Black Girls (especially thick black women) are Very Attractive but why is it so Hard to find one that isn't promiscuous and flirty, i've yet to meet?

[Anonymous]

I don't want to generalise, of course i know there are some out there that aren't promiscuous andn flirty but i've yet to come across an attractive curvy black girl thats humble, heck, even shy.

I'm spreaking as someone who is attracted to them but largely put off by the fact a lot of them tend to throw themselves around, just the other day there were some very attractive black girls. They flirted with me and the proceeded to flirt with every guy at the party, even kissing. Which isn't an infrequent thing.

The only humble young ones i've met are the single mother black women that used to be that way.

What drives so many to be like this so commonly?

[despicablenelle]

I know quite a few black girls who aren't as all over the place, but they aren't 'thick', me included. And I know black girls who fit the 'thick' definition but they do the hooking up and hanging out and messing around... Actually I noticed this trend. Usually the smaller ones aren't as flirty and ultra-confident as the thick girls. But I think it's because the thicker ones are the ones that more people want, so the smaller girls sort of hang back and wait because we aren't as sought after (not not at all, but less). But there's plenty of many of black girls who fit the 'thick' bill and don't hook up and run around and things. You just have to find them. They're pretty everywhere.

[Asker]

I wouldn't say i'm only into thick black girls but generally speaking i would have thought they were less sought after than the skinny ones.

the thinner ones are usually preferred and the thicker ones are viewed as fat outside black guys, most non black guys usually like thinner but i see your point. I guess i've not come across many non thick ones though

[despicablenelle]

You typically don't. We're in hiding. haha But guys absolutely LOVE the thicker black girls, no matter what race. It could be the area I live in (north Florida) but I've met a number of thicker girls who get sought after. And I don't club a lot so it's even outside the dance scene. So where you live plays into too. But there's definitely some there.

[Asker]

yeah maybe, the thing is. i live abroad now and see black girls from many differet cultures, not one so it isn't a single culture explanation which makes it more complex

[despicablenelle]

Okay. That's hard to think of then, because with different cultures there's a lot of different people. So you actually might be more likely to find one of your type because they'll all have grown up different and have different ways of thinking and acting.

[Desertilha]

Fat women of all races get attention. I'm not sure why it's considered "crazy" when a fat black woman get attention from men outside of her race. I think fat women in general get more than slim women do!

[despicablenelle]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think I ever said it was crazy that thicker black women get attention from all guys. And as I said, I don't know about all races, I can only be positive about the thicker black girls being more sought after than the smaller ones because that's mostly what I've seen. Now one of my friends is white and bigger than me and she does claim to be admired by a dozen people every week; don't know about all that but she does have a significant amount of more luck than I do.

[Desertilha]

Thanks for the racist generalization. Honestly, speaking as a curvy black woman, I would avoid a guy like you. I'm in a committed relationship and I never sleep around. but even if I was single I would avoid guys like you who require a woman to not only look a certain way but behave a certain way. Unfortunately, women aren't made to satisfy your requirements, they are people too and you should learn to treat them as such.

[MixedTwit]

I'm black and white so I'm not really like that but I am half white haha. But some people are just raised in communities and places where that's just what girls do. Some girls just don't have respect for themselves and you just have to wait until you find the kind if girl you like. Maybe search in different areas

[InsearchofMe]

You too serious man. You missing the point, check your age bracket. It is the hottest age bracket to find girls. Girls are more mature than guys, know internally what they are looking for, but also looking for that fantasy. Just have fun fun fun, and maybe one day you will meet her best friend who is shy in not flirty. Good luck.

[wendigoRed]

It's the culture. A lot of black women aren't raised with the same archetype of woman as other races of women, a lot of absent fathers, corruption by media.

[Asker]

the thing is, it's not even a culturally specific thing. Where I live, i'm abroad and meet many fellow foreigners, black girls from many countries and its always the same. It was the same back home too. I start of finding them attractive then lose all interest when i get to know them.

I don't get it, but even though i find them attractive. I feel as if that it's a choice of either accept it or don't bother being attracted to them because this is how it is

[DesiBoo]

I didn't have a father, and im my own person. Influenced by my mom, corrupted by nothing but my mind. And I've had friends off all colors without a father...

[Anonymous]

Oh I see. Flirting is now a bad thing.
Should all of us sit quietly in a corner being too shy to talk to people, then we are, humble?

