I think i've lead him on and I don't like him anymore.. What do I do?

[ILoveChocolatey]

Basically i liked this guy a lot and really wanted to get to know him, the next day i went to his house and we was cuddling and watching movies, we also kissed.. And then after that day i realised his personality was a little boring and there was no chemistry between us.. But i still thought i liked him. He texted me and i told him i liked him and after that i started doubting my feelings and changing my mind. I thought that maybe if i meet him one more time i'll see if i really do like him but in the end realised i don't. This guy really does like me and i've basically lead him on. I feel so horrible and mean and i honestly did not intend to hurt him in anyway. The second day we met we literally had no connection what so ever, i just didn't feel it but he still carried on texting me. I really don't know what to do.. And i'm too scared to be honest with him because i know he'll get hurt :(

Tell him how i really feel

Hint to him that i dont like him anymore

[yaddayaddayadda02]

First of all. Stop your whole line of thinking. It's dangerous and wrong.

Learn this. You can not control other people's feelings. You cannot prevent someone from being hurt. You can reject people in an upfront, gentle way - vs. being a bitch about it - but you cannot prevent them from being hurt.

I guarantee that lying and half-saying what you mean will only hurt worse in the long run.

You can say something as simple as "I think you're a cool guy, but I just don't feel any attraction to you. I just don't think we're compatible. Thanks for the dates, It was nice meeting you, but I only want a friendship from you going forward. If you are comfortable with that, we can keep talking - but I understand that you may not want a friendship".

He may be hurt but he'll respect you for your honesty.

You did not lead him on. You were unsure of your feelings. Now you are sure. IF you were sure of your feelings at the start and went out with him, then you would be leading him on.

[ILoveChocolatey]

Thanks so much!!! Your the best :)

[rUinSAYAN]

be a good person and think about how you would feel if you know it now vs. if you know it later. don't waste him more time. if you really are a good person and want to keep him somehow tell him you could help him with other girls instead. you can tell other girls that he's a good guy and so and do him a favor instead of hurting him and he will like you more for it

[Anonymous]

seems like your searching for something that will never exist so stop wasting his time and tell him the truth and than stop being around him, learn to know what you want first and not keep expecting a guy to choose for you, cause it doesn't work that way, let him get a chance with a "better" girl

[kerihobo]

just say "look, its not you, its me. I've changed my mind about things, i dont want to see you anymore."

[Freidrich4444]

He probably knows about his personality deficit anyway, so chill. It's not your fault you're fit.

[Peter05]

Just cut him off
Don't care about him

[ILoveChocolatey]

Thats such a mean thing to do but i guess he'll get over it.. Thanks for the opinion.