Every where u go, u c women attached to their phones, this is where ladies shoot themselves in the foot. Guys are not stupid. even when u r on a date with a girl she's on her phone. Even phone bill stats reveal girls talk and text almost 7x more than men. Girls do not text back for a # of reasons no paticular order:
1) she is not sure what to say/shy/ nervous/ over thinking
2) she is interested in other guys n u r the back up/rainy day/free dinner and drink kiss on the cheek guy
3) she does not like u and does not have the character or courage to tell u directly, so she hints in ways u can not find out ( n they call themselves better communicators RME)
4) she's playing games because her friends, cosmo or some chick flick told her to. so she wants to c how much effort u will put or how desperate u r
5) she is mad at u for something u did/ or she found out something about u that she does not like
with the divorce rate on its way to 70% u may ask yourself why they play these foolish games and do not comunicate properly. try the marketing effect, ask a ton of girls out n date the ones wise enough and kind enough to get back to u. If a girl can't communicate with u at the beginning of a relationship, believe me its the sign of much more problems to come
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she's either really busy, or she sees the message and says "ill respond later" and never does. In all honesty she probably has a significant other or someone else she is talking to. Therefore you will not be at the top of her priority list. Its just they way life works, I wouldn't take much offense to it. Dont burn bridges, if she wants to talk to you she will if not her loss man.
No matter how many time you stress on the word friendship, she ll always look for a deeper meaning in your effort of communicating her and finally seeimg that she s getting nowhere with you, all that late responses etc. She may be like "m tired of mind games" .
Girls have hard time reading men s behaviour as straighforward as men would. I mean, women always look for an alterior motive, call it positive or negative. So if you told her you re aorry for a late response she d be like "didnt yiu at least pee the whole day?" . We take it serious when we re not responded as fast as we do. But anyway, she proBbly needs to see you try harder for contacting her. But in the mean time make it clear to her that you ve already been doing ur best for keeping in touch and that you value her as a good friend. And be careful, make sure she doeant take it as if you pursue her like many here.. see women think alike.
I know from personal experience that no matter how busy a women is, they always find time to text. We always have our phone on us or close by. Now I'm not saying that there's not women that are busy all day and don't mess with there phone. But the majority of us always have our phone out at different points of the day. I'm sure your friend saw your messages. Maybe she is just tired of texting you or maybe she thought that u was starting to get feelings for her and didn't feel the same way. Girls can be pretty cruel when it comes to texting. You can definitely tell when they don't want to talk to you
She may feel you want more than she is willing to offer and doesn't know how to politely tell you. I think its rude to act like that. But it's that or she found her someone who has her nose open and as soon as that doesn't work out she will be back with a long explainantion of what happened. Up to you to forgive and forget or forgive and say nice knowing you.
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She may be upset that she told you how important you are to her and how much she values you and all she got back in response was "happy holidays" but all together even if that does have something to do with it, the main reason she's not talking to you is the same reason a lot of people don't talk during the holidays: they HAVE to talk to so many people and it's draining and annoying and she just doesn't want to get into another conversation so she's not responding in order to not risk feeding a conversation she doesn't want to have to try to keep up.
That simple. Stop over analyzing everything and just chill. She'll text you when she's up for it."She texted me during the holidays saying that she is so grateful to have a friend like me" <<<< that says i all dude, she said FRIEND which means she doesn't like you the way you like her and she see's you like her and she is now probably feeling awkward... so when a girl ignores you it means she's not interested in a romantic relation.
As platonic friends it really should not bother you too much. At least you have a clue that she is okay and alive via instragram. Friends sometime have a change in priorities and while its rude not to respond I would not take it personal. I would wait until she contacts you and if she doesn't then you have your answer, the friendship is not what you thought.
If you didn't have feelings for her you wouldn't be wondering about this this much (as most men don't) + you wouldn't be posting such a long question about it here...
Anyways, I know that sometimes I hear a message come in, but I'm doing something else and have no time to check it, and afterwards I forget I got it so I don't reply until I see it.
OR I read it immediately, but then have to go back to work and forget to reply...She's not worth your time dude!! Just let it go... ;) If she comes around then great but otherwise just lay off. Have a good weekend :)
Are you sure you have no feelings for her because you're getting quite annoyed at the fact she isn't responding? If I had text/called someone and they didn't respond I wouldn't text/call them again, specially not in numerous occasions. Dont contact her again. leave her to it.
Umm... that's maybe because she doesn't want to contact u or she feels something unpleasant about u. I think she wants to finish up the friendship between u and her due to some reasons; like your bad behaviours or something she doesn't like you do to her, etc. But don't be stressed, she may also want to check your feeling so she makes no response to u.
she doesn't like you. she's not interested. she wishes to be left alone. move on.
i know that sucks, and will hurt, and will take time.. but you need to move on.
do not call her. she will simply make up an excuse as to why she hasn't messaged or replied to you, such as oh i dont like texting or you always text me while i'm busy, etc.
the truth is she doesn't like you. move on.say homie, I have to agree with what a lot of folks were saying down below. Either she really really likes the game of cat and mouse and you played real well, or she's not interested man and you just don't know how to get the hint. wish mail have to learn to be honest with ourselves and stop letting pride blind us. it's okay to be proud and all that shit. But too much pride will make you dick shrink.
They either have no interest or don't care, or there are busy. Could even be all three. The man is trying to hook up via text. It's just another part of pursuing the woman. So, if she is not replying via text, STOP TEXTING. Find another woman who is interested in you.
Your probably more into her than she is and it's like your putting all the effort. I know I don't respond sometimes if I'm unsure or something. But since it's not just once, I wouldn't say its good and maybe you should stop 'trying'. Putting all this effort because when you get nothing back its hurtful or like you said, irritating
Well calm down and take a breath it seems she has outgrew the friendship. She also most likely be with someone that may not want her having guy friends. In the mean time keep your mind busy with other things and you may hear from her when you least expect it.
I honestly wish I can give you an answer to this but trust me, I know how you feel and it is absolutely maddening! Chances are is that she was probably really busy during the holiday season, and I also wouldn't be surprised if she's still busy after the holidays as well. I suggest not communicating with her for the next couple of days and see what happens. Women not texting back (or people in general) is on my biggest pet peeves
I would be very annoyed if a friend kept texting me over and over again. Take a chill pill, you already know she appreciates you because she sent YOU the first text. Don't read so far into electronic interactions, focus more on how she acts when you are together, that's a truer measure of how she is
She might think that you like her in a romantic way. I would get a little irritated if a friend texted me again and again because I didn't answer. If you wish her a happy new year and she doesn't respond, then she doesn't deserve your friendship! You sound like a nice person that puts a lot of effort in to the friendship and she doesn't.
Some people just aren't texters. Sometimes it's because of the generation, other times it's just not their thing.
Then there's those who are ALWAYS texting and same thing, it's either a generation matter, or they're just the chatty types. :)Personally if I don't text a guy back its because he's texting too much, or I ain't into them some times its a little irrating texting all the time exp when you've nothing to say
maybe she's busy or she is dating someone else. When girls have a man they care about, they tend to ignore their male friends.
Or other than that, I have no clue.She's busy texting 5 other guys. Guys who don't want her. Meanwhile here you are all up on her shit. My advice is go no contact. Enjoy your life. Fuck worrying about people that will never appreciate you or want you back. Srs.
I think when she sent the nice message she was expecting a nice message back. She told you how important you were to her and all she got was a happy holidays text. To me I would feel like I didn't mean as much to you, as you did to me. I would apologize soon.
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