Do most men perfer quiet, shy, women or an outgoing, talkative, women?

[Rarebird2012]

Outgoing talkative women seem to be more opinionated and stubborn. Quiet shy girls are usually more passive and submissive.

Quiet and shy

Talkative and outgoing

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Interesting how the older men selected outgoing and younger selected shy. Could it be as men get older they become more sure of themselves and assertive n perfer a women to be assertive n outgoing as we'll vs younger want shy to not be dominated by?

[emmabee11]

I see too many of these questions on here that define all of the same sex in 1 group as if they all like the exact same things but they don't... and you cannot act who your not so why try to just to be in a relationship with someone?, a relationship shouldn't define who you are you should first become happy with who YOU are, never mind what anyone says... so don't think what other people tell you that all of us are exactly the same... we're not at all we all have different personalities and interests, even if we will have some things in common each of us don't think exactly the same whatsoever. So whoever you really are as a person be honest with yourself, be who you are and the right person will come along who likes a personality like yours... don't listen to girls who say "Guys just love meek girly girls who will look after the kids and stay at home", not true in the slightest... yes... some guys are still very old-fashioned like that but most guys now have moved away from all of that... so just be you.

[gatorgirl12]

I always wonder this so I asked a bunch of guys and most prefer quiet girls because outgoing ones get too annoying to them. They think quiet girls are smarter and better to talk to. I feel like I'm neither though so I don't know where I fit in.

[JulyAndrews]

I can be only with a shy person if they open up at some point and start being outgoing. I'm an outgoing person myself, I love connecting with all people. So it wouldn't work out with me and a quiet shy person.

[MoggleMoggins]

I think it is more complicated than just being shy or outgoing. Being shy is kind of cute, but at the same time its problematic if she doesn't show her feelings or participate in conversations or just generally isn't good at making a connection. Outgoing girls are more likely to exhibit other behaviors that guys find attractive like smiling and making eye contact, as well as being flirtatious and just generally having fun.

It's okay to be a bit shy, but you need to get down the basics --smile, talk, make eye contact, laugh -- for men to enjoy interacting with you. If a man can't have a fun time interacting with you on a basic level, then it won't matter how cute you are.

[weegin]

I agree with this dude. I like quiet girls, not super social ones, but I don't like them to be submissive or incapable of socializing. Similar to me. I'm quiet and only usually speak when spoken to, but I'm capable of doing so if I want to or need to. I just prefer not to.

Although I would like a girl who can feel comfortable expressing herself and initiating conversations with ME at least, if nobody else. Like he said, if you can't engage her in conversation, or she can't engage you, it's not gonna be a fun relationship.

[Rawrzz]

You know. I really usually prefer quiet chicks, but the charisma in outgoing women breaks my own silence. Basically, I like both, depending on the girl, I guess; but, the outgoing women generally break down my walls--whereas quiet chicks walls remain up all the time.

[dartmaul15]

Meh, depends on prefference. I'm more prone to picking a shy girl, but really, it's more that i want a girl that's ok with spending the Saturday night just the two of us, a girl who can laugh and smile, and who isn't afraid to stand for herself when needed.
So i want a sweet girl who enjoys my company, really.

[meatballs21]

The problem with shy and introverted girls is: getting to know them. I'm a shy and introverted guy, so I have to take a deep breath and really push out of my comfort zone to talk to a new girl. Being met with rejection where she can't even meet eye contact is frustrating. I know how you feel, girl, I think we'd really connect, but all we've succeeded in doing here is making each other feel awkward.

[Prilee1992]

Talkative and Outgoing, for two reasons:
A) It shows they're happy to engage in longer conversations, and i'm the one who LEADS the conversations by asking majority of the questions (I would remain mysterious in her eyes, and showing im able to listen).
B) Women like to talk in general, the more they talk, they more they can dismiss their bad emotions and they would be thankful for you afterwards.

[chives]

men want an emotional connection, if she hardly ever talks to him then they can't connect, I think the problem is with shy girls is that they get pushed into the background as the men see the outgoing ones taking interest in them and are besotted with them,

[Red7336]

i think the same happens with nice guys too. they get pushed in the back specially if there is "bad boys" in the same place... sometimes the good guys shut off and girls think they are just boring not shy or anything
i believe people should give eachother more time lol

[chives]

I say for shy people, don't go and talk to people with the expectation of something in return, do it for your own personal development to learn off other people and advance yourself forward, there will always be more people so don't be upset if you don't get to see them again.

things take time, so just give it chance, give other people a chance to get to know you

[chocolatedragon]

I like quiet, shy when we're around people we don't know to well, but quiet and shy when we're alone at home sucks for me cause I'm a huge joker. Funny thing tho, I'm talkative and outgoing while the girls I go on dates with are usually on the shy side lol.

[delrey]

I actually prefer outgoing and talkative girls because I'm on the quiet laid back side so it just gets awkward if I'm with a quiet shy girl, I'm not shy I'm just laid back. I also prefer them because quiet girls bore me, the girl must be able to start and maintain a conversation.

[Helplessboy]

But if you have a girl who can stay quite like you without it being awkward that is the best.

[delrey]

I would prefer a talkative girl in any case, quiet ones bore me.

[Anonymous]

The prefer the ones who know the difference and know when to be which. It's a tough gig no doubt, but it's not all that hard to do because guys do it too, I know I do. I act like a 4 year old sometimes and mature when I need to, it's about striking that balance.

[blondfrog]

Well like you said talkative out going girls are more likely to be opinionated and stubborn and shy are more submissive, but not always. I like her to be talkative and outgoing, but not mean or stubborn like she is talkative, but nice and funny. :) I just asked the same exact question as yours except I wanted to know if women liked shy guys more or more confident could you answer it please?

