The first time i got catcalled i was 8 years old walking alone back to our apartment from picking up the mail not far, and i passed by a unit next to ours. There was some teenage guys on the stairs and they catcalled me. I don't know what they were saying, but I knew it was inappropriate because i felt scared and violated they were whistling and calling out to me, i felt uncomfortable. But I ignored them.
I never told my parents because those boys didn't "do anything" they didn't touch me. And because of that I was unsure whether to tell, I never had that type of conversation with my parents yet. I didn't know it was catcalling, but now I know.
And that's another reason why it bothers me when people say "don't dress like a slut and you won't get catcalled", I think any girl that's been catcalled knows that isn't true. A catcaller will catcall when they want to and whoever they want slut or not. I'm a very modest person and lazy, so i wear jeans, sweats, and hoodies 24/7, and I still had creeps catcalling and even some "pimps" trying to lure me in with money and lack of charisma
This world is so scary, it makes me not want to have a daughter, but if I do, definitely teach her what's ok and not ok, and what to do about it so she won't be like me (unsure and unprepared). And so she can protect herself.
Been cat called regularly since I was 13 and started walking to and from the bus to school daily. Used to smile and sort of take it as a "compliment" cause I was raised to think my only value as a girl was to be pretty and have guys want me. Quickly learned the load of crap that is. Also quickly saw the ugly face of much of that cat calling once I started ignoring it or making it clear I had no interest/didn't like being dog whistled or shouted at by random strangers from a distance. Was regularly met with insults and mockery, sometimes threatened or followed, several times assaulted.
To the guys who do this: we are not things that exist in public space for your entertainment, we're not pretty objects for you to randomly out loud pass judgement on every time we leave the privacy of our homes. The couple of women who will for some reason be flattered when you cat call her, don't suddenly make up for the (many more) women who feel extremely uncomfortable or threatened by your unwanted random comments on her sexual appeal or what you'd like to do to her body. Stop.
wait what? first off, cat calling is rare, incredibly rare. The vast majority of men don't ever cat call. Secondly, it's as if all the ugly girls are the one getting cat called, i mean goddamn, look at your picture, look at your goddamned face , you're a 30 year old woman who looks like a clown, why the fuck will a man even look at you let alone cat call you.
Don't flatter yourself, you'd be lucky to get cat called once in a Millennium.
@HeyThereBaby Sorry you're so insecure you need to take it out on others. I get it's easy to shit all over other people's appearance and pretend they simply must be lying to soothe the negativity you feel about your own looks and the feeling nobody notices or wants you. Nobody should have to feel that way. I'm sure you're perfectly beautiful. People's preferences differ.
Cat calling is often about expressing power and control, not necessarily attraction, by the way. Most of it isn't meant as a compliment (which becomes quite often apparent by the level of verbal aggression or attempts at ridicule when you respond negatively, as well as the aparent discomfort of a lot of cat callers when you actually respond seriously to certain advances).
Third, it's not because the majority of guys don't cat call, that the majority of women don't experience it. It's almost as if, get a load of this, a guy can cat call multiple women. Who'd have thought!
@HeyThereBaby, @AmesJane looks like a clown? Are you kidding? She is gorgeous! I usually not one for facial piercings, but she actually might change my mind. (Love your hair color too).
@freakyzeaky Granted, she was talking about the previous profile pic in which my lipstick is green and my hair purple :'D :'D
Regardless, I could have been ugly as all hell, doesn't make it less pathetic for anyone to shit on another person for it like this. I just hope she gets more comfortable in her own skin and life so she doesn't need to degrade others to feel somewhat good about herself.
@freakyzeaky You're funny. "oh look at me, i'm coming to defend this poor woman, look at me i'm so nice, oh and by the way she's gorgeous"
I'm not going to throw anymore personal insults at her, but know that you're one of the most pathetic man I've ever seen. You have a fucked up definition of the word 'gorgeous'.
And you do know she'll report you to police if you ever called her 'gorgeous' in public, she hates catcalling and she hates men. She doesn't want to be objectified you dumb fuck.
@HeyThereBaby Haha! I always get a kick out of people getting all big and brave behind a keyboard.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You carrying on like an immature little brat is more telling of who you are as a person than anything else.
