My girlfriend slits her wrists, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend cuts herself, and I am absolutely crazy about her. What should I do?

[ObviouslyOriginalMe]

Self mutilation is the result of only a few things:
1) desperation for control
2) attention
3) release stress
If you are concerned get close with her and understand why, don't ask why she cuts but ask what she regrets, what's she dislikes about her life, etc. you can do this in a friends game or Truth (truth or dare without dares). After knowing this you can approach the subject with a better prespective. tell her if she feels the urge to cut tht she Gould call you before making that rash decision and that you are there for her. Once she realizes you are her attention, stress reliever, and god her a little control in a relationship, she will slot lean away from bad habits.

[chocomintstrawberry]

you should approach her about it but don't scare. When i used to cut and someone saw my cuts I had never been more terrified in my life. It felt like they'd found out my deepest darkest secrets. You need to tell her calmly to sit down and show you her wrists. Remember to speak softly and let her know you're there for her, not to interrogate her.

[RegularShow446]

I have encountered many people whom have self-harmed or talked in a way of deathly manners. She is probably performing this action because
1) Desperate need of control
2) Bring her self back into reality, and not into a million thoughts of pain
3) Stress-Reliever
4) Avoiding Suicide.

I know this may sound scary, and you may be scared for her, but the best thing to do is talk to her. If you are not comfortable talking to her, get help.

If she gets mad at you, then fine. At least your trying to help her (and maybe save her), and not letting her continue to do that, that could possibly lead to something way worse. Tell her you love her, and you want to help her. If she doesn't want help, get her help anyway.

Best of luck..

--

Former Self-Harmer.

[Ballerinasinger3]

you need to talk to her, tell her you're there for her. people dont do that unless they feel alone, with no other options. be her other option. show her how much you love her, take the knife away and replace it with conversation about whats bothering her

[Anonymous]

I know this may sound dumb, but I saw this somewhere online. A girl who cut herself was told by her therapist to use a red marker whenever she wanted to. The girl said it helped a lot and posted a picture of he markings on her thighs.

[MsAnthropist]

Encourage her to seek counseling. Self mutilation is typically a sign of low self esteem, and only she can repair that. Not you.

[Rusty83]

Take the knife of her

[KBob93]

Pretty much what @chocomintstrawberry said.