How do I stop feeling bitter towards men?

[Anonymous]

ok yes im bitter i admit
I've been molested and harrassed multiple times since i was less than 5 years old
and not to mention cat-calling and crap like that which gets on my nerves, builds up and leads to more hate towards men

dont get me wrong, i dont like hate hate them. but idk... i dont always have positive feelings towards them.
ugh I don't know how to explain it really...
like i would like to fall in love and everything im not tottally against them but its like... something deep inside me is telling me they're evil, maybe its because of what happened especially when i was little and how some of them are jerks, rapists, heart breakers... etc
... i really dont know

how do i calm myself down?

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+1 y

awww you guys are sweet i was expecting to see hate or something lol
thanks (y)

[Clovergirl-Lily]

i get you completely. same kind of stuff happened to me and i was so bitter up until i was 16. but then a really sweet guy who is now one of my most respected male friends showed me kindness even when i made it so obvious that i found him loud and obnoxious and so irritating at first. i guess it takes a sweet guy like my friend to melt such bitterness. but you could try observing each guy who approaches you from afar first, holding them at arm's length, and analyse their pros and cons. and try to be more open minded about them. treat them with at least minimal respect while you are still holding them at arm's length, and when you feel ready to get to know them better, even if it's just as a friend, then talk to them more then. it's hard, and i know many guys would disappoint you in the process. but hey, if someone like me can do it (and i can be very harsh and cruel), then you can't be worse than me, right? just talk nicely and sweetly at first, keep them at arm's length so that if they are interested as a friend or potential boyfriend, they'd try their best to show you their good side, and when you start showing more trust in them, tell them in a way that you've had an ugly history with guys and would like to not be disappointed by them. that should mean a lot to a guy who took so long to earn the trust of girls like you an me who already have a bad impression of many guys. it takes time, but you will find some really nice guys in this world. trust me. i used to hate men with a passion, and now, i realize i treasure my guy friends more because of the time we took to become friends and earn each other's trust. and my male friends now treat me with a bit more respect than some of my girl friends because they understand what i've gone through. it's important to let guys know about this when deciding to let them befriend you. honesty is important in every relationship, but you will find some guys worth having as friends. trust me :)

[Asker]

omg awesome :') lol

and yea i do treat guys (the ones i know lol) nicely but i dont like to open up and kinda judge them too sometimes
but tell people about this? :\ I don't know man

[Clovergirl-Lily]

it's hard, and you have to be sure you trust them first. i once thought it was shameful to talk about it ever again. but after i did, i felt more free to forgive some of the guys who had hurt me in the past, or at least not hate them anymore. you have to be sure that the guy will understand this. some guys will, some don't know how to deal with it and might run from you because they don't know how to deal with all those kinds of emotions. that's why you should try to find a nice, mature guy who has known you long enough to take you seriously and will listen and try to understand. it's not easy at all, so i used to express that whirlpool of emotions through my writing. find a way to let it out. try to look at it from different perspectives. think of how many good things have happened to you in comparison to those things, i know, cliche, but count your blessings. or why not think about it like this: are they really worth your time, energy, and passion?

[Clovergirl-Lily]

too much to say, anyway, hatred will probably kill a lot of cells, so i don't bother too much anymore. and indifference is a better form of revenge than hatred because hatred gives them the satisfaction that they can get to you, and that you acknowledge their presence in your life because you spend the time to despise them. but indifference means they aren't even significant enough for you to spend your life hating them, kinda like they don't even exist to you. my guilty pleasure, but it's a totally awesome feeling to have when you know that they know you barely even acknowledge their existence in this world. it's awesome because they need attention, and that is the one thing you aren't giving them :P

