A girl lied to me about not having Facebook. Is it worth trying to talk to her further?

[Agrojag]

We're both starting our new job and I had been talking to her. It was our second day and I asked if she had a Facebook because I wasn't sure we'd see much of each other going forward. She said she didn't but she lied. Should I talk to her if I see her again? And did I do anything wrong?

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Just to clarify: I'm not upset or angry at all. I was just wondering if was her way of saying "go away." I never intended to confront her or make a fuss of it. I just thought it was slightly odd as nobody has done that with me before.

[Jared216]

The people who I have met that are most dishonest either have 2 facebooks or no facebook. I worked with a guy that said he didn't have a Facebook page, turns out all the people that have had a problem with him would have found him, don't forget the child support. He stole from my company.
Also I am contacted by a number of girls that have actual Facebook pages, some that I am friends with, and they wanted me to add their other Facebook page.
Nope, sorry the Facebook page of a cheater is pretty obvious if you look close, usually no lady/men friends (no friends outside of sexual preference), joined Facebook recently, under 50 friends total, lots of post laden with sex/sexy stuff, and no family.
Take your games else where, I don't have time for dumb fake people that think they are playing smart people games and getting away with it.

[M_A_X]

I'mma be real with you bro. No, no you shouldn't talk to her again. The women in here who are telling you that you should? They're justifying it because they could see themselves lying and doing the same thing. You don't trust someone that would lie to you, man, anyone should know that, plain and simple.

She flat out lied. She didn't say "Yeah, I'll give it to you next time" or something. She lied, which means she's capable of lying, and untrustworthy. Cut the line and let the fish go

[Agrojag]

This is what I was thinking. I never intended to take things far with her anyway. Just curious why someone would lie about something like Facebook. I didn't even ask for her number.

[caramel_latte]

That is a strange thing to lie about, maybe you should dig a little deeper and try to find out why she lied about that before proceeding? I will be honest, and in the past I have not wanted coworkers to be friends with me on Facebook because it is my private page and I don't need to bring work into my personal life and don't need coworkers to know everything about me, ya know? So that is one reason. Another reason could be, she has a boyfriend but she is interested in you and getting to know you further and doesn't want you to know she has a boyfriend already. The second scenario is obviously a lot worse and doesn't make her the best person. But, before jumping to any conclusions I would try and figure out why she lied. There must be a reason!

[caramel_latte]

Or maybe, she used to use her Facebook but no longer does? So she told you she doesn't have one because she doesn't use it? There are just too many reasons, really. Don't waste your time and energy worrying about it... if you see her at work just talk to her there, no big deal.

[Agrojag]

I'm not. I'll just talk to her like nothing happened if I see her. I was only just meeting her so I wasn't invested in any way. We just had some similar interests so I thought I'd ask. I don't even know if I'd like her as more than a friend so that's why I asked for Facebook instead of her number so it would seem more an offer of friendship than a proposition.

[YokaiTenshi]

Well girls more than guys are a lot more protective over their private information and social networking, especially with Facebook because some girls don't like to spread out information about their personal lives to their co workers. Get to know her better first and then she'll send you a friend request :)

This same thing happened with me and my co worker John. He wanted to know my Facebook but I barely knew him at the time so I told him no. Then after a few weeks of getting to know him it was fine because I have gotten more comfortable around him.

Good luck! :)

[Anonymous]

I don't see why someone having or not having a Facebook should matter. Maybe she has a reason for why she lied. Maybe she wanted to wait until you were more serious. You never know, maybe she had guys in the past creep her page and so she feels uncomfortable sharing it right away. Wait until you get to know each other better before you decided if you want to see her again. Lying about Facebook seems such a petty think to get upset over.

[Agrojag]

No, I'm not upset. I don't know if the way I asked the question seemed angry, but I was just wondering if it was a way of saying "go away." I was just being friendly. I don't even know if I like her as anything more than a Facebook friend anyway.

[Prof_Don]

I see where he's coming from... he is about the principle of her lying over "such a petty thing" as a major character flaw.

[angel77beats]

No you didn't do anything wrong, hmm maybe she has embarrassing stuff on her wall that she doesn't want you to see maybe? Its possible , and ya you can talk to her I mean its just Facebook , you never know you don't want to stop talking to her over something like that right?

[Agrojag]

It's interesting to me how many of the guys see it as a burning of the bridge but the more than half of the girls think I should continue. In your shoes, if you told a guy you didn't have Facebook, but he continued talking to you, would you be okay with that?

[angel77beats]

yeah why not? Talking never hurt anyone , Right?

[Agrojag]

That's what I'd figure but people are getting stranger and stranger these days.