Its the culture, way they are raised. Also how black women are critisized and stereotyped in media, though to be all loud, overweight etc. make them feel insecure

[Asker]

flirting as in kissing multiple guys in a night just to have fun with no intention was what i was referring to. being humble and shy are two very different things, one can be attractive without being more attracted to themselves than others.

but i wasn't speaking about one specific culture, if that was the case than this question would have a very simple answer, where i live, i meet black women from all different cultures

[Opinion Owner]

That is not firting. That is being "promiscuous"

[DesiBoo]

Depends on where you're looking. Here in Germany some are shy, but they only really speak German... In Georgia a lot of them where crazy, and not all that sky, but it was the same when I went to Ohio. I'm shy when you first meet me, but then im crazy and a laughing machine.

[Insaan]

Lmao.. you are a desi now ;) :p

[SweetAndSassy14]

That's just like me...

[pr3ttybr0wn]

you seem like the type of guy who gets mad at women who kiss every guy but you

you sound lame overall so I doubt thick attractive bw as you put it are really checking for you in the first place

[Nena_Linda18]

All I can say is, you just got to be patient and keep looking because I know their are some nice humble, non flirty black women out there looking for somwone like you.

[Anonymous]

Most big thick black girls big ass are ugly they tend to show off they ass because most men are attractive to bigg butts this is why they act like that most of them are not confident ao the way they can get attention its to behave like that

I have a lot of friend who are big and thick I am nothating iI am jusy stating my points of views as well as what they told me.

[Asker]

them being ugly is your opinion, everyone has a different idea of attractive

[DesiBoo]

My as is big and beautiful, just like my face. :) But im mixed.

[Insaan]

@DesiBoo half indian?

[DesiBoo]

Black and German. @Insaan

[Insaan]

Desi is widely used word among indians/pakis/ southasians in general for their national identity. Hence i thought that way. @DesiBoo

[DesiBoo]

Someone told me this yesterday, lol. Desi is my nickname @Insaan

[SweetAndSassy14]

I have a big ass and I'm definitely not ugly.. so you're just hating for no reason..

[PrettyBama]

When you're this beautiful and you have this much melanin there's no reason to be humble or shy.

[Tiffanymonroe]

I understand your choise... we have the curves lol! Just try hard and you will get one ;)

[Asker]

the thing is, it's not even a culturally specific thing. Where I live, i'm abroad and meet many fellow foreigners, black girls from many countries and its always the same. It was the same back home too. I start of finding them attractive then lose all interest when i get to know them.

A number of the ones at parties i've been at (not exclusively parties) seem to have a lot of vanity, feeling as if they can flirt with any guy because they find themselves attractive so they're doing them a favour. to be honest, those ones are hardly dating material but thats all i've met

[SomethingWicked]

White women are like this too, you're just noticing black women more because you initially are attracted to them more.

[Asker]

of course they do, i wasn't saying this was an exclusively black girl problem, a lot of girls that are above average almost always tend to narcissistic. But the difference is, i've not seen a single black girl that isn't like this and i know a lot. heck, i know girls of other races that are saving till marriage even, now even that seems extreme, almost like an alien with black girls.

It gets worse if they're curvy, so i'm at the stage where even though they're my main preference, i'm trying to turn my attraction away since it seems like a impossible find to find a humble black girl that isn't flirtacious or promiscuous

[SomethingWicked]

Except appearing flirty or promiscuous does not exactly equal loss of virginity. White girls tend to shout the loudest that they're saving their virginity, black girls don't. That doesn't mean there aren't black girls who aren't saving their virginity.
Just because their style of dancing is flirty, doesn't mean that they accept anything that goes near them.
Also, the fact that you say you want a humble black girl actually screams that you just want to be able to control her. (Well, that's the way it comes across.)

[Asker]

i wasn't saying i needed her to be a virgin. just referencing that based on what i've been exposed to in my experiences, that would be like finding a needle in a hay stack based on how they are.

When i said humble, i wasn't referencing a push over type personality. I was referencing someone who isn't conceited and full of themselves. Again, not an exclusively black girl issue but character is equally/more important than their looks for attracting people.

[SweetAndSassy14]

Actually I'm a humble, shy curvy black girl and I know plenty of others just like me.. so it's not that we don't exist.. you just have to look in the right places...

[UrHomie]

Umm yes this is she. Lol