[Asker]

wow i feel like you really get exactly how i feel lol
but how do you tell someone that? "hey guess why i treat you so horribly? i was molested as a kid and hurt a lot as an adult hurray !" lol
i also have this voice in my head telling me men dont care anyways even if a guys loves you and all that men are not interested in womens feelings and find their talking meaningless ramblings lol on some level i know its not true or at least not all men... but the level is not deep enough i guess lol

you do make really good points btw, have you had feelings of like revenge and stuff? were you able to get over it too?
i never act on it because i know in the back of my mind that will result in another bitter person in the world but its there lol

[Clovergirl-Lily]

well, when i was in high school, at the age of 14, i've done a few stupid things because one of the guys who hurt me lived across the street from me. and i said things like "fuck you" to him and stuff. really immature, i know. but i was angry as hell because he used to harass me and once, in the winter, he and another friend threw snowballs with ice within them at my sister and i. he bothered my younger sister before too, and that really ticked me off. but then, another one of these guys who hurt me, started treating me more kindly and with respect, talking to me nicely as anyone would with a young child (i have a baby face and am really tiny, so it's no big deal to me). he stood up for me when we were 15 (he harassed me when we were 12), telling his friends to leave me alone and he would make small talk with me in English class (the class we shared together). it was really sweet and it was then that i knew he only acted that poorly because of his poor choice of friends.

[Clovergirl-Lily]

anyway, continuing with the previous comment. he was always much smarter than his friends, and he smiled sincerely and talked to me in a very friendly way. it changed my opinion about him, and i wouldn't speak to him rudely ever again if he started speaking to me again now since we are attending the same university. in the same year, grade 10, when we were 15, i had a religion teacher who was very into writing reflections, and i have a talent in expressing myself through writing and i spend a lot of my time thinking. the reflection-writing helped me a lot, and my religion teacher and art teacher (we did a self portrait in art class and had to explain it through a written piece) both offered to talk with me if i needed it. that's when i realized many people would support me and i really don't need to feel so negative about these things. and ever since i was 9, i had an autistic girl two years younger than me who became my sunshine and my ray of hope during my worst times. it helped me

[Clovergirl-Lily]

i got over it in the end. the autistic girl is still someone i love deeply to this day, and she still recognizes me and smiles. plus, my kinder guy friends helped me see the good side of the male population. we would definitely have feelings of revenge, but as long as you don't focus on them, then these experiences will be buried so deep that it is difficult to pull them out again. i don't really feel anything about my experiences now, except that they made me stronger and wiser and more careful. i can't say if i'd still be scared if i see the guys who hurt me once again, but i know that one day, they might be required to respect me because unlike them, i never wasted my time on hurting people during my childhood, and in the future, especially after high school, they will realize what they did just made them more vulnerable in the real adult world. and i might become their boss. i feel better cuz i know i have more value than they do in the real world

[Myownhero]

It is hard for a person who doesn't really know what you have gone trough to sit and give you advice on how to take away the pain and the anger but im going to give it a shot :)

First of all i think the best way to get rid of the bitterness is to fully let yourself feel the pain, its okay to be sad and its okay for you to be mad, but for how long do you want to remain mad?
Take some time and be mad but know that at some point in order to live your life "happily" you need to stop being mad, you need to accept the past and forgive and let go.
Learn and grow from it.

Not every man is bad, there are plenty of great guys out there :)

[pr3ttybr0wn]

not all men are like that. when u meet the ones who aren't they will help change ur opinion. unfortunately u have seen the dark side of men which do exist, there are a lot of bad ones out there in this evil world but there are good noble men who wouldn't hurt someone, especially not an innocent child

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

I think it's important to really learn about the opposite sex. It's about developing empathy. If you only see your own hopes and fears, pain, joy, and experience, you will develop tunnel vision, good or bad.

I went out of my way to find out about women's issues (having sisters helped that, lol) and really trying to understand general female perspectives. I can't say I'm an expert by any stretch, but it has certainly paid dividends in my romantic life. I approach women on the street, and basically anywhere I want--but I am always conscious of their fears, and I approach in the most disarming and reassuring ways I possibly can. Women quickly know I'm no threat to them.

