Why is it so rare to find a feminine black woman?

[PainusNdeeAnus]

They’re so masculine and aggressive do they not realize how unattractive that is it’s the most unattractive trait a woman can have

An aggressive, argumentative, woman is the equivalent of a man like this trying to date women

Not very attractive is it ladies? Most women want Masculine man’s man Most men want an Feminine woman

So why do black women complain about dating when they are carrying themselves in such an unappealing manner?

[Starbers99]

I'm not black but I'll give an outsider's view. Let me see, the world is bombarded with endless messages/ brainwashing on what the beauty ideal is - what the 'perfect' woman's skin, hair and facial features should look like. We live in an unequal world where people of colour are treated like they are lesser (even those from privileged backgrounds, when compared to their white counterparts) they often have less opportunities in education, work etc. because being from poorer backgrounds/lower social class, they don't often meet their potential (this includes any race from a lower social class, not just black). If you're a black woman, you are told by the beauty industry, media (magazines, films etc.) and just about any other platform you can think of that your natural skin colour is unattractive (because anything black is bad), your hair is unattractive because it is not soft and silky, your facial features are unattractive because they are less likely to fit the ratio that 'science' deems 'perfect'. You are made to feel bad about yourself, you live in societies which seek to destroy your confidence, you live in a world with less opportunity to educate yourself, you live to survive because the men from your own race have deserted you and attached themselves to the women of other more progressive races because it's easier to do that than build, elevate and empower your own race because it has been beaten down so hard. I don't even blame the men because they too have been brainwashed into submission. So to answer your question - the black woman absorbs all these horrible things the world has put on her shoulders, she bears it alone, she has no choice but to elevate and educate herself, work 2 jobs, raise her children alone because the man is less likley to take responsibility, she has to be the man and the woman, watch her sons do the same as many other black men and desert their own. You do this to any race of woman and that group of women will have a lot of "angry" and "aggressive" and "masculine" women because they have been forced to go against their nature for a long, long time, they have been forced to be masculine because the men will not be masculine, they are rightfully angry because how they are treated by the world (the rest of us can be angry but not the black woman, this is how you silence her voice and mute her natural human emotion). She has to put on a 'strong' face (whilst breaking inside) because she needs to protect herself from this horrible world which seeks to tear her down and pretend it doesn't hurt, she wants the world to know she doesn't care and she won't let it do this to her so she's aggressive to keep away the vultures and those looking to take advantage of her because they think she's an easy target. There are a lot of feminine black women, they are usually supported by good family units, where the male is around, protects his daughter/wife/sister, tries to provide for her, he lets her be a woman so she's doesn't have to be a man.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Black women are adults like the rest of us plenty of women around the world come from much worser backgrounds and real oppression their attitudes and mindset is the problem not the actual problem itself

[Starbers99]

Yes, but they are not socialised to behave in this way. Women from other backgrounds have the support and validation of their own men, whether they always treat them well or not, whether they oppress them or not. No race of man has deserted their own like this race of man. If any other race of woman had the same treatment it would affect their attitude and mindset too. Try putting yourself in their shoes, if you can't do that then move on to another race of woman.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

No black women choose government assistance over their men

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Stop making excuses for grown ass women

[Starbers99]

I would pick government assistance too, I wouldn't want men who behave like women, don't build their own communities and go nest in the communities other men built. Be a man, stop making excuses for yourself and men of your race. The rest of us can see the problem, more black women take responsibility, go to college, go to work and try to build on their own with no support from their race of men. We all see the issues in other communities and our own but people are too scared to say most of it out loud because it doesn't sound good. If you don't like black women and think negatively of them then move on. Life's too short to spend debating why they are like this, hold up a mirror or check for scorpions on the back of the black man, he's harming himself and his own in a way that no other race of man does. You would never hear men from other races talk about their women like that. You can say that other women aren't like this but she's like this for a reason, the white man started the job and the black man finished it. You don't have to dig deep to know why more black women appear this way, no choice when your men post questions like why are all black women >insert negative stereotype of black woman< or why do black women hate on me for liking white women? Like I said, feminine behaviour. Men don't post questions like this.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

This tells me that you don’t understand the consequences of fatherlessness if you want to destroy a community you start by removing the head of the household: The Father

Everything wrong with the black community today is a result of fatherlessness choosing government assistance and going to college was the worst thing to ever happen to the black community but black women choose this they choose to take on all the burden on their own

They have no right to have an attitude about it they go to college rack up 100s of thousands of dollars of debt for a degree that only pays 20 to 30k a year they’re going to have to work well over retirement age because they can’t get or keep a man due to their attitude about their own choices

Why aren’t you holding them accountable are they girls or women?