[Invoker]

I've thought well and hard about this and I found out I don't mind either except, when the why person finally opens up to me and me only, I feel trusted, adored, and I just want to hold that in my arms forever.

[Invoker]

When the shy person* fail autocorrect.

[L_gant]

I like Shy girls cause I know they're not sluts and I know they'll be mine and won't be doing anything with other guys.

[Rarebird2012]

No that's not true at all. That could go both ways shy girls are more secretive. Outgoing are more honest. As a matter of fact the girls that I know that dress more sexy n are more social were the harder to get ones and the reserved ones that were shy and dressed modestly were more easier. This really depends on age as well.

[L_gant]

From a highschool stand point every girl who is outgoing is a slut because the quiet shy ones aren't the ones going to the parties where as the girls who are outgoing are the ones going to parties and banging guys.

[Rarebird2012]

Hmm interesting how it seems to change with age. Your right though in HS it's different.

[LookatDuhDonkay]

Depends on the individual but Im usually attracted to shy and quiet girls the most. Outgoing girls can be fun and a bit easier to talk to but my personality doesn't typically mesh well. Im pretty mellow even while drunk.. so yeah shy girls lol

[Nuns_in_Heat]

It's not really about that. It's about what kind of person she is. I like girls who understand the world isn't sunshine and sparkles, yet are sweet and humble. Typically for me shy girls have that characteristic so I voted shy girls.

[Xonen]

I think the quiet and shy ones become talkative and outgoing once you become close, it's just their outward appearance to the rest of the world that's different.

[BlondeBlueEyes84]

Quiet and shy girls, no doubt. I like girls who fit my nature, who I can connect with. I associate "quiet and shy" with intelligence, sensibility and politeness.
Talkative and outgoing girls are a complete turn-off for me.

[Hyuji]

I, myself, cannot decide. They are both good. Quiet and shy is cute (and I love cute), while outgoing and talkative is, I don't know, energetic? I think either is awesome!

[Retrogression]

I like a girl who speaks at the right time and is a very attentive listener. Half & half with this one.

[Toocooltoadmitit]

I'm a reserved person who is somewhat shy, so I would prefer a talkative outgoing person because it will make it easier to me to open up, relax and show off my natural self.

[crow27]

Outgoing talkative. But also somewhat low-key about it. I don't like attention seekers and like humility in a woman.

[Shpongolia]

Talkative outgoing are more fun. Shy women are boring and insecure most of the time.

[SuaveHandle]

I'm looking for a girl that compliments my personality.

I'm a little more on the quiet and shy side.

[Iron_Man]

I like them to bring a lot to the table and keep things going if they have something good to say, but if its a bunch of Gibberish then lets keep it down. for a while. I do like my quiet time as well as I like my talking time

[zinhadhu]

Don't be what others like. Be your self.
You only will be true loved if you be yourself.

[Anonymous]

I'm a huge partier and I only ask shy girls out cause I orefer to show them my soft side.

[MattJaylen]

well i like her the way she is, but if she is shy i'd think that i am bothering her or that i am throwing myself at her , and i like it when a girl share her opinions and talk and just feel free and be herself

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

I really like quiet and shy girls with great personality

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

I seem to be quiet, laid back, shy, great personality
i think it takes while for me to warm up to girl i seem
to observe her

[idkjbrooks]

Out going talk ative but also knows when to stop talking

[Anonymous]

I don't like shy girls. I like introverted girls. Some introverted girls are shy at first, but then they open up after getting to know me. But shy girls are always awkward and pretend not to know what to do or say all the time, that's tiresome.

[DaCrownlessKing]

I like both but I find extroverted females to be more high maintenance

[Username161195]

I like girls who will initiate conversation and have all sorts of 'legal' fun with me.

[Anonymous]

Talkative and outgoing. I'm a shy woman, and I get told by people that I need to open up more to attract a man.

[CalvinClinton]

i like quiet girls but not shy, got to not be nervous most important or coy

[Anonymous]

I don't like passive and submissive girls, so I say - outgoing women (not necessarily too talkative) - I prefer assertive, active and dominant girls, who like to be in charge ;)

[bastuss]

can't speak on behalf of all men , as for me only , i had been adore demure women since forever..;p

[CasaNorba]

i prefer talkative and outgoing. though not all of us are the same, you know

[Franitz]

Shy girls are cute, but them being shy makes me shy, wich in turn makes them more shy, wich makes my even more shy, etc. It never works.

[Keyspirits]

I prefer shy cuties. They are the CUTEST gurls in the WORLD!

[larry69]

There are great qualities about both types of women.

[Helplessboy]

Truly if a girl talks forever that is a downer since I like the quite and peace of outdoors and backwoods areas also could you answer my question.

[Anonymous]

Outgoing but not too talkative. Shy girls are a turn off because I'm very shy so I could never make any contact with them.

[vgmaster9]

I think talkative and outgoing women are extremely sexy!

[Kiwis]

I like a bit of both in a combined mixture :)

[Klaatu51]

shy is the BIGGEST turn-off after short structure

[lovedcursed]

But sometimes it is out of our hands , it is top hars not to be shy if i am naturally shy , but still it is ur opinion. I just wanted to clarify

[JustChris]

Talkative and outgoing.

[rosegarden]

I thought most would pick outgoing.. hmm

[UnknownXYZ]

I would say it's 50/50.

[Kingd353]

shy submisive girls are the cutest <3

[Red7336]

i always wondered the same thing lol

[Splintercell]

I believe you are correct.

[Anonymous]

I prefer quiet girls. Outgoing women annoy me.