I think it would be helpful for you to study men's issues and really try to find out what a man's world is like--what are his hopes, fears, points of joy and pain. And you must do so without judgment--instead, actively seek to sympathize. Reading the comments here makes it plain as day that most women have shockingly poor understanding of men and callous attitudes (and many men of women, for that matter).

A lot of men hate extreme feminists. I don't. I feel very sorry for them. I think that the hate and resentment of men (while there is certainly historical basis which reasonable people can't deny) is ultimately rooted in one thing: fear and lack of understanding. And that's simply tragic. I think you will have similar discoveries as me when you seek to understand men.

I also think you simply need to start meeting as many men as possible to rack up positive experiences with them--when you have those, it will be much harder to think poorly of them (just of deserving individuals, lol). Check out this link, it should be helpful in that regard (look for my answer, which has a link as well, which you should read first): https://bit.ly/1x0hO0q

Hope that helps ;)

[Asker]

*fires up cloning machine*
get in there ! we need more dudes like you lol

[Asker]

lmao a lot of guys are telling her "walk around half naked thatll work!"

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

*hops in cloning machine*
"is this thing safe?"

haha, well their advice *would* draw attention ;)

[Asker]

I don't know you're the first test subject :P

hehe yes it most certainly would :P

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

Another piece of advice for you.

There's a book I read that was very helpful to me after some extremely difficult things I was facing. Most self-help books are fluffy non-sense, but this one is a desert-island book and I can't recommend it highly enough--it is exceptional. I think you should read it. The title is more extreme than it should be (publisher's like attention grabbing names), but it's called Emotional Chaos to Clarity, by Phillip Moffitt. Here's the link: https://amzn.to/1tvq2Gi

[Asker]

oh sorry just saw this

thanks !

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

haha, not a problem you didn't see it.

Definitely get that book, I'd recommend it to anyone, whether they are having troubles or not. It basically is a manual on how to think and behave in the most mature way possible.

[Tdieseler]

Think about the other side. there are nice caring thoughtful and sensitive guys out there (which you have probably pushed away) because of your bitterness toward PAST men. You make the good guys suffer for the sins of the terrible ones when in reality, there are good guys out there who are just looking for someone who won't see them as a statistic (there are tons on here). and then they come across you. that just breaks their spirits down even more. the same way you feel on here is the same way many guys too feel like the world is filled with bitches, bitter women, unappreciative gold diggers, etc... but even if this is true, we still cling on to the fact that one day, we would meet a lady. maybe thats what you should do too, cling on to the fact that you would run into a gentleman and you can't do that by being picky.
How about you start by having a male friend who you can talk with openly and trust? I can volunteer for that position if it means i get to put faith in men back into one person.
You think men drive you crazy, you should see what you women do to us lol

[Asker]

well i mean i guess the positive thing is that i DO believe there aer good guys out there but its like deep down i think they are VERY VERY rare to come by i know there is plenty but the bad shows more so.. lol
actually now that i think about i dont really "push" them away but more like give them hard time before i let them in lol
i met a good man before :) no one is perfect but he was in my eyes. and that was just after a MAJOR heart break so i was even more defensive than usual lol but he still stuck around :) i still have feelings for him and i doubt they will ever go away but we wanted different things in life lol it didn't work out

and lmao i did have a male friend that i was very open with and stuff lol i dont think its about trust... not sure what it is about tbh...

but honestly this is great (your comment i mean) it was sweet lol and the rest of the comments too i was expecting some hate and backlash lol

[Tdieseler]

I told you there were tons of guys on here who can relate too. except even if we do feel a little hostility we still cling to hope and try not to backlash. The funny thing I've learned about girls over the years is that they pick pick what they WANT in a man, instead of what they NEED. they'd go for the player jerks who are good looking because they want a good looking guy then they try to make him have feelings for them. instead of just going for the average guy that already has feelings. so you are right, its not about trust its about you picking want over need. you give the good guys a hard time but just open yourself up to the one you want because the physical attraction is there. physical attraction is easy to get, emotional compatibility on the other hand takes hella work. that there is your problem, not trust. do you really think the good looking guy you go for doesn't know that he doesn't have options? thats how girls get hurt. thinking its you only.

