Why Do I Get Attached Easily And/Or Fast?

[liveToDieAnotherDay]

I have this problem... I get attached easily/fast but it's not all the time and it's only certain people. So far it's only been guys ( I feel more attached to older guys around 19-25 for some reason) the older guys have been sexual online relationships (not as in dating relationships) where every night we'd message and if it didn't go that way for whaterver reason, I would panic and we'd end up fighting.

The guys 15-18 that I get attached to are usually but not limitted to cutters, people w/ depression.. etc., people who are kinda like me but it's not every single one of them just a certain few.

Any suggestions on how to help me and/or why I may be this way? How can I stop/fix myself?

[14114325]

Just a wild guess, you might not be in the most functional family, or at least you feel detached to your family or your real life friends in general, because you mentioned many of those relationships are online and that you are very eager for their affection/acceptance. The fact you prefer older guys might suggest that you are missing a father figure in your real life, or at least your insecurity.
Some people can argue that there is nothing wrong with that, but personally I don't think it's the healthiest way to live (been in your shoes, fixed it as well). Definitely try to build more intimate real-life relationships, the school is always a good place to start. Hang out with your friends more (make them if you don't have anyone close) or with family. Stop spending time on the Internet, go outside.

[liveToDieAnotherDay]

A very good guess... I don't live w/ my parents but I wouldn't call it functional when I did. Something happened when I was little between my dad and I and I'm not secure about myself. The relationships with the older guys were online. I don't mean to get attached... Sometimes I feel like I'm a n attention whore but I don't realize that I was being clingy and trying to be accepted until after the fact... I don't intentionally do it.

It's hard to find a guy/girl that I can be intimate w/ even though I would like that it's super hard to open up after being walked on and hurt so many times and I don't really talk that much and they just don't understand that... my ex girlfriend thought I didn't even want to talk to her even though I've told her countless times I just don't talk that much. I just want to be held in someones arms and cuddle for hours on end... /: ): I have one friend that our friendship is on a whole other level, but he is my sisters boyfriend so I'm not allowed to talk to him plus I don't

[liveToDieAnotherDay]

see him since he got sick and is now homeschooled. Also most of my friends are guys and I can't hang out w/ them b/c my aunt say's that guys only want one thing.

[14114325]

Do you live with your aunt now? Maybe turn to her for support? And I would agree with her for boys your age tbh. They usually turn out into something more than friendship.

[liveToDieAnotherDay]

Yeah. So far that hasn't happened.

[CluelessLauren]

Girls get attached easily also, so no worries there. Get out of your social shell, talk to cute guys who aren't cutters and that are out going. Just send a "Hey, how's it going?" and a ":)"

[liveToDieAnotherDay]

lolz I don't seem to be attracted to other guys but it's not like I look for guys who cut to date... they just usually are. It's hard when i don't talk much and i rarely open up, people don't give me a chance.