[angel77beats]

I think we all just over analyze things too much, you know? But just talk to her :)

[pooper89]

Well there could be multiple reasons for why she lied about that. She either, A) doesn't like you and wants no further contact with you, B) she has some stuff on her Facebook that she doesn't want you to see, or C) she doesn't like electronic communication (highly unlikely but that's one of the reasons I would have personally)

[Metal189]

does A prove that guys and girls can't be "just friends"?

[Agrojag]

I don't know. She said she didn't have one but then as she was leaving said," See you Sunday." I mean I'm not really concerned about any of this anyway so whatever.

[pooper89]

Metal189, send me a PM and we can discuss it

[Stacyzee]

She doesn't want you to have outside contact with her.
She could have been honest.
But I could see why she wasn't, she probably isn't an upfront type of person.

I would continue small talk with her, but I wouldn't try to lead
it to anything further.

[Stacyzee]

I'd be friendly, but try to limit my conversation with her.

[NoblesseOblige]

She's weird. I've never had any problems adding anyone from work. Ignore all weirdos.

[Agrojag]

Haha! I know, right? It's Facebook for fuck's sake!

[NoblesseOblige]

Some people don't like adding coworkers. Who cares. For sure, she's not hot for you if she says no.

[Agrojag]

That's true, but I don't think anyone can really form an attraction to someone after so brief a time. I wasn't planning anything serious for this one anyway so it's no big deal. Maybe I'll just say hi to her if she's around or ask how she's doing but that's about it.

[NoblesseOblige]

Attraction is instant. It's either there or not. For both genders. Game over.

[Agrojag]

For me that isn't totally the case, but I won't disagree that that's how most people work. I kind of think this one is a butterface with a fantastic body. I was trying to find out if I liked her or not.

[Anonymous]

No, don't stress it. Maybe the 2nd day was too early foe you to ask for FaceBook. She could possibly be one of those person who don't give out her details like that to someone she rarely know or she wasn't interested in you do she lied to spare your feelings. I'd ignore her.

[Opinion Owner]

You can simply say hi but you don't have to start a convo. If she starts one with you, then you can have one with her

[BertMacklinFBI]

you didn't do anything wrong she's prob just trying to avoid keeping contact with you. why else would any normal human being lie? unless she really likes you and wants to hide her embarrassing Facebook profile

[suzannahh]

you didn't do anything wrong as far as i can tell. maybe she's not interested? and yes do talk to her, but don't immediately start about the whole "you do have fb" subject

[BertMacklinFBI]

bahahahha

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Not worth talking to her, if she lied about having Facebook
what other lies can she tell you see what i mean?

[Anonymous]

Wow stalker much? it's more disturbing to me that you googled or face booked her then it is that she lied. She's not interested, you should have just taken the hint

[Agrojag]

No, I didn't stalk her much. Just a 3 second search on Facebook.

[Agrojag]

You seem like one of those people who are easily creeped... we'd get along great!

[Ninanda]

Well you should know the reason first. It looks like she didn't want to contact you in any other platforms, so it's up to you to keep talking or not.

[Flashbang1]

Nope! I wouldn't only not bother trying to see her again, but I wouldn't really even talk to her more than work related topics.

[jbmd91]

Why would you care about something so minuscule? Facebook? Really? Who gives a shit? That's not a big lie.

[Agrojag]

That's my point. I don't think it's a big deal. I think it's even more ridiculous to lie about something so trivial. A totally random person walking down the street could ask me to add them on Facebook and I wouldn't care.

[jbmd91]

Dude, if it's not a big deal, then don't make a big deal of it.

[Agrojag]

No, I'm not. I'm just trying to figure out if this was her way of saying "go away" or if I should just talk to her as I have been doing.

[jbmd91]

Okay. This is how I would think of it. If she doesn't have Facebook, I'm going to try to talk to her the next day. So have you talked to her since?

[Anonymous]

No, don't bother. She was rejecting you unfortunately, don't pester or put her on the spot.

[Agrojag]

I might just say hi if she's around. I only asked for Facebook because I didn't want it to seem as if I was asking her out because I'm looking for friends and I don't see her as anything more at this point.

[Anonymous]

It's a polite way of saying she didn't want you to have it.

[DragonWolf]

How come you're sure she got facebook?

[Agrojag]

Searched her name. I don't believe the things people tell me so I check to see if they're liars or not.

[DragonWolf]

well, a classmate of mine also doesn't have facebook, but other classmates created an account for him including a picture of him, but he never uses it. So just saying, if you find her name, it doesn't mean she's actually on it...

[PrincessAphrodite]

figure out why she lied first

[Metal189]

best not to confront people. you can, but i for sure wouldn't want to be confronted. she obviously lied on purpose

[Agrojag]

No, I'm not going to be confrontational about it. She or the situation isn't worth it. I just thought it was something kind of stupid to lie about. I don't take Facebook very seriously and most of my "friends" are people I don't even know so maybe I just have a different perspective.