[Asker]

that guy i mentioned was THE opposite of what i find physically appealing... literally lol

[Tdieseler]

its not a perfect science. in my experience, it is more likely for a girl to find a decent guy than for a guy to find a decent girl. and i can explain that too.

[Asker]

lol you really think so? I don't know man lol

[Tdieseler]

it is. think of the approach. if a girl approaches a guy, its only a while before his intentions become clear and she can choose to stay or leave. most choose to stay believing they can make some change. A guy approaches a girl, he is Judged before he even has a chance to speak his name. with the girl at least they got to exchange words first before judgment. with the guy, nothing. example, what the anonymous guy said (0%). how can you find a decent girl when the chances of her even wanting to talk to you to see if you are decent too is less than 15%?
(by the way, I'm using a general statistic here lol, has nothing to do with me or my methods)

[Asker]

true true lol but then again, a girl can never know if the person infront of her is gonna rape her or w/e or not lol so we kinda always have our guard up
like the guys is safer around the girl, so its easier to sort of relax and stuff and hear things out
girls... well, with different danger and all that surrounding us (and getting judged by others as well) weve become more and more defensive lol

and yes of course guys also face lots and lots of dangers, but if you compare the two id say guys are safer lol

[Tdieseler]

i absolutely disagree. and what danger is a girl in when she's in a public place and a guy approaches? but the guy is still in danger because some bogus girl could just yell out that she is being molested and all of a sudden there's a lynch mob consisting of guys and girls. these days, guys are the ones that have to be careful, both in public and private, girls just like to revel in the fact that they are the ones in danger. like some kind of excuse.
If a guy intended to rape a girl, its highly unlikely that he will approach her in a public place and try to make himself known. he must be either gutsy or extremely stupid. (which are basically the same things lol)

[Asker]

dude some guys rape their own gfs lol not about public or private and i dont really think its an excuse, back in the day women didn't have the privileges or protection of today

and im not saying girls are constantly running away from monsters while guys are sitting at home drinking beers lol im just saying its more likely for a girl,

but yes i agree some girls abuse this, a guy could accidentally hit her or something and she yells rapist
but not all of them

[Tdieseler]

yea, but we aren't back in the day now are we. and as for those guys that rape their own gfs.. im still deciding who to blame. i haven't really come up with anything yet. its the norm to automatically blame the guy in rape situations but I'm super neutral minded in those situations.
I've got a question, so this male friend of yours... he can't restore your faith in men again? i mean what role does he play if he doesn't even support his own team?

[Asker]

well this is one thing i never really told him lol
like i would ask his advice when it came to boy stuff he gave me insight 3:) but i guess he mainly focused on the negative (not trying to put men in a negative light but sort of telling me to be careful and what to look for and such lol)

and yea there are men in my life i do trust (if they are not family it takes A LOT lol) but when it comes to love its even harder lol

[Asker]

hi, me again lol

quick question, if a woman hit you would you hit back?

[Tdieseler]

quick answer, if you can dish it, you can take it. Real men don't hit women, but there is such a thing as self-defense and sometimes you have to hit. I had a girl come at me with a knife once. what was i to do? say I'm a man and keep my hands by my side? hell no, i took her ass down lol. so me personally, if a woman hits me, i think i have every right to hit back... unless i deserved it. (like if i betrayed her trust or something)

[Asker]

oh lol ok

[Tdieseler]

@Asker Why? someone hit you?

