I have started hating men... What should I do?

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I don't want to hate men...  BUT They have oppressed women throughout the history. They consider women inferior. They limited their opportunities, they didn't allow them to be educated for a long time. They don't respect women as much as they respect men. They don't take a woman seriously. They harass women, catchall women and rape women. They have curse words which often insult women. Ever heard of fatherf**ker? Swear words are often sexist. English language is sexist. God is considered a male. Many times, people including women are referred to as 'he' and 'men', for example 'mankind'. They allowed female foeticide, dowry system, and girls moving to the in law's home after marriage. They also created sexist traditions such as bride's father washing the groom's feet in a marriage ceremony... Also, women have to take men's last name after the marriage and the middle name tends to be the father's or the husband's. In Islamic countries, we have burkha, women can't drive, triple talaq system, etc. It is all even worse! Plus, men hate it when a woman is better at something than them... This all has made me lose faith in men and I have started believing that men have an inherent instinct to oppress women. They don't care about women, they only care about themselves. I know that things have started to improve but all the generations of men oppressed women, so I believe that men are all like that - all the generations of men will continue to oppress women.

winterfox10 · Accepted Answer

The oppression comment is definitely true to an extent, but women have also had a profound impact on history. I don't think it's entirely fair to say that men have held women down. I get your point though.

Some men think women are inferior, but you get bad eggs in every group. There are far more who don't feel that way at all.

A lot of times, men were also being denied educational opportunities, so the only time it was really sexism was the richest members of society. Educational opportunities are a question of money, and if your time would better spent working to earn money, then you aren't being denied education because of sexism.

I will say that a lot of men have difficulty respecting women. They have difficulty respecting anyone, but women definitely get screwed in that department. A lot of that is sexism. There's a feeling in many younger men that a women tend not to really earn their status in the workplace. Sexism works both ways, and I will say that while I've never had a problem with being subordinate to women, most of the women I've worked under have gotten preferential hiring because they are women. Some were incredibly competent at their jobs, but most weren't.

They harass women, catchall women and rape women... Yeah... yeah men really need to get better about that.

Curse words are curse words are definitely sexist. I've never heard the term fatherfucker though? I'm not sure if that was your whole point, but I don't quite see the connection you're making.

"Man kind" is derived from "human." That particular etymology is not sexist in nature. God is identified as masculine AT THIS POINT in Abrahamic religions, where the Middle Eastern and Mediterranean societies were generally more chauvinist. The relationship people have with God is generally similar to the relationship they have their fathers and authority figures. Religions evolve to accommodate the societies that they are trying to mesh with. German and Nordic societies had some absolutely ferocious female gods.

I'm not sure why the dowry system indicates oppression of women. The dowry system is part of the contractual arrangements of marriage to politically join two families.

The last name thing is directly male dominated, but again; that's a product of patriarchal societies. The changing of names allows for the more clear distribution of assets under the common law of property.

Men hate it when anyone is better than them at something.

Men, like women, are inherently selfish, yes. I think people are beginning to universally understand that oppressing women is a bad idea though. It seems like major progress is being made.

wtf636 · Accepted Answer

Everyone cares about themselves more. The only reason you feel this way is because you see how men treat women, but don't see how women treat men. Because you are a woman. The grass is always greener.

A lot of men feel like women have it easier in life than them. They are coddled from a young age, protected from danger, treated as greater than men often (women and children first), and aren't expected to pull their own weight if they don't want to (can be a stay at home mom while men are considered lazy or not a man by women if they wanted this). If there is a divorce, most of the time men get fucked financially, and don't get to see their kids. We have to do all the work in dating, pay for everything, and then deal with women like you telling us how much harder you have it then us because of all the reasons you stated. Completely overlooking the tough time that men are having. Which is why they don't respect you when you complain about your problems, most of which I would venture to guess you have never actually dealt with personally. Just heard this happened to a woman you know.

My point is. Everyone has a tough time in this life. For you to say that men are terrible, and women are complete angels, is not only stupid and incorrect. But incredibly ingnorant to all of the good things that men have done over the years. I don't think men have it harder, but I don't think it's as easy as women like you think. And maybe you should try actually talking to more men, and listening to what they have to say. Rather then waiting for them to stop talking so you can tell them why they are wrong.

Also I will point out that it will be very hard for you to find a man with this attitude. It gets old really fast, no matter how hot you are. So I would start looking at men as women with different problems, and maybe that will help you. Also, stop complaining and do something about it, if it bothers you so much.

scarlett774 · Accepted Answer

Hmm maybe you need to just figure out that not all men are the same and there are some good ones our there.

Kaazsz · Answer

Well it’s not true that men have only oppressed women for all of human history. For most of our ancestry we were hunter gatherers. Men had a role and women had a role and as far as I know things were decently harmonious.

It was developed cultures which created massive increases in resources and population when things really became men oppressing women.

I think if women were big and strong, than they would have oppressed men. It’s in human nature to fight over resources and control resources and women are a resource.

I think that a lot of men still suffer from some kind of anti woman bias and I think that’s sad. I think those men should read Ayn Rand. If you read Ayn Rand and believe in her philosophy, sexism becomes silly. It’s just stupid to beleive that women are somehow inferior. It’s silly to be upset when a woman can do good things.

I think a lot of it stems from sex. We feel that when a woman has power she loses the ability to be attracted to any man with less power. It’s a belief we all have and I don’t even know that it’s a false belief. We don’t want to become sexless unloved men when women get power. So I think a lot of men are afraid of that. Whether that’s true or not I don’t know but it could be.

