Do I sound bitter towards men or just uninterested?

[Anonymous]

28F, I've been asked if I’m asexual when I share my lack of sex drive & dating experience. I haven’t masturbated in years or had sex, if I never have it again I don’t think I’d be too upset. I don’t know if my looks are the issue I don’t think they are, there’s clearly a lot of other people worse off that find relationships lol. I’ve only used the dating apps since I don’t have a social life, getting likes/matches/msgs aren’t the issue it’s finding a connection. I find a lot of men attractive, have celebrity crushes etc. I’m attracted to men but with the men I’ve communicated with throughout the years, I’m turned off by their asshole tendencies. I know there’s good guys out there, regardless of how genuine they seem deep down I know they’re conceited & that behavior will come out eventually. Maybe I’m bitter or just lost interest in finding a guy to date, in a way I feel like I’m saving myself from that unnecessary frustration. I have a very short fuse but I’ll let you all put in your two cents

Bitter

Not interested

[Anonymous]

You sound normal lol
You would be surprised how normal this is nowadays including me. ( I am the same as you at 31) That’s because you want the correct relationship and stability. And that’s how it should be in fact I’ll correct it you are not just normal- you sound amazing to me. I appreciate girls as you. And you are on the right direction. Keep looking until you find exactly the energy that matches you. You are NOT that bitter and damaged one don’t listen to comments saying that to you: they are being proactive and blaming their inner damages self to YOU. Let those hoes not distract you. Ok trust me it’s true every day is so different you don’t know what tomorrow brings you. It’s ok if you don’t go out often etc etc. You live your life and join clubs activities you like you will find him. Also don’t set deadlines to your life.. don’t fall into that hole. When you get let’s say 40 and realize that age is just a number and you rushed because “you are getting old” now your soul is going to get hurt. Don’t be stupid be smart as you are !

[whirled_up_girl]

Maybe a little bit of both bitter that it's so frustrating to find someone, uninterested in that you've found better ways to spend your energy. I woulnd't give up completely, though, you might end up meeting someone without even really trying too.

[Tyrael]

I was leaning towards uninterested until you said even good guys deep down are assholes and conceited, which makes you just sound bitter as you're essentially saying all guys are assholes. You've obviously not had a good time with dating and that shows. Probably not a bad idea to give it a miss if it's not for you.

[silvermoon84]

I could be wrong, but I think the way she worded it was off. I don’t think she intentionally said the good guys are assholes. I think what she was getting at was that she can’t tell the good guys from the bad guys because the assholes are so good at pretending to be genuine. OP, please correct me if I’m wrong.

[DarkWinterNights]

I’d say neither. Or a little bit of both. To be fair, most people on this site are a little bitter. There may be a medical aspect to this? If you’re in birth control, it can absolutely impact your attraction and sex drive. You could also just be meeting assholes.

[Anonymous]

I can't judge you because I don't know you. But I kind of agree with @krakenattackin. I have many examples of strong quality women in my life. So I know what one acts like. It's also why I remain single. So few women today measure up. It sounds like you like me are just being logical, weighing the choices. Most people are selfish, that's just a reality. You just sound like you don't want to make wasted efforts anymore. I can relate.

[Berethor]

You sound asexual but you still want men, and hating men is what bitter women do.

[FilmGuy93]

Let me respond this way; I get way more of an exhausted vibe from you, than I do any kind of anger. I feel like you're just suuuper done.

[BJP21]

I wouldn't say disinterested because of the lack of social life. Once you start having a social life, your interest might perk up out of the blue.

[Anonymous]

How long have you been single now and how long was your longest relationship?

[sirderpsalot123]

Bitter

[KrakenAttackin]

C. Damaged.