[Changiis07]

It is rare and could be the way they grew up maybe a broken home and if they don't get corrected by their parents then they grow up thinking it's okay to act a certain way

[BeMuse]

All you have to do is talk with a little bass in your voice. Like 95% of Black women fold and act like little girls for a guy with a dominate deep voice and that's coming from a 6'3" muscular White guy with a shaved head. Not exactly an image a lot of Black women seek out. Black women love a deep voice. They will wrap themselves around your little finger without you even trying. But from your picture you look like a drunk twiggy squeaker, so maybe that's your problem. They challenge you to see if you will dominate them. Where as a guy that comes off as dominate and powerful from the get go they go weak in the knees for.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Don’t leave a reply if you’re gonna block people like a little bitch 😂 grow some balls you candy ass

[IceCreamSandwich]

Cause women aren't supposed to only be docile or quiet or submissive. Especially if that could put them in danger. It's not the only way to be attractive to men and it's not even natural.

You want a woman who won't argue or challenge? Why? Are you only "masculine" outside a relationship but won't engage with your woman? Relationships get very lopsided if one side is doing all the arguing and aggression.

It's a human thing not a masculine thing. Black women who are aggressive, are feminine. And if you find them so unappealing that's fine. But that's not their job to fix.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

these are the Same women who struggle so hard with dating many of them are going to die alone not wondering why they can’t get a decent man it’s because those men most men prefer the feminine submissive fit women

Who wants to come home from a long day of working and argue when they can come home to silence, a clean house, food and a hot shower

They won’t even smile like they don’t have the right to complain about being single and not having any dating options when they’re making themselves unattractive to masculine men Manly men don’t want a masculine woman it’s unattractive

That’s why black women are bottom of the barrel their severe lack of femininity

[IceCreamSandwich]

Well "most men" would probably prefer a maid to a partner in that case. Does it really sound bad to have someone who actually wants to talk with you and engage and address problems when they come up, who actually cares what you think and will make sure you're on the same page with her? Would you really rather have someone who just rolls over and does whatever you say without question and never even tells you what she thinks? Cause that is not feminine. It could be a sign of trauma, actually.

And I hate the idea that smiling is required or you aren't being nice or friendly, but that's a personal hangup of mine. I know you're right on that, it's true that most men and women expect a smile, and if you don't give them one that they assume you're angry or don't care. Smiling and all the friendly polite body language can be exhausting when you have to do it every day though, and I prefer a partner who i don't have to perform for and she doesn't feel like she has to perform for me. For some people it's much more important and I can understand that, nobody likes to feel like their partner doesn't like or care about them because they don't show it the normal way.

That's one reason it's better to be loud than quiet, and actually communicate instead of letting your partner just decide what you mean for you. Sure, if you keep your mouth shut you can't argue. But you also can't explain, or ask, or anything else.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

People who say they want partners are lazy and irresponsible because they’re living counter to gender roles

A woman who is obedient submissive has way less problems than an argumentative woman

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Who in their right mind would pick a problematic woman over a docile woman most men want peace in the home that’s it. Peace and opinionated woman creates problems and ultimately destroys the family unit remember men aren’t the ones filing for divorce

[IceCreamSandwich]

Gender roles are fine, I like them myself, but I feel like you mean something different when you say that because I would file for divorce too if my spouse liked me better as a robot or decoration than a person to actually interact with. Holy shit. Who in their right mind would want only obedience and think that's dating? Or marriage? I'm surprised you find any "feminine" women at all.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

You don’t seem to understand gender roles if you think a submissive subservient wife is a robot

Those women live much happier lives because they understand the importance of their femininity in marriage

[IceCreamSandwich]

I'm sure I don't, so can you explain? Because this can't possibly be what all the hype is about. What does a "feminine" submissive subservient wife do in a marriage besides what she's told? What is in that relationship that couldn't also be provided by a "relationship" to an actual servant/service robot?

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Explain what exactly?

[IceCreamSandwich]

Gender roles I guess. What do you think they are supposed to be in dating or marriage that they'd line up with women just being obedient instead of actual partners, but not like robots, and would make them happier? You said I don't seem to understand, I think so too because you really aren't making sense from here. So can you explain what you're talking about.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

In a nutshell the woman’s job was to be the glue holding the family unit together she had to be attentive and selfless traditional women put their children and husband before themselves they were polite , graceful, feminine , nurturing and agreeable www.kstatecollegian.com/.../

Men are expected to be strong assertive and bold

Where did you get this idea that women would be robots or miserable if they confirmed to traditional gender roles Roles need I remind you built modern society

[FunkyMonkee]

You must not be trying very hard or looking in the right places! I just saw a few of them yesterday! Very cute, they were!!

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Didn’t say they didn’t exist my guy

[JuniperGray]

Looks like someone got their perspective of black women from Hollywood.

[Anonymous]

Classic Black man

Black men are little Bitches

[Thotkiana]

Date white women

[PainusNdeeAnus]

No we are talking about black people

[Thotkiana]

Why are you worried about our femininity, go date a white woman

[PainusNdeeAnus]

So you don’t know why black women aren’t feminine?

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Got it.