LADIES : Is she confused or playing games? What does she want?

[Ro0kie]

Hey I got a question. So there's this girl I really like and I think she is confused or just playing games. The thing is that she knows that I like her (and I told her) and she liked me before, she told me when we started getting to know each other. We couldn't date in the beginning b/c she had personal issues in her life and couldn't deal with dating. So I just remained as her friend for almost a year. I didn't want to push her into a relationship or anything because I wanted her to be happy first, yet I still really liked her, badly. I felt that she thought I stopped liking her after what had happened between us in the first place. So I assume she accepted it. Then I just stayed and watched her date and be with other guys. It's funny how she announces that she doesn't want relationships, and then says that it just happened when she does. She denies relationships until guys that have game (pickup skills) come along. I feel very hurt as well as very bad for her because all the guys treat her like crap and she doesn't deserve it. Her recent relationship was the time when she figured out that I still like her. And I admitted. Her best friend told me that she compared me with everyone else as such a good guy and a kind gentlemen. He asked her if she still liked me, and it seemed like she did. She also told him that I could be "the one". But she gave her ex a second chance, and he failed. At this point, she is single, but there is another guy, that has a horrible history of how he treats women, trying to get with her. He is around 4 years older than her, and I honestly don't trust him. Ugh, dealing with how she feels about me today is a question that's bothering me. And I'm worried that she'll always prefer guys with the pickup lines than the one not giving up and always being there for her. Is it attraction? Why does she give them chances? Would time decide our answer? Or should I just finally stop? Thanks for giving your time to read this. Really.

[pyramid_princess]

You obviously care about her a great deal, because even though it hurts you to see her with another guy, it hurts you even more to see her being treated badly by him. That's evidence that you have her best interests at heart, and how much you do feel for her. It's so thoughtful and selfless of you!

Maybe if she isn't ready for a serious relationship yet because of her issues, and she knows how much you care about her, so dates the guys she knows don't want a committed relationship with her. She may also truly care about you, and genuinely want to be with you, but is scared of taking that leap. Her feelings may be strong for you, and she knows she would want something more serious if she got together with you. If that makes sense to you.

In time hopefully she will realize, she is throwing away a diamond, while picking up stones

[Ro0kie]

I really like how you used that last phrase.. Now, I would talk to her about our feelings and all, but I don't want to her to be pressured or anything afterwards. I'm also scared because it could end up making things even more awkward in our friendship. Do you think it will? What I'm also trying to say is, I don't know how or when to tell her. You know?

[pyramid_princess]

Its best to tell people how much you care about them " now" , as soon as possible. Never give up an opportunity to tell her. You won't regret telling her, but you will regret not telling. We never know what our circumstances are going be from one day to the next. Tell her how much you care about her, then leave it at that, that way she knows, but won't feel pressured. There is only a chance for you, if she knows you true feelings. You could tell her you have been apprehensive about telling her because you dont want her to feel pressured, or affect your friendship.

You said it all so well on here, tell her what you have
said on this question, Its honest, from the heart and
caring, loving, and shows how much of a good guy you are. your head and heart knows what to say, you are just apprehhensive about saying it. Speak from your heart, like you have here, tell her at the next best possible opportunity

[Ro0kie]

I'm so wowed right now.. Thanks, I needed that :)

[pyramid_princess]

Your welcome, thanks for MHO

[Anonymous]

Give up with this girl she can't make her mind up. I know cos I did this with a guy and I am deeply ashamed of since I like him.

[Ro0kie]

I see what you mean. But what if this guy didn't give up on you? Thanks for posting!

[Opinion Owner]

Well are u gonna keep waiting? It's a waste of your time, as much as I want the guy I like to come back after I pushed him away I know that I will not change. This is because, I need to grow I need to discover myself before I can really know what I want. She will be leaving u hanging with hope but she might not give u want in the end. Forget her and work on yourself, in time u will find that person who knows that she wants u.

[Ro0kie]

Those are the same thoughts I have nowadays. And it's really bugging me. But my heart somehow says to go one more time. It never done this before. I just hope the best. For both of us. But you're still right, I'll let go if it makes her happy. Thanks for recognizing my situation.

[Opinion Owner]

You are welcome, this is your journey and whatever's meant to be will be.

Good luck!!

[Ro0kie]

Thanks.. I let her go. Told her that it'll be best that we can't be friends. She won't ever hear from me. Hopefully it'll get us both happy.

[Opinion Owner]

Good luck!! I hope everything works out for u!!

[Daynada]

Well that was a happy ending!

[shadowlegend]

You actually did get friend-zoned. Stop trying.

[Ro0kie]

Just did. Thanks.