It was my honest opinion. She is a big girl, she can "defend" herself.
Call the police? Haha! Go ahead, call the damn police! I have never catcalled a woman, but I will honestly compliment a woman on her appearance, attire, or whatever else. If that is "objectifying", then we are all objects. Admiration is not the same as entitlement.
@HeyThereBaby I'll speak for myself, thanks. If you can't tell the difference between this context here, and actual cat calling, I suggest you go participate in conversations where you at least know what the actual frick you're on about. I also don't know where you get the idea that I hate men. Please do yourself a favour and go find some happiness. Preferably in a healthier way than... this.
Been cat called. Been attacked for ignoring said catcalls.
It's worse at comic cons. I've had entire parts of costumes ripped off and destroyed because some dudes decided I had to prove I "deserved" to like the video game I was cosplaying. Because I'm a woman so obviously I'm only in it to ruin boys lives when really I'm there to... wear a costume and buy some comics. Once one of the quizzer types I know more than him instead of answering his stupid questions that he followed me around the dealer's room with. So he ripped my prop weapon off my back and destroyed it and would have hit me over the head with it had another person not finally decided to step in. Another guy with two small kids in a Deadpool shirt threatened me for being dressed as Marty McFly and followed me around calling me various unsavory things for 25 mins. Probably would have been more if I hadn't managed to lose him in a crowd.
Those are the extreme examples but I've got plenty more where they came from. The kicker is cons are still where I'm safest lol.
I hear about stuff like this and it baffles me. I can't even fathom what thought process goes through someone's mind to be like "Oh hey, there's a person who, in SOME capacity, likes something that I also like. Guess I'll go up and be an asshole to them about it".
I hope I never actually see stuff like this happen, but if I do, I'm probably going to lose my shit.
"Men" don't cat call. It's always nasty people who cat call (including women who do it to men)
I have been cat called and it isn't a big deal. There is a difference between some idiot construction worker yelling across the street "Hey Sexy" and a guy waking up to you and saying "I would so fuck you" *Both of which have happened to me*
The "Hey Sexy" is a harmless meathead who isn't a threat and if you think it's scary you need to get over your victim complex.
The "I would so fuck you" guy was a psycho and yes that is an issue. We need to stop lumping them all in the same bucket. They are not the same.
One of the most affected are lesbian girls For unknown reasons, guys come and dash on them, maybe hoping to see girl&girl relation and join the relation? I dunno but each time, they ask if the girl is Bisexual at the same time. Of course, they are spotted from very far and they are rejected. Still catcalling is hard to get away from minds. I don't know if the best solution of this is "Make catcalling forbidden" or "Make catcalling for both sex" with that
The guys that usually do it are the ones who usually do not get any attention/affection from females. They usually don't have any close female friends. One of my friends randomly cat called when he was riding in my truck... I told him it's not alright... Asked him how he'd like it if random dudes did that to his sister or girl he's dating.. He shut up really quick.
Yea, every single day. Like 5x a day at the very least. To be honest I kinda like it when they're sweet and respectful. Saying things like "you look beautiful" or "Wow God bless you" But the rude ones get me so angry. Such as "hey pull up your backpack so I can see your ass" because that's just straight up disrespectful. And yes some guys can get scary when they don't leave you alone. I don't know why men catcall? I think most men just want to compliment a female they find to be appealing and let them know. While others just straight up disgusting, I don't understand their motive. Just to be nasty.
Never anything outrageous like what you see in the movies or envision when you hear the word "catcall". I've been whistled at from afar, complimented by a guy walking past me, smiled, nodded, and winked at, but I've never been, say, walking down the street or past a construction site and had a bunch of men start hooting and hollering. I've never had someone say anything graphically sexual to me, in person. I've never even seen nor heard of that kind of stuff happening to someone I know. Granted, I live in the city, so maybe it's different in more rural areas. :/
Now that I no longer live and work downtown, it rarely happens anymore. But it used to happen a lot and it really pissed me off. Especially because it usually happened when I was wearing my respectable work clothing. Clothing that is worn specifically to communicate my desire to be respected as a person.
It's easy enough to brush off a whistle or an under the breath "nice" - that doesn't bother me tbh.. but some of the comments I've received while walking to or from work are absolutely disgusting and sometimes actually scary. Its not ok to make someone uncomfortable like that.
