Do I have to feel guilty about friend zoning guys?

[Raila]

i have this friend i meet like 6 months ago and he ask me to date him like two weeks ago i turn him down my response was "i dont have felings for you" thats all, several days later he was kind of mad with me and i dont know how but he heard that another friend of mine was in the same position in December ( i friendzoned him too) so he pested me like i was mean to everybody and that i like to have friendzoned guys behind me or something , i just really dont want to date someone right now and im not gonna do it for half assed feelings of mine. do i have to feel guilt for these guys feelings?

yes

no

don't be too straight forward

[pr3ttybr0wn]

oh fucking well they will get over it. they can't get mad at you because you didn't want them. what real man tries to guilt trip a woman for not being with him? yea he is allowed to be disappointed but he needs to keep it inside, suck that shit up and move on. im sure there are plenty of women he doesn't want to date, should he feel guilty for not asking out every woman he knows? so why should you for not getting with him?

[Raila]

yeah you are right he was mad he have reasons for i think on the other side the guy i friendzoned in December is really kind we are almost the same as before just a little bit awkward, i think of him as a brother. so i have him as a "how they should act after asking me out and be rejected" kind of lol

[timeflies]

You shouldn't feel guilty. It better than actually forcing yourself to go on a date and giving them the idea that they have a chance. So yes straight forward was better because then your leading them on.

[9mfeo]

If you don't have feelings for them, why would you date them? People are not machines that you put friendship coins into until sex falls out. You don't owe anyone ANYTHING.

[Raila]

yeah i feel the same its just i am really honest with myself and with others too and when they (my new make friends) heard that i never had a boyfriend before just keep me asking to date them :/

[9mfeo]

If they're really your friends, they won't be upset that you're not attracted to them in that way.

And girl, I didn't have a boyfriend until I was almost 20 so don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.

[Raila]

thank you :)

[iAmNotSkilled1]

NO ! its ur freedom of choice. if u dont wanna date him its ur choice. I have friendzoned too many girls cuz i just dont wanna go out with them ! (And no , i am not gay , i am straigh) . I was not interested in any of them.

[Raila]

thanks ^^

[Curmudgeon]

So long as you are frank about it and do not lead them on, that is fine. Leading a fellow on, however, would be wrong.

[yourfriendforever]

Yeahh if
-your a jar of nutella
-The sole reason of you birth is to make everyone (guy) happy
I mean of course not
At least you let them know that you don't like them instead of just playing with their emotions
Be proud ☺

[Raila]

nutella huh.. now that's a compliment :) thanks

[yourfriendforever]

Your welcome like always and forever ;p 😊

[LauraMarx]

no lmao. It's perfectly normal and fine dw. I feel guilty about refusing people though :(

[Anpu23]

They have to own their own feelings. Would they rather you date them out of a sense of duty or pity? No if you're not feeling it, You're not feeling it.

[Raila]

ikr, thanks :)

[singlebee]

Nope... if you don't like them.. You don't needed to date then and Fell guilty about rejecting them... I thing those guys should not take rejection hard.. After all there are always more girls for them to go for...

[Keyspirits]

Nope. Its ur choice. If he was to be asked out by sumobe he doesn't like, im sure he will flatout reject her as well. Keep it real 👌

[badger25]

no but you gotta understand that if they are into you and you "friendzone" them that they will be upset and or disappointed

[evenlift]

Of course not.