Is my girlfriend losing interest?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my girlfriend now for 18 months and we have a house together, recently I've noticed a big change in her behavior, easily aggravated, she doesn't want to talk as much as we used to, when we sit down and watch TV she'll sit at the other end of the sofa even when I make an attempt to get closer she'll move back away. a usual half 5 finish at work seems to be about 6:30 - 6:45pm and she walks through the door around about 7.

I asked if she's OK, and if work was getting too much or getting her down but she said she was fine and just "tired" - I picked her up from a works party a few days ago which she said she'd only be out till around 9pm, and I finally get a call at half past midnight to go and collect her.

Then, a few nights ago in bed she admitted that a guy in work has been "Over-Flirting" with her, and the whole office had noticed it, she brushed it off with "I probably don't help though, lucky I've got a trusting boyfriend" - I just nodded and said I trust you, but I've got every possibility running through my head and its driving me crazy.

She's started wearing make up to work, painting her nails, (never happened until about 2 weeks ago) talking about a certain guy who the flirting has started with, a hell of a lot, and now catches the same bus with him to and from work every day.

I don't want to confront her, as it's all speculation and my mind is probably going crazy. Is my girlfriend losing interest?

Any advice anyone? Much appreciated!

[BigWhiteWolf87]

I hope you didn't take a mortgage out on the house & it's just a rental.

She's NOT cheating YET but she's considering it and/or leaving you. Her later times for showing up after work may be she is cheating already - she just isn't staying overnight

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First off if she wasn't, she'd have told this guy at work I AM TAKEN and asked him to respect that / leave her alone. If he couldn't, that's when a complaint to the manager / supervisor and if needed HR comes in.

Secondly if she wasn't interested she wouldn't be dolling herself up or worse taking the bus to and from work with him. Yes some could say it is the convience of the bus route but from the way you word it, it sounds like she wasn't doing this before.

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I'd do yourself a favour & get rid of her. If you can afford the house by yourself well it's a win / win. You got a house and got rid of a tramp.

[Anonymous]

That sounds bad, I'm sorry to say.

I don't know whether or not she's cheating on you. But I do know that she doesn't mind that the guy is flirting with her. Maybe even likes it or more. Starting to wear make up, catching the same bus... that's all for him. And even if she's not cheating on you, her doing all that for him and not her own boyfriend is a bad bad sign and is totally unfair to you.

She wants to look good for him and be near him (taking the same bus), but she doesn't want to be near you (pulling away on the couch)?

You can definitely confront her about that.

I don't know if she loves you still or not. She hasn't left you so it's hard to say. But something is definitely off.

[AlanHB]

Wow gee whiz. Your situation is not good.

Firstly, the good news. I don't think she's cheating on you. If she was she'd be coming home a lot later than 7pm. "Late night at the office honey?"

Secondly, the bad news. Your chick doesn't love you, or like you. She doesn't want you to touch her and she's finding every reason to keep out of the house to limit her time with you. She will leave you soon if you don't end it first.

Thirdly, she's looking for someone else, and it just may be "that guy". Chicks make a change in how they look when they're out to impress. If she doesn't usually dress like that for work, it's not keeping up appearances at the office, it's attracting a guy she likes.

So sorry matey.

[OlderAndWiser]

Just say to her, "Our relationship has changed recently and I am concerned. If you have become involved with someone else, I at least expect you to be honest wth me about it. And if that is not the cause, I expect you to be honest with me about whatever the reason is. Don't I deserve that much respect?"

[magiusX26]

she has started having an affair with the "flirting" guy. she has sort of subtlely told you she did too. likely the work party thing was they (him and her) took longer to finish the extra marital activity/ies they were participating in. said extra marital activity/ies are also likely why "tired" so much lately. the mood and distancing are likely the guilt stress and/or a percieved blaming of you, such as "he doesn't pay me as much attention so then when he (flirty guy) payed me this attention..."

[Vegasrunner]

Depends what you are trying to accomplish. If you're worried she's cheating on you just let her go. If you want her to regain her level of attraction back for you, you're going to have to remove your attention and introduce another women in the mix.

[spartan55]

Sounds like she's either on her way to cheating or already doing so. Start doing your recon and CSI work before you confront her.

[KrakenAttackin]

Women always tell on themselves. She is getting hot D from the guy at work, or she wants his hot D. Call her out, dump her (even though she will deny it), and move on. She doesn't respect you.

[kinggeorge007]

Bad news mate, bad news. Better clear things out in your end and make the exit favourable to you while you can.

[Anonymous]

honestly, yes. i do feel like she's losing interest...

you've already asked her about it. and her answer wasn't very confirming for the health of your relationship.

[OddBeMe]

Tl:dr

But if you’re asking, probably. Hear it up. FedEx her chocolates. Clean the house and have dinner ready. She’ll be all over you.

[Pyrofox]

Sounds like she's moving on already in my opinion.

[Sunssong]

You know this question is from over a year ago right?

[Jmmmfi4]

Doesn't sound good