I used to get catcalled every day while walking to work by the same construction workers. When it first started happening I gave them dirty looks and I guess that wasn't enough because it kept happening and eventually I got fed up after about a week and I told them to fuck off and I started walking the other direction afterward. I feel like whenever I do though it's always creepy old men. And one day I'll never forget I was wearing a baggy hoodie and sweatpants walking into the grocery store and some old fat guy whistled at me and said: "well aren't you beautiful." I said thank you to be nice and kept walking and then he gets in front of me and stops me and goes "I'm sorry if this is weird but you are just so sexy!" and that's when I was straight up weirded out and I just made a face and ignored him and continued to walk.
Beautiful is one thing, I'll take the compliment but sexy? That's just creepy. I was wearing a hoodie and sweatpants too! And even if I was wearing something revealing, that's no excuse! It sucks people have to deal with nasty people like this all the time. Everyone seems to think it's just girls too but guys as well get catcalled just as often.
I think men do it partly because they feel sexually drawn to the girl and it's a kind of note of appreciation for something that's so desirable. This is similar to how you might remark on a really nice sports car or impressive sunset. That's more the inoffensive catcall, for someone really attractive but not necessarily provocatively dressed.
The other reason, usually when a girl is dressed in such a way as to be seen as overtly sexual, is more like what men see as an appropriate response to the signal that she is assumed to be sending about her sexual availability. It's a kind of "yes you are really hot and all about sex, well here I am then if that's what you want" statement.
That is the most ignorant thing I've yet seen since using this app: the question asked "why do men catcall" women. I tried my best to answer the question by putting myself in the mind of a man who might do something like that. I did not say I approve and I didn't say it is something I would ever do and yet I get down voted. It just shows that even having a minimum user age of 13 does nothing to protect the majority of us normal thinking humans from the infantile brain farts of a few imbeciles.
what is catcalling? flat out telling a girl "damn you're sexy come get some" or something along the lines of that? or any giggling, laughing, comment or anything you do next to a girl passing by is considered catcalling?
the first i never did and i find it repulse honestly but some women enjoy it. the second... well not gonna lie sometimes when a really hot girl walks by and iam with a friend we look at each other and just make "damn" face or say something along the lines of "shes hot" but never intend to make her hear it and usually she doesn't... even though some girls (a lot ) do enjoy certain looks and comments from guys they find hot.
Yes it happens a lot. Its a patriarchal society rather than being an equitable one. I've seen it many times. I've stood against it sometimes where i could. I respect women a lot as I've grown up among them, with lots of them. Yet, we need to stand together against it. Me, you, others like us. Somewhere it has to start.
Tbh I really feel like only huge scumbags do it. Personally I would never cat call a woman because it just seems weird. For one when you do it, you're making the girl uncomfortable, you're making everyone else uncomfortable, and you're making your self uncomfortable when she doesn't respond. Also you look like an asshole doing it.
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Lol nothing compares to being catcalled in Mexico. Once you land, if you're a pretty girl, you'll hear the whistles a mile a way and guys interrupting you and calling you "princess." Some strangers send you roses while you're just standing on the street. Once I was walking on a street to an expo in Mexico City and ALL the cars driving by were honking their horns. There's a lot of traffic. We thought they were going to crash. I was with two other ladies I don't mind it. It makes me laugh. Unless the guy crosses a line and starts saying perverted things but in America catcalling is very mild compared to what I've experienced in different countries. Trust me.
Yes, especially downtown where I live, girls get catcalled a lot and I've been catcalled often too. I've even had guys follow me around too.. I really don't mind the catcalling, I usually just ignore it or smile at the guys doing it. But when you start following me around, then that's when it becomes a problem.
I remembered I was cat called once... I turned around and politely asked the guy and his friends to never disrespect me or any other female like that again. If you see a beautiful woman, approach her and tell her, not yell some fifty yards away especially don't yell anything sexually that's just rude and unnecessary
I ve seen it happen only few times in my life. I think I ve done something like calling girl beautiful of the blue and stuff, but don`t see why that`s uncomfortable. Yesterday my friend beeped to two girls with a car and I told him not to do it cause i guess thats kinda douchy.