Skankhunt · Answer

They consider women inferior. Not every men consider women as inferior

They don't respect women as much as they respect men. They don't take a woman seriously. Not all men disrespects women or not take them seriously.

They harass women, catchall women and rape women. Not every men catcall women.

Also, women have to take men's last name after the marriage. Not all men wants you get have his last name, some men want the last name of their wife, some men want you to keep your own last name..

Plus, men hate it when a woman is better at something than them...
Not all of them do, It's because they feel inferior if they lose from a girl. They feel less of a man if a woman is better at something. That's because some men do think women are inferior.

Some men feel the same, they feel women can't be trusted and will leave you if they don't match her standards (looks, money, succes etc).

You need to fin d a good men who doesn't think like that and respects women. Don't lose faith in men. There are good men.

Novacane · Answer

I agree with you men have done so much to oppress women and to this day they try. But we are in a turning moment. Many people know the value women have and even hold them to a higher state. We need more women in power. Don't get me wrong there will always be those men that are inherently dumb and ignorant. There are people that will always spill hate on to this world for no reason, but the moment you start to think like them in hating "All men" you become no different than them. The main people who have caused me harm growing up were women sadly, but never will I hate them, I know that it was just those individuals, I can't blame the and judge those for what others have committed. Be better today than what we were yesterday.

Bhavin2184 · Answer

Stop looking at the history.
Look at the present time..
Woman are not inferior they are better than man..
God is man at least in Hindus we have female God..
Man do respect woman and even work under female boss..
Also there is law for female genocide..
Also dowry is crime and you can file a complaint against the man..
The sexiest ritual of feet Washing is not compulsory.. also not all Hindus do such rituals..
The Muslim woman have the choice to wear Burqa.. some woman do not wear that thing.
So things are changing for women.
I hope in future man and woman both will be equal.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

Start by not listening to most guys here. You will find many girl hatetrs on this site.

About the points you made.
Things were much worse some generations ago then what they are now. Today you have much more opportunities, society takes sexual harrassment, domestic violence and rape cases more seriously, women have many incentives to get in the science and engineering.

Even socially there was an evolution. Now is accepted that women make more money and have a higher social status than their husband. My wife makes more than me. So what? I still bring money home and get half of the expenses. This also proves that some of us don't have a problem with women being better than us.

Even those trations like a bride's father washing the groom's feet are not really common anymore. My wife didn't took my last name!

There might be some work to do still, sure. But many men don't see you with the same eyes our grandfathers did.

DemonInside · Answer

How about revisit history? Men and women together formed this and built this society. It certainly wasn't revolving around equality but it hasn't been unequal in a way that I think women would happily trade places with coal miners, or those drafted to recruits. That's not to say one is harder than another. I'm saying it hasn't been equal, and I'm not sure it ever should be.

The_unknown_memer · Answer

it's ok to be angry at us , some men do give the entire male population a bad name of course.

You know in the western and European countries, men have their own sexism to fight from both men and even women. So if we allow ourselves to hate to women , we have are own legitimate reasons too ( even tho it's actually lesser reasons )

But tell me will hate solve anything? Will thinking about the past crimes help you find peace within yourself?

You know there are women and even men fighting for women's rights perhaps you could join them and become an actual feminist.

virtue2332 · Answer

I understand how you feel. There are a lot of guys that act this way and it makes no sense. The facts are we wouldn't exist without you so you deserve much more respect for giving us life. Also all men aren't like the ones that are you hate so I hope you include some of us into your circle

Derekk · Answer

One of the things to keep in mind is that it has to do with accumulated privilege rather than gender itself. It's actually why I believe women should take over politically for about 8 generations or so. Once they become selfish power hungry oppressors, then we can switch back to men. And so on and so forth.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

You're young i could say... You need to revisit history, i mean read what you wrote... and one question which i think i know the answer already... Are you Muslim? Just for my curiousity...

Jackblue · Answer

Have a drink, this is why I am of the opinion that Islam is foolish for forbidding alcohol. Hatred and other painful emotions need to occasionally be washed from the mind. The fact of the matter is nothing that anybody tells you on this site is going to extinguish the burning fire within your brain, in time your views may change, or they may not. The best any of us can do is get through another day without being violent.

EmotionOfFear · Answer

Well you've been hurt. I get it. But half of that isn't true. Today's society ESPECIALLY takes rape and sexual harassment  very  seriously for women. I know numerous men who have been sexually assaulted or raped but the government didn't do jack about it for them because "They must've liked it" or "Men can't be raped".

ProLife · Answer

lol ofc you had to go anon miss sweet
Everything is build by men, men gave you the right to vote
we are stronger, we can have sex with you iF WE WANT TO and there's nothing you can do about it.
we are superior in every aspect in life

so deal with it or become a lesbian.

Anonymous · Answer

Realize that men aren't a monolithic group; and you should evaluate people on an individualistic basis. Otherwise you'll be opposed to the guys who are supportive of women's rights and equality. And by extension you will essentially be shooting yourself in the foot.

ohshee · Answer

You know whats cool about what you said ,, is you also have a choice to change each abd every one of those and most women when meeting a guy if he's like the one your talking about they just keep on walking

Anonymous · Answer

A lot of men are starting to hate women now too. Not because of the way the they were historically treated but because of the way that they are being treated by them right now

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Yawn. . . you could try that whole hatefuck thing. I hear it is a turn on.

ixukuto · Answer

God is considered a make? Thats isn't sexist at all, the English language as Well. You made bad poimts Here and didn't look at bott sides.

Anonymous · Answer

Men don't consider all women inferior, only women like you who actually ARE inferior.

ValleyofDrakes · Answer

Stop that.

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