Is it true girls call "dibs" on guys?

[Anonymous]

Do girls in friend groups call "dibs" on guys? I remember flirting several times with different girls at parties, and the same girl (Let's call her Rachel) would pull them away from me.

Half the time, the girls I flirted with first approached me.

Did Rachel call dibs on me?

[MissBex95]

well some girls keep a list (of eligible guys that they like) or I know some of my friends who are really close with their guy friends, but have friend-zoned them will be like "we're just friends but I have him saved" which is basically code for I like him, and only I can make a move if I want to, but it depends on the girl.

[Asker]

How does that "we're friends but I have him saved" work?

Say your friend did that to a guy you liked, wouldn't you do something about it?

[MissBex95]

I mean it depends where the girl or guy is at in their life, like say the girl isn't really ready to be in a relationship, she might friend zone the guy she has "saved" but it depends. Not all girls do this btw, this is just an example lol

[washize]

Depends, some girls do, but that doesn't mean everyone in the group would respect it. From what you described it sounds like rachel was being aggressive since she pulled you away from the other women vs. The other women avoding you and/or pushing you and rachel together.

[Asker]

It does seem aggressive. Though she did pull the girls away from me rather than actually me being pulled away.

For the second part, women avoiding a guy. You're telling me if a girl likes a guy, other girls in her friend group will intentionally avoid the guy?

[washize]

Some will yes, in order to give their friend a chance and help the hookup process along.

[PrettyBama]

In my group it depends on how cute the guy is. Usually the ones he's attainable to will talk to him and we let him decide. If he talks to one more than the others then everyone else has to fall back.

[Asker]

If he talks to one more than the others, does everyone back out naturally? Like nothing is said they just give them sapce?

Also, if he speaks equally to everyone, then it's fair game?

[PrettyBama]

Everyone backs out naturally lol and if they don't they get chewed out for it later. If he speaks equally to everyone we all get bored until the last one is standing lol usually he says something dumb and at least half will back off. Then hell get boring and more will back out lol

[Asker]

Your comment has actually been so helpful

[PrettyBama]

Yay! Thanks

[Plato]

Not always, sometimes. Friends I suppose do call dibs, it's a way of preventing cat fighting. Needs more detail though.

[Anonymous]

I have never been with a group of girls where it's like, "oh I call him, that one's mine". However, if someone mentions they're attracted to a certain dude, it's polite to stay on the back burner and give her a shot. If he isn't interested and comes after you instead, all bets are off. I wouldn't do that to my girl though, if she REALLY liked a guy.

[Anonymous]

I'd call dibs. It's an individual thing, not a universal thing. But I wouldn't get the guy anyway so... It's pointless. Rachel could have called dibs on you or she's the only one interested.

[Anonymous]

Yeah sometimes