Get over it and grow a thicker skin. Men face plenty insults day today, if I was "catcalled" about something nice about my appearance it would be awesome. Be thankful you get the attention. Some people would give anything for that attention. Also stop believing cancerous femnazis that this is agate crime or some shit like that.
I remember the very first time I got cat called which was at 14 years of age. Found it so humiliating to be honest, because after that guy had gone he left everyone else in the street judging my appearance.
Legit said to myself in my mind 'Can everyone just leave me alone'. I had very low self asteem back then though but now when someone does it it's still some what embrassing.
Depends on if I know the woman or not. It's not like I'm going to just shout at some stranger "Hey baby, lookin' good!" I gotta get to know the woman first. That's probably because I've been catcalled by women, and I know how it feels. Yeah, it's nice that you think I look good, but have some class.
Wooow, I can't even relay how bad it is. My friend and I have even created a language to ignore them. It's quite sad really because where I live they just keeeep on going and if you don't respond they alternate languages. Then, if still you don't reply, "you were ugly anyways".
Don't pay attention to it, they don't have any malicious intent. No one will judge you for being harassed by an idiot. They probably think that they're being nice, but once again, they're stupid and possibly drunk. I guess guys don't really think of this thing the same way, if a woman yelled at a guy calling them sexy or handsome, most guys would take it as a compliment. Also, men don't understand that women can find that behavior creepy, because men don't instinctually find that kind of behavior creepy from a woman. Thinking of the opposite sex as creepy is a completely female thing.
That's probably because 96% of rapists are men, 89% of sexual assaulters are men, and 99% of street harassment cases are perpetrated by men.
These are not committed without "malicious intent", so don't tell me a guy doesn't have malicious intent when he rapes a girl or a guy. If not a family member, over 60% of reported cases in the year of 2012 and 2015 (first world countries only) the rape or sexual assault was first initiated with street harassment, or a "catcall". How is it possible for you to be so ignorant about an issue that predominantly affects women, trying to tell us how WE should feel about it, when in too many cases the verbal sexual harassment has lead to physical harassment. So if men tend to take it as a compliment when it comes from women, perhaps that's because those men dont have to fear for their bodies and lives, sexual integrity, or consent when they are catcalled like women do.
@Love_Byte I never said anything about rape. But chances are, if a man is catcalling a girl in a busy street, they aren't going to rape anyone at that moment. I understand that there are situations where a guy can be creepy, I was just saying that a guy may not understand the woman's perspective as they have (most likely) never been sexually threatened by a girl.
I wasn't calling women stupid or weird for being afraid of men, I was just pointing out that men just don't see this behavior the same way, leading to insensitiveness towards this kind of thing. Men don't find sexually forward women creepy, and they certainly don't find themselves creepy.
And definitely, if a guy is catcalling a girl at night in an empty street, it is not crazy to suspect that this guy may have malicious intent. But the average grubby construction worker/ wannabe womanizer catcalling a woman in broad daylight probably isn't going to rape them.
I just want to make totally clear here. I understand that men can pose a threat to women. I'm not disregarding how a woman may feel when a man catcalls them. It's horrible, it's stupid, and it can make a woman feel unsafe or insecure. All I'm saying here is that men (or at least the ones that catcall) do not tend to understand this, as they see things from a different perspective.
Having spent a lot of time on building sites, I can tell you for a fact that this is selective, and reserved for women that the catcaller finds appealing.
Not saying that you should take it as a compliment - if it makes you feel uncomfortable, then that's what it does (and frankly, it could even be intended that way).
But, as a non-catcaller, what I've observed is that it's only done if there is an element of attraction involved.
I guess that's what we get in Capitalism cum Marxism "Depravity". "Give them bread and circus and they will never revolt" this is what is happening, circus is not enough, so Capitalism tries to deprave everyone, its more like, "Give them bread, depravity and the illusion of freedom in the name of democracy and they won't even think about revolt" Google about TGSNT, then maybe people will know who rules the world by which politicians are just Puppets.
Its all connected, Bankers want to re-engineer Human thinking. Sex, abusive stuff, decline in molarity, drugs, etc. soon you might understand what is actually happening in this world. They just want protect thr Fraudulent Credit Monopoly.
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