 lol
Well then if the nice guy is not attractive enough i think we should just go to the gym and make ourselves more attractive and become assholes... and then use you then dump you right... After all that's all you want? The rush right?
never said that.
With this take, I just wanted to hopefully shed some light on that whole nice guy vs. assholes thing.
I don't have a solution for the problem. lol
Hmm. I don't quite agree. I know very few women seeking jerks than most of the jerks pretending to be nice. They have the look that attracts many women and pretend to be nice.
that makes it very difficult for guys like me and my friends... I mean I know I'm not the best looking guy out there, but I always try to be the best man I can be. I was always told growing up that women want a guy who will treat them right. a guy who is nice and kind and sweet and caring and compassionate but a guy who is also loyal and has a backbone and is willing to defend her "honor". I've always tried to be that guy but it doesn't seem to get me really far lol.
We do. But we want to be attracted to you as well. Like sure similar goes to you.
Pretty fucked up how guys get messed around. I know girls do too but we don't have a strategy that lasts longer than the first shag.
some guys do it consciously, some don't even know that they're doing it.
What do you think happens when a guy friendzones a girl?
i don't "friend zone them" I dont even understand that. I don't sleep with girls I don't like, and I have dated heaps. if it doesn't work I leave, or they do. We don't talk but are on good terms. Basically how it works, then move on..
Nice guys and veggies and fruits. Bad boys are unhealthy, delicious desserts. One can become the best medicine for you, the other poison.
If a girl isn't into the moving fast into relationships you could mistake it for friendzoning and then if she's not interested in you. You have to be up front about what you want if you're serious about her.
I tend to start out as friend with a guy and see where is goes I don't think of him with potential and then 'friend zone'.
same here =) there's no "friend zone" for me. Unless he is butt ugly.
It's all on the dude... he doesn't have to give his attention to a girl that doesn't sexually / romantically want him!