[Asker]

omg no xD hahah

but i believe a real man would NEVER hit a woman.
UNLESS she was bigger/stronger or had a weapon or there was some threat to his life
a guy can take a slap or punch from a woman (and cussing doesn't hurt physically) so yea.. lol

[Tdieseler]

thats basically what i said. and i really don't go for that "real" man definition. a real woman doesn't hit a man either. they can take a slap or punch too.. matter of fact, its scientifically women can take more punishment than men. men just don't say or show anything.

[Asker]

I've never laid hands on a man and probably never would (unless the situation calls forit or something)

did you see that NYC subway thing?
I've never hated a man more than those dudes

yes the girl needed to be thrown out of the subway but did you see how hard he hit her? AFTER calling her a dumb b**ch? she was unarmed and half his size and she punshed the phone because he was taping and calling her names... I've been pissed since i saw that lol

[Tdieseler]

No, i haven't seen that. you should send me a link. just like men sometimes deserve getting hit, sometime women bring it on themselves too... my issue is with Continuous hitting. NO ONE deserves that. I don't care what they did.

[Asker]

i dont even remember where i got it lol
but basically it was a girl talking trash to some guy twice her size ( i did not understand a word of it but i could tell she wasn't complementing his looks) nd her friends were sitting down not really participating but like "oooh" or "daaamn girl" stuff like that

the dude was just standing there (felt bad for him at that point tbh, but i thought SHE was the one looking like a psycho lol)
and a third dude from behind was taping the whole thing anyways he called her names and she and her friend went up to him and then she yelled at him too (again didn't understand it) and then slapped his phone off his hand like twice
then the first dude was standing now closer to the third dude (the one who was taping) and the girl shoved/punched the back of his head (wasnt really clear what she did but it was a hit) he tunred around...

[Asker]

and slapped her skin off you could literally hear it ! sounded like a spank lol it was no where near as hard as she hit him -_- and like i said she was unarmed and half his size then her guy friend stood up for her the other guy (also bigger than her guy friend) beat him then went back to the girl he was tossing her and hitting her around the subway! and yea everyone was hitting everyone
disgusting ! and seriously pissed me off since i saw it (last night)

[Tdieseler]

sounds like they all had issues. i have a theory... there is literarily nothing that can't be solved over a bottle. its theory i came up with and a theory that has worked for me. you know how inhibitions get lowered after drinks... so does the heat.. and over time of constant shot, after a while, you either don't know what you are fighting about or willing to forgive lol. so much easier.

[Tdieseler]

I'm going to have to write to GaG about their Auto-Correct system... ugh

[Asker]

i doubt either one of them wanted to invite the other for drinks :P

[Tdieseler]

never know till you extend the invitation. the other half of that theory is that if the negative emotions are too intense, they won't have any inhibition in showing it. things could get worse lol.

[Shpongolia]

Your inner bitterness will only impact you, not those who victimized you. Bitter resentment is normal to feel after terrible experiences with certain types of people. The most ideal way to overcome this would probably to enrich your life with more positive males who you can trust and get closer to.

[Tdieseler]

well said.

[ThreeIn]

One way to combat it would be to talk to more guys, talk to a lot of guys, and find some guys you think are actually pretty cool.
You just need to actually know some good guys.

[Asker]

its getting harder man lol with the idiots online and bigger idiots on the street

[ThreeIn]

Trust me, I know, they piss me off too.

[Asker]

awww :') i know not all guys are bad but the bad kinda overshadows the good lol

[ThreeIn]

It does, and its better to play it safe and just not trust us.

[Asker]

whoah lol hy doe this make me feel better? should it? xD

[ThreeIn]

I don't know lol fuck men. Some of us are cool tho.

[Asker]

yep there is ^_^

[Popnlock]

hmmm instead of hating all men in general... Why don't you just hate the dude that did the molesting that sounds way more appropriate then generalizing all men as evil... Don't get me wrong there's some people out there that suck and there terrible people but you can't just throw a whole gender into the same category it seems like your letting your emotions do the thinking vs your brain...

