Really protective boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend has been getting really protective. He hates whenever I go out with my friends, and gets scared every time I talk to or mention a guy. Even when he knows I'm just friends with the guy.
Wherever we go he gets angry. If I look at a stranger or we make eye contact I try and make an appoint to smile, so hen people slime beach he freaks out. But he only does this with other men, it's crazy.
Now he's even getting crazy about what I wear. I'm skinny but have pretty big boobs, and he told me he liked that about me. But now whenever we go somewhere ( even if I've worn it out before) he always asks if that's what I'm going to wear. And always asks if I want to wear his jacket to " cover up more". But I'm not even showing a lot of skin I'm just wearing a semi form fitting shirt.
I used to be really shy when we met but he's helped my come out of my shell a little bit, and I think that's the reason he's really protective. Is everyone else this protective with their girlfriend? Am I just over reacting? Have you done this to a girl?

[mimi0998]

This is not a good sign if he ever become abusive leave him from what i get it sounds like the beginning stages of a abusive relationship. But he might have some trust issues if he was hurt in the past or had some abandon issues that you might leave him. You are not an object that he can control. Also this guy friend makes him feel uncomfortable you just have to reconfirm to him you would not cheat. Maybe try and make him get to know your friends better. Also about stranger eye contact tell him guys and even some girls will stare every now and then but you got to be use to it not normal every time that happens he gets mad. Also just to through it out there sometimes over jealous guys could be cheating and thinking your cheating. This might not be him but you never know.

[MariellaRo]

You are NOT over reacting. You can wear whatever you want and you can talk to whoever you want. You are his girlfriend, not his property. He has to understand that not every man you talk to is going to get in your pants. If he doesn't trust you enough to let you talk to other men (who are, by the way, also PEOPLE, not just guys-who-want-to-get-with-you), there is definitely something very wrong in this relationship. Do you tell him what to wear? Is he not allowed to wear fitted t-shirts? Does he never talk to other girls? I don't think so.

[TheQueenofFoxes]

He is not being protective. Sounds like he is an emotional isolator. They take you away from all your friends and tell you how to dress and look. Then they start criticising your looks. If I were you, I would dump him because soon enough he WILL ensure you are his. They do this to gain dominance and to feed their own insecurities.

[TheQueenofFoxes]

-Fox

[syd48]

This is possessive and controlling behavior. There is a fine line between being possessive and explaining to your girl that you dont want her to flirt with other men.
Maybe he needs to learn the difference between possessive and protecting and you need to learn not to flirt with other men when in a relationship.
It sounds like you are BOTH still growing up and have to BOTH lose a few partners before you know how to respect a partner more.

[Asker]

Is smiling at people considered flirting because I didn't know that. He always told me to smile more, and so now I try to just smile at random people if we make eye contact so that it's not weird. I didn't know that was a thing

[syd48]

Prolonged eye contact and smiling is considered a 'come on'.

[Asker]

Did not know that. I just though everyone made eye contact all the time

[syd48]

Yes, people do make eye contact all the time with people they know and trust. But with people they dont know and have only seen for the first time, to hold eye contact for more than 4 seconds is said to be some form of ' I may be interested in you;. 4 seconds is a long time, longer than normal for someone you have not seen before, unless you are in conversation with them.

[Indycysive]

He's being a little too excessive there. We have our jealous egos, but damn.

[Anonymous]

He's insecure. That's dangerous. I'd leave the relationship if I were in that situation. Having to constantly check what you're doing to not offend your boyfriend is tiring and taxing on a relationship. It's unhealthy.

[MonsterMash]

If men reacted the way you suggest to women acting similarly insecure, no one would be in a relationship... ever.

Talk to him about it. I'm not saying he isn't crazy, but the above answer is taking a big leap unnecessarily.

[Opinion Owner]

All I'm saying is that if she lets it go and it progresses (as most do), she'll wind up miserable. I've seen it happen over and over again.

[Anonymous]

He's being too controlling. When he starts micromanaging like that its not healthy for a relationship because you will eventually say enough is enough. So you need to set your boundaries with him now.

[toutatis]

this shows he is possessive and it happens with relationships.

[Asker]

Okay so I'm just over reacting. Should I just like change when he asks, I wouldn't want to cause more trouble for him

[bdeakol]

More like getting insecure.

[_plume_]

Hi:) Seems you enjoy that too in a way.^^

[Asker]

And how does it seem that way?

[_plume_]

That is a shy question:)