[XcoexistX]

For you it is about men and what they have done. Maybe you have to put yourself out there and find a good guy right for you. In people there is good and bad and maybe your experience has led you to believe in a contorted world where all men are evil. This is in no way true and I hope in person you're able to observe this. It is about humanity of people. Look for the good in people although dont leave yourself totally open it could lead you to get hurt.

[Asker]

well on some level i know its not true (obviously) but I don't know i feel like ihave developed trust issues with guys or just feel constantly disrespected or that i dont open up to someone enough because they won't respect me anyways

basically i know there are good men out there, but my walls are up so high lol

[Meedo]

Well... you don't have to burry the feelings inside you. I can understand how you feel. The secret to be less bitter towards men is to understand them.

Make male friends and notice the good stuff they do.

Go to therapy so you can speed up your recovery. I wish you the best.

[JackKerouac77]

By accepting the past and letting go of all the hurt/wrongs you have been giving.

Also realizing that there are many more good men who want to love and care for you than hurt and molest you.

I'm sorry this happened to you, but you are giving those who hurt you power over you if you continue to dwell on such negativity. Live your life the opposite of the pain you feel. Live your life for loving yourself and others.

[Jackblue]

I am going to diverge from what other people are saying here a bit. I think you should just stay away from all men for the time being. Go to therapy and try to regain your self-confidence. Once you feel confident again much of your feelings of anger should subside.

[decemberxblue]

You have to find supporting evidence that proves those beliefs wrong. Firstly, women cat-call, are molesters, heart breakers, and bitches too (Girls equivalent of "jerk"). None of those issues are gender exclusive. Does that mean you should hate women too? Of course not.

[Asker]

i know its obviously not gender exclusive but when i look for a partner it won't be a female :P they can all be gold diggers idc lol because i won't date one of them. thats why i was only talking about dudes here lol

[decemberxblue]

Haha, fair enough. You're anonymous, so I hope you don't mind this question, but it's significant. How were the older male role-models in your childhood? Father, uncles, grandfathers?

[Asker]

haha

well no grandfathers :( (passed away) but i only heared awesome things about them and only two of my cousins met my grandfather and said he was the sweetest thing ever lol (he was a military guy so yea very firm and strict but becomes a baby around his grandchildren so cute xD )

my uncle is like a second dad to me lol
and my dad is AWESOME ! <3
i dont really like how he talks to my mom sometimes, but she seems fine with it
me and my brother are not really THAT close but were good lol

[decemberxblue]

Aww, your grandpa seems like he was a great man. Your uncle is like a second father, AND your dad is awesome... They did a good job of setting an example for you. To ignore the example they set is sort of a disservice, but I understand why it may be difficult. Child molesters deserve to be thrown UNDER the jail.

I have a close friend here (Girl) who also overcame a pretty deep hatred towards men. I can give you her username if you'd like. She's much more experienced than I am in this regard and I'm sure she'd love to help.

[Asker]

i guess you are right haha i really dont know where this is coming from... id blame it on what happened when i was little i guess lol and maybe my mom and dad thing

oh really? she used therapy and stuff? or on her own? and how? lol
i dont wanna be hateful and stuff but id still wanna keep my guard up just to be safe lol

[decemberxblue]

What is it that he does/says to her that you don't like?

She did research on her own and found solutions that worked. Things like having your guard up, having a distrust and an animosity towards men is exactly what she overcame. I couldn't tell you exactly what methods she used. Her username is "Part6fam", and she'll be back in town tomorrow.

[Asker]

i feel like he kinda disrespects her, she laughs it off or w/e but if a guy did that to me i wouldn't be too happy about it...

oh ok thanks lol

[decemberxblue]

Do you think you could talk to him about it? Tell him it's rude and you'd appreciate it if he could chill a little bit.

Anytime

[Anonymous]

I wasn't abused like you. But the heartbreaks (and 0% success) make me a bit hostile towards women, and people who are happy in general. All I think to myself is that it's not their fault. They don't know any better. I should just try again. Women go through a lot of stuff too, so, I should try and understand that.

[Asker]

thats a very good point actually..

[Tdieseler]

well said.

[AlwaysBelieving]

At least you know you're bitter towards men. I'm sorry this happened to you. You're trying to get through it and that's a good start. As for stop trying to feel bitter, just put yourself out there. I know it's easier said than done, but hopefully you'll find a good honest guy that will understand what you've been through.

[rjroy3]

Form friendships with guys. Talk to more men and the more you get to know good guys the less jaded towards them you will feel. I'm assuming you already spoke to a therapist about your past issues and resolved things inside of yourself

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry you've had those experiences and that members of my gender were responsible for them. I wish I could do something. Both genders get hurt by the other and it's sad when it turns them off to the entire gender. I hope you can see past what those pathetic examples of males did to you and find a good one who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

[HorrorFan]

You'll (hopefully) stop feeling bitter about men when you meet the right guy. I promise you that there are a lot of guys out there that aren't evil and would never hurt you in any way.

[AdamThomas]

Just remember that only a small minority are like that.

[Asker]

well the thing is the good ones are always in the background you know
so what you see most is the bad :\ like a good man wouldn't cat call or harass or w/e but bad ones do and obviously its more noticable lol

[AdamThomas]

Yeah, exactly.

[Tdieseler]

@Asker like that friend of yours?

[Asker]

@Tdieseler
what do you mean? like he was in the background and stuff?
well yes and no lol, when we first met we both hated eachother xD but we had the same group of friends so we were around eachother enough to see we misjudged hehe

but there was also guys i trusted as friends and relly thought of them like a shelter or something and foundthem manly, trustworthy... etc but now... omg i can't even tell you lol

[Tdieseler]

@Asker because you are starting to realize they were the ones you may have stepped over?

[Asker]

actually no lol they... well I don't know if they changed or showed true colours lol but they turned out to be poisonous
@Tdieseler

[Tdieseler]

really? ok. (just a random slip in, some poisons are used to cure ailments, if used in moderation lol) one of those "poisons" may have been good for you, if you just took it slow lol @Asker
I love the fact that we are spamming this dude's comments

[Asker]

perhaps perhaps perhaps heheh

lmao yes he's so cool about it though
sorry opinion owner lol

[front2back]

I have no idea. I'm currently bitter towards EVERYONE. I don't like people. I can't trust people. People annoy me. So I'm *kinda* on the same boat.

[Asker]

then read the answers too :P

[Anonymous]

Just putting it out there if a guy said this about women he would be mocked and ridiculed. You will find that men are the nicer gender.

[Asker]

yea stuff like that also gets on my nerves... guys trying to make it about them

[Opinion Owner]

What's that supposed to mean?

[Asker]

woman "omg i have knives and blades in my uterus, i hate my period!"
man "my stomach hurts when i have to poop too you're not the only one with problems"
like that ^

its not a competition lol

[Asker]

and about your point yes probably he would. a girl would too if they wrote it attacking the opposite gender
but I've seen guys here post stuff like this and people were very understanding
if anything some guys even were like "why do you want to like women anywyay? they suck!"

[Opinion Owner]

The world isn't going to console you about your problems with men, if you never find a boyfriend the world will keep on moving. No one is really going to care if you ever get over your bitterness. You're either going to have to realize not all guys are bad or just be alone forever.

[Nuns_in_Heat]

100% What he said.

[Asker]

i wasn't asking for consolation nor was i waiting for the world to stop spinning
my question is clear if you dont want to answer then find another question

[Anonymous]

You're letting the bad apple, spoil the rest. You can't do that. If you want to find a mate, you have to go in thinking you will

[Anonymous]

nothing wrong with hate. no need to stop

[randomwhiteguy